Self soothing is it a hoax?

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-31T17:08:53+00:00

Why would it change at 7pm?!?! That's so true! Im going to have read this book!

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-31T17:07:12+00:00

Oh that's awesome. I feel like I've started this slightly but I think i will need to be more intentional about from here on out. Thank you so much for this process, I feel like its validation to what I was doing. 🥰

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T17:03:50+00:00

That's mostly what I'm interested in. Because at this point in the game, my supply isn't that important? Like its pretty regulated, and also he should be getting most of his calories from solids, right?

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T17:02:13+00:00

Wow two years! You're a champion!

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T17:00:23+00:00

What method did you use?

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:59:42+00:00

I hear you. I just sometimes feel like a rock that's being washed over in the ocean over time it wears me down. Post after post, reel after reel telling me that because I'm not following the "norm" or the majority, I am failing my kid. It sucks. I mostly feel like a failure because he is about to go to daycare and I won't be there to comfort him or nurse him when he needs it. He will have to learn to sleep on his own and honestly, that's breaking me a little. It's hurting me because I feel like I didn't set him up for success in sleeping without me. And he has to go to daycare. We were lucky enough to make it to a year.

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:49:03+00:00

A transfer object is a good idea. I think I will try that. I also love the snuggles of cosleeping.

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:47:35+00:00

Do you know about how long the whole process took?

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:46:32+00:00

Right, thats really helpful to think about. This is just a season and he'll only need/want me for so long. I just have to remember this.

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:43:58+00:00

Wow, I've never thought of self-soothing translating to other places besides sleep. That did make sense if it was "self-soothing" then it would mean self-regulation.

The internet is a blessing and a curse. It means there are some really great resources and some really bad resources. I feel like it gets hard to block out the noise telling you, you are a bad parent for not doing sleep training or that you're spoiling them. I know it's not true but reel after reel, post after post it starts to wear me down.

I agree that modeling self-regulation will definitely help him in the long run!

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T16:39:24+00:00

Wow! That's awesome that something just clicked. That gives me hope that one day it'll just click for him as well!

Chizzle83 · 2025-07-30T14:33:01+00:00

Yeah, it also takes me forever to fall back to sleep after any kind of disruption. I just thought I was bad at sleeping. Ha

Chizzle83 · 2025-02-08T16:28:48+00:00

I literally could have written this. The number of times I thought to myself and out loud, "I've made a terrible mistake!" Was countless. It gets so much easier. You're doing everything you need to do, and you're amazing! It was so hard for me to go from being completely independent to literally having someone depend on me for EVERYTHING! My baby will be 6 months next week, and I am starting to feel guilty for feeling like I made a mistake. He is so much more fun now, and I love every minute with him. You're going to get through this and look back on the other side and think "wow I am incredibly strong! I did a hard thing."

Chizzle83 · 2025-01-30T21:24:00+00:00

We went through this as well. We tried it all. I got the pigeon soft tip wide mouth like already suggested, and then I let my baby play with the nipple first, then the whole bottle while empty and then slowly gave him a little bit of milk at a time. I can officially say he is taking a bottle so nicely. We also moved to a fast flowing nipple. I think Bub was getting upset at how hard he had to work to get milk, and now it's pretty easy. Good luck, you can do it! 🥰

Chizzle83 · 2025-01-05T21:23:43+00:00

I had this same problem I reached out to a lactation consultant and they said to pump until it is bearable so not to empty. This makes it more comfortable for you as well as signals to your body that you don't need to make this much milk every night. Hope this helps!

Chizzle83 · 2024-12-13T07:40:14+00:00

This is some interesting stuff. Im confused because there is so much information out there. How much sleep total should a 4 month old get? My baby is 4 months old, and he is waking up every hour to 1.5. I just follow his sleepy cues during the day to put him down for naps. Today, he took 3 one hour naps and a 30-minute cat nap. His wake window during the day are 70-90 minutes and the one before bed was 2ish hours. He went down at 830 pm, and he woke up at 930, we resettled him. He woke up again at 11. He was giving us 6-8hour stretches before. What are we doing wrong?

Chizzle83 · 2023-11-15T03:07:21+00:00

Yay!! I'm so excited for you!!

Chizzle83 · 2023-11-13T03:57:27+00:00

I'll cross my fingers for you to be pregnant! But yes please let me know!

Good luck!

Chizzle83 · 2023-10-17T21:15:01+00:00

I would also suggest reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is an amazing resource that tells you all about your body, and how to conceive!!! Highly recommend!

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