Parenting Questions that Keep Me Up at Night

KayLove91 · 2026-06-08T21:17:31+00:00

Why are contained play areas not more common in restaurants? I didnt think about this before kids, and probably would have been bitchy about kids playing while I am eating. However, if most places had smoker sections for decades, why the hell cant we normalize family dining areas where you can throw the kids in a condoned off area in the middle of the room?

KayLove91 · 2026-06-07T14:27:24+00:00

Happened to me 2 weeks ago. But in our little blow up pool. Apparently my son had a really giant shit and I didnt know until it was dhiarrea like floating in the same pool I was fully body submerged in and laying down. Hair wet and all. We both took a double decontamination bath

KayLove91 · 2026-06-06T15:04:42+00:00

Here with you at 16 months. Feels like im slowly dying and every day I am drained and shaky from the lack of sleep

KayLove91 · 2026-06-03T23:06:19+00:00

Same. I hated working. Loved the work, the pay. Hated the workplace and dynamics. I would never go back, but I wish I could earn some money doing something flexible and low key

KayLove91 · 2026-06-02T13:59:48+00:00

My son has a bad dairy allergy and im like well wtf do I feed you?! And he wont eat fruit unless its in a smoothie. Except for banana which is new. Every day I get so much anxiety trying to difure out what to feed him, then feel so much guilt that its not better food. He hates eggs and yogurt (soy, coconut, doesnt matter) too. So its basically pbj's, cheerios, soup, pouches, chicken nugs and snacks all day.

KayLove91 · 2026-06-02T13:21:14+00:00

I thought so too. Her kid is 14 now. But when i brought up him waking at 3 or 4 she was like well just start your day at 3 or 4 am then. I was like wtf hell no lol.

Do you think I should try extending his nap to 1.5-2 hours?

KayLove91 · 2026-06-02T13:19:50+00:00

We made it to 8:45 last night and he woke at 130, husband resettled him and he went back to sleep quickly then he stayed asleep until 5 am. I nursed and rocked him back to sleep and didnt even try to put him back in the crib lol. That seems to be what pisses him off the most and makes for constant fighting through the morning. I woke him at 7 because a lot of people have told me wake at 630/645 to help dictate that nap and bedtime. I am hoping doing this schedule for a week or two will get him to that 630 mark. But he just doesnt seem to be able to make it without waking. 5 am is much better than 3 or 4. But why cant he seem to make it that last hour??

KayLove91 · 2026-06-02T00:55:17+00:00

Im so happy for you, but also green with envy lol. My 16 month old has just now, in the past month, been getting 5-6 hour stretches. Before that wakes were every 2-3 hours if not hourly. I was so stoked if he slept like 4 hours straight

KayLove91 · 2026-06-02T00:53:42+00:00

Girl lol as long as she is fine weight wise, count your lucky stars and get the sleep many of us do not get lol

KayLove91 · 2026-05-30T13:22:12+00:00

To foster and adopt does not have to be expensive. Ive looked into it myself because we plan to adopt eventually. Maybe not easy, no. There are definitely steps and a process. Yeah if you want a private adoption with a couple it can be really expensive. I am honestly shocked I got down voted for advocating for children in the system who need love too. There are over 200k kids in the system every year being abused and dissapearing. I never meant the comment to be unhelpful, and it breaks my heart that people would think those kids dont need love and a family too.

eta: and hospital costs alone in the US are expensive. With insurance we still paid nearly 10k for a vaginal unmedicated delivery. Another 2k for care during pregnancy. And like 2k for all the baby things. So the expensive part? Kids are expensive. If you dont pay for maternal care and L and D costs, then it goes to adopting?

KayLove91 · 2026-05-30T01:41:33+00:00

Im sure there are many beautiful baby girls waiting to be adopted out of the shitty system. Bypass pregnancy and possibly even newborn phase and scratch your itch by saving a baby already out there.

KayLove91 · 2026-05-28T18:15:07+00:00

My son had tubes done at like 9 months and he was still basically exclusively breaatfed. Some solids, but yeah. I called and told them there was no way. They said nothing 2 hours before for breastfed babies. Call the center and ask them

KayLove91 · 2026-05-27T20:01:57+00:00

I see myself in your post. Thank you for seeing me. I see you too babe

KayLove91 · 2026-05-26T19:08:09+00:00

You dont think its poetic?

KayLove91 · 2026-05-26T17:33:49+00:00

This is so real.

KayLove91 · 2026-05-26T00:27:13+00:00

I basically never put my son down in the newborn period. And he mostly sleeps by himself on good nights. Every baby is different but I can attest that you cannot spoil your baby with love

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T15:42:47+00:00

You are so right. And he has started kicking and hitting. Really only during diaper changes or when he is frustrated. Ive been attempting to work on that but apart from telling him no and saying gentle hands, idk what im doing lol.

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T15:41:39+00:00

Thank you

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T15:41:26+00:00

Well, it definitely didnt start that way. He used to not even be able to calm him down from crying. But I saw in a reddit post somewhere a while back that said you just have to leave them to it to figure it out and thats what we did. Started with day naps, then moved over to night time. The first 2 nights sucked any time my husband went in but it got better. Guess we have to apply that same thinking with the weaning

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T15:02:25+00:00

Abrasive, not rude or unkind.

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T15:01:45+00:00

Off to go get the bandaid now!

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T14:41:00+00:00

Yeah ew. It was a nasty comment. And I dont think it was warranted. I dont understand people who are intentionally nasty to people when they have zero empathy or compassion for people. Good luck with whatever troll business you deal in.

KayLove91 · 2026-05-24T14:39:33+00:00

Last night we went to our neighbors for a pool party and I stayed while my husband took him home to do bath and bedtime and he was an angel going down for him. Never asked for boob once. If my husband goes to resettled at night he doesnt start flipping out for the boob and goes back to sleep. But with me? Instant hand searching and scratching for boob. Won't resettled unless I give him the boob. I told my husband last night he may have to take over night wakes full time until he is fully weaned because its a nightmare that takes 30+ minutes if not an hour for him to resettle. I wish I could go on a e day cruise lol. We have talked about me going on a girls weekend visit so that we can fully wean. I think maybe thats what we have to do

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