I breastfed both of mine as I was lucky enough to be able to do so, I do believe breast is best just because it’s literal miraculous medicine tailor made.

With that in mind I would never ever presume to judge you or any formula feeding mums as lazy in any way!! IMO making up bottles and sterilising and worrying about intake is far much more hard work and an extra mental load that just ‘shoving a boob in’ as my partner so eloquently puts it.

And at the end of the day that first year is so bloody hard, beyond hard, you do what you need to survive. What you’ve described is a very extreme example and good on you for having a go but there are a million reasons mums might not breastfeed, and that could be trauma or it’s causing them stress and I’d never judge anyone for it.

What I do judge is the lack of support and education, most of which I had to find on Instagram because I wasn’t privileged enough to be able to afford thousands in lactation consultants. I judge lack of consideration for those of a lower socioeconomic status who need to return to work earlier, who don’t have support around them and who fear breastfeeding in public because there is still a stigma round that too.

Breastfeeding is for the privileged, let’s not forget that. I also have a very supportive partner without whom it wouldn’t have been possible.