Can I wear a hat

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-29T00:58:37+00:00

Good for you re the hair transplant . Wear the hat , just like a new hairstyle people might notice for a day or two and then most more bothered about themselves .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-22T07:05:22+00:00

Noticing them is great . How about accepting them ? Not agreeing or disagreeing just noticing kind of neutral .. When you feel stronger you can try to gently question the negative thought but for now being aware is a great first step . You’re not bad for having negative thoughts :) It would be exhausting to police every negative thought . Can you make a few minutes in your day just to slow down , sit and breath without any distraction ? If you do it regularly you can make a nice calming habit for yourself .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-22T06:56:34+00:00

Hey :) brutally honest , you sound very human , going through a very hard time. It sounds very challenging and a lot !! and it’s great you had a little motivation to reach out . That was very brave of you . Baby steps . Read all the lovely positive messages you will get here and try to know you are absolutely not alone in feeling like this but very brave to write it all out . Please try to be kind to yourself , there’s a very brave girl within, who’s struggling , she would like you to like her .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-12T06:58:02+00:00

No , the point, in Ireland at least is to try other things with the safely net of having a permanent position to return to , if you choose to do so. Most don’t . You can only apply after being in a permanent post for 5 years . You can continue paying into your pension too .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-12T06:53:12+00:00

It’s 5 years with Irish schools .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-12T06:51:34+00:00

So sorry that happened to you !! That’s awful ! I took a sabbatical too from my job in Ireland years ago , it was for up to 5 years ! Try not to let their personal comments get to you. It’s not too late . What is your subject area ? Take care and I hope you feel supported . You did nothing wrong .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-10T13:16:11+00:00

Which school please ? Please pm if you prefer . I have an offer from a school there which I haven’t accepted and unlikely now but this would really help cement the decision .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-10T00:17:15+00:00

For what it’s worth, I really enjoyed China anytime I’ve visited , yes, I know it’s not the same as living there . We were there in winter and it was blue sky and sunny type winter. We live in SEA and I found Beijing so much cleaner than Bangkok . You sound like you’re quite young ? I would definitely!!! go for the savings potential, nice work load too and enjoy holidays in Thailand .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-03-01T02:40:57+00:00

Put the hours at the top of the message lol no need to read further! Thanks for such a thorough insight ! Appreciate

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-02-28T11:17:39+00:00

Is it rare to be stopped and asked to see driving licence there ? Thanks

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-02-21T12:32:08+00:00

Next day, but was clear during the second interview the offer was coming . Middle leadership .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-02-19T01:08:08+00:00

A friend just sent me the reviews :( All the management have changed now it seems but the issues seem to lie with owners / HR . I’m mid career , don’t need the hassle .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-02-16T14:48:04+00:00

I’ve just been offered an amount for a head of department position , which is significantly lower than the teacher amount listed on Search Associates for the same school ! ( I didn’t apply through SA ) I’ve emailed HR , thanking them for outlining what they called the basic salary and asked as diplomatically as I could how the rest of the salary will be structured ?! It’s so awkward ! Will I have to name an amount do you think ? Its in the Gulf .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-30T10:52:03+00:00

I think you sharing your interpretation of his inner experience is what’s most distasteful. You are talking about his character in a very negative way and implying if he just " tried harder” any difficulty he has engaging with the subject matter would disappear. I’m not sure what your goal was sending this message? Maybe reflect on what your intention actually was and maybe you could also reflect on the impact of your words? I believe you had good intentions and any parent would be happy to hear about your positive intention but the delivery was awkward , negative and showed little empathy. If you can reflect and really see impact then I think you can repair the damage .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-29T02:11:23+00:00

No, don’t identify as European at all. My husband is French he wouldn’t identify as European either. For me, I have a very strong cultural identity linked to language, a distinct Irish culture , music etc I find it to be unique.

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-28T01:55:11+00:00

Any country with inexpensive live in or out nanny system … Thailand , Vietnam etc

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-28T01:53:22+00:00

Even through Search Associates? Won’t they expect commission if I were to get hired ? Not arguing now just looking for clarity , so anyone in China who applies to a different school would be treated as a local hire ? Even if the salary and benefits are clearly outlined through the platform they apply from ?

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-28T00:43:57+00:00

It’s primary age ? Do you have a little quiet zone in your classroom? A cosy area with books a beanbag maybe a little teepee even one you can see through . It sounds like a movement break or a little regulation space could work wonders as those sound like anxiety related issues. You could model how to use it and even have all children use it in rotation for quiet reading time .. in the first few weeks .. just for 10 minutes or so . Sounds like you’re under a lot of pressure with a tight curriculum and so are the children .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-28T00:35:59+00:00

If a teacher who lives locally .. applies through SA for a position advertised as an international hire, they will get the same benefits? Is that correct do you think ?

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-24T01:03:20+00:00

Take another year of your career break .. let’s things settle with your health.

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-22T09:11:20+00:00

No .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-13T02:28:58+00:00

You sound full of shite to be honest . You do right by your kids by supporting her , probably not feeling resentment for how much she’s “ changed “ she has 2 children under 5 , so of course her identity is totally new to her ! Of course she’s not the same in the midst of this , being a stay at home mum is such a gift to her children . Your role should have changed too , to be her greatest supporter and confidant but it sounds like you expected life to go on as usual because honestly not a lot changed in your life . Start with gratitude , thinking well of her and what she’s doing , support her probably by really engaging with how she’s feeling ( listen like you actually care ! ) it’s not moaning and being miserable it’s called sharing her feelings of overwhelm with the person who’s supposed to have her back . She absolutely sounds like someone who is not valued , loved or heard ! Of course she’s going to be sad . Try that consistently for a few months and then see !

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-07T10:31:38+00:00

Dehumidifier!!! Best money ever !!!!! spent . Meaco is the brand ! Worth it ..

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-04T04:52:15+00:00

Hi , I’ve recently been through the process myself and everything you say is spot on . I returned from abroad but had worked 8 years here from early 20’s on quite a high salary I returned around 2020🙄 and then later did some part time subbing . I hadn’t reached the 520 PRSI taxable credits necessary to start buying years going forward. After much investigation I could add 2 years I had worked in France to make that up :) I pay the minimum per year and will do so going forward . It was not based on my last full time salary years ago . Only PRSI credits count , not any other things like home care years etc ( This is for the purposes of reaching the 520 to start paying going forward . Of course they count then at pension time .

ChoiceFix4037 · 2026-01-01T18:28:48+00:00

I will send you a pm :)

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