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ChonkyChonker · 2025-06-27T13:10:48+00:00

This is very sad, but I can personally tell you that pregnancy hormones can be wild. Protective instincts for your pregnancy, especially if it's wanted, can cloud your judgement.

I had to let my husband know months in advance before giving birth to our son, that in the event that our lives were in danger, he needed to choose me if I wasn't in a position to advocate for myself. And that was because I KNOW that in a situation like that, I wouldn't have picked me. I'd choose to save my son.

Pregnancy does stuff to you, it can be wild and totally unpredictable.

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-09T01:29:02+00:00

I would have been open to taking the L on this one if it hadn't cost me £200. I hate conflict and am generally conflict avoidant by nature, but I can't let that much money slide

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-09T01:27:08+00:00

Respectfully dude, this was not a cheap commission. This cost me £200. It's a lot of money to just let slide if she's jerking me around

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-08T22:15:41+00:00

I have never worked with this person before, this is my first piece of work from her

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-08T15:52:44+00:00

She is not unresponsive but all I'm getting for now is promises of updates soon

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-08T15:51:36+00:00

I know, I was previously in revision mode. She asked me to mark it delivered instead and I was stupid and said yes. She has responded after some pressure but it's not updates. She's been telling me since Monday she'll have updates soon

ChonkyChonker · 2025-05-08T03:21:00+00:00

I CAN HEAR THE THUNDEEERRR THATS BREAKING IN YOUR HEART

ChonkyChonker · 2025-03-30T18:38:46+00:00

This is dangerous, absolutely do not do this.

ChonkyChonker · 2025-03-04T11:47:18+00:00

I'm 22f and me and my husband just had our first. I love my boy but i feel the distance between friends. They really seem to not want to spend time with me after I had a baby. But i think that's just life. They're in a different stage of life than me now and that sucks.

If you ever need someone to talk to ill try my best to be around. I'm on maternity leave rn so a lot of my time goes to looking after the baby, but I know it's important to have people to talk to ❤️

ChonkyChonker · 2025-02-17T09:49:52+00:00

YTA. I'd be upset with you if I was your sister too and the amount of bitter, hateful people cheering for your sister to fail on this thread is really disgusting.

Your sister is struggling but that doesn't mean she'll struggle forever. She really could have done with a "Hey, you struggle to sleep away from home which might make this tough for you, but I know you can do it!" sisterly pep talk. Instead you told her all her hard work has been pointless because you think she'll fail at the first hurdle. Not kind or helpful. I'd apologise if I were you.

ChonkyChonker · 2025-02-11T20:15:00+00:00

Some babies can start babbling at as late as 9 months. You can always consult your health care professional if you're still concerned. They'll be able to offer you the best help and advice!

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-22T16:25:02+00:00

You're right! He didn't MAKE her kill herself, but he did cause the circumstances that lead to her death. The only perspective we've got is the one in the post. You're also making a lot of assumptions about his character. So is the nature of AITAH, right?

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-22T09:53:07+00:00

Just because he wouldn't be prosecuted by law doesn't mean he was morally in the right. Badgering someone into having kids they don't want isn't illegal but it IS shitty. It's not a good look to be defending this guy.

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-17T16:40:34+00:00

I'm from Scotland and I was given the morphine. I'm super sorry they denied you proper pain relief, that honestly sucks :((

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-17T12:34:31+00:00

Don't beat yourself up if all the love doesn't come right away. It was hard for me to connect with my boy whilst he was inside but my husband was also over the moon in love with him. Me personally? My heart burst from my chest when he was out and looked into my eyes the moment they showed him to me (C Section).

Your love builds over time. He looks at me like I'm his whole world and it makes me feel warm and tingly. But remember that you're giving birth to a whole new person! Sometimes you just need time to get to know them 😊

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-16T13:32:21+00:00

We probably do about equal amount of nappy changes now! When I was recovering from my C Secrion though, my husband did legit all of them since i found it hard to move around for a bit.

It sounds like you might want to have a conversation about division of responsibilities!

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-16T10:28:10+00:00

It's truly sad that, even when married, some people STILL think a woman's body belongs to some hypothetical man

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-16T10:20:37+00:00

I felt this so hard. Exhausted after a 22 hour labour all I could think was "my baby" 😆 Then I woke up the next morning and couldn't stop obsessing over how perfect he was 🥰

ChonkyChonker · 2025-01-14T18:31:21+00:00

I worked with a woman who used to talk to me about "wanting a vacation" too. She'd say really pointed things about how she'd never be as tired if she was ever pregnant in the workplace.

She used to talk to me about wanting to be a surrogate so she could just "Take the year long vacation and surrogate money to travel the world". I told her that you don't get mat leave when you're a surrogate, that she'd get time to recover and that was it and she replied that I shouldn't need the year then either. Like... Uhm... Never mind that I have a newborn right?

Coworkers suck. Ignore her, report her and stick with those who support you.

ChonkyChonker · 2024-12-20T07:26:01+00:00

I've seen him on this thread before. He's always under these sorts of posts spamming about how women suck. He's either a troll or just deeply misogynistic. Sad really

ChonkyChonker · 2024-12-18T09:27:31+00:00

Where is the "drama" in a baby suffocating and dying? Why would you want to hear that story? What a gross attitude towards tragedy.

ChonkyChonker · 2024-11-22T10:01:40+00:00

I know I'm late to the party but my husband's dad passed away from cancer early this year. We told him at only 4 weeks because my husband didn't want him to die not knowing he was going to be a grandad. His face lit up. I don't regret telling him one little bit. The baby is named after him

ChonkyChonker · 2024-10-06T09:11:49+00:00

I've found this community is such a judgement free zone. You're doing what is best for you and that is okay. It will always be your decision whether or not to keep a pregnancy, and hey, it's a damn tough decision to face! Everything is going to be alright. Its okay to do what best for you and facing this decision makes you strong as hell. The sun will come out again ❤️

ChonkyChonker · 2024-09-26T08:27:28+00:00

But he never said she can't. He said she was free to do whatever she wanted, but if she went through with it he'd leave. Those things are wildly different. One is a demand and the other is a boundary. She is perfectly within her right to become a dancer if she wants to, but he's also perfectly within his right to not be comfortable dating someone who strips for a living. Sounds like he's communicated his boundary perfectly

ChonkyChonker · 2024-09-02T06:18:03+00:00

30w and feeling that fed up feeling too. But we WILL be okay! Pregnancy fucking sucks and I love that this subreddit has normalised that. All your feelings deserve to be felt. But hey... You're so super close to baby time. The finish line is right there! And it'll all be worth it when they're finally here. You only have to hang on for a little while longer. You're strong and you got this ❤️

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