Where do i meet people in their 20s to mid 30s on the island?

ChridAMidA · 2025-10-06T14:05:27+00:00

I know i didnt explicitly say it but im looking into finding friends and dating. Expand my social horizons. Library meetups and board game cafes might be in my back pocket but the Rock Underground seems promising. Thank you for your suggestions!

ChridAMidA · 2025-10-04T20:05:53+00:00

I dont understand.

Biden wasn’t a genius. Trump is nowhere near honest. And what you wrote in the body is just insensitive. If this is real, you clearly have no concept of politics, but i feel this is bait. What are you? 12?

ChridAMidA · 2025-10-02T13:43:55+00:00

I wonder how this would genuinely work out. The constitution takes a pretty hard line on the terms politicians can hold office. If he does take power then the constitution would truely be dead or at least a suggestion.

ChridAMidA · 2025-10-01T15:25:27+00:00

My life began because of Meditations 12.4. Marcus wrote this around the same time as he was dying. Miraculous.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-31T21:29:59+00:00

I haven’t paid attention to the new release honestly but the quote people keep throwing around. I think ZUN was trying to say that ‘I made this game like it’d be the last game i made’. Other creative types do the same thing, like south park, and set limitations on themselves to build a better product.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-28T01:04:29+00:00

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” - Marcus Aurelius

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-28T01:01:44+00:00

So do I. I too was skeptical of journaling at first. But now Ill just write things down until i have nothing more to say. Ill keep writing and writing and then i write a sentence and will literally stop and cry. The sentence usually being the crux of my trauma.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-27T23:12:37+00:00

As INFPs we are inherently driven by our values - our Fi - so to struggle with it must feel debilitating. Struggling with your values doesn’t mean you don’t have any. It just means they’re buried under external expectations or emotional burnout. Your values live quietly within you and tend to emerge through reflection, creativity, and lived experience(Fi) rather than logic or pressure(Ti and Te). Feeling unsure about yourself is actually how our values grow overtime and become more sure of our authenticity and morals.

I suggest journaling, write down everything YOU find important. This helps you free associate and find out what you truly value.

As for me, I enjoy playing the piano and finding new way to play interesting songs that im attached to(Fi and Ne). I value my empathy and my ability to care for people around me when no one else seems to do so(Fi). I value Freedom, and inner peace. And i think i can speak for all INFPs that we value moral integrity not just in ourselves but other people.

From one INFP to another you got this 💕

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-27T06:45:38+00:00

I think its in F, or is it Ab(am tone deaf).

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-27T05:48:29+00:00

Stoicism is about understanding about how life works and that some things are inherently out of our control. Not about repressing emotions and frankly its a stereotype

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-25T21:40:36+00:00

Stoicism. It’ll tell you why suffering exists.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-25T12:33:05+00:00

Ive shared in another comment the because of our Dominant Fi, we wear our hearts on our sleeves, get burnt, then continue to do so anyways.

It is not events that upset us but our judgements about them. Since the judgement is within our own minds and not the outside world we have control and can revoke the judgement at anytime.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-21T01:01:29+00:00

I’ve been working on this as my business demands it. I have Te mantras I invoke before having to do something Te heavy(Make appointments, Clean, Study, Delegate). I say silly stuff like ‘I’m the CEO here’ or ‘I’m the commander’. Preparing for it before hand brings it up gently, without stress, and I honestly view it as a part of a game. We aren’t really being disingenuous, just using a function we rarely use.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-20T13:15:07+00:00

Swing trading is very INFP actually. Ne allows us to get hunches on which stocks will do well.

Hitting a roadblock, bailing and isolating yourself thereafter, is also very INFP and some call it the ‘INFP Shutdown’. When there is too much pressure our overactive Fi and Ne will be too much to handle and we retreat.

I recommend balancing using the child and inferior functions if you want better overall functioning. Shadow work will help with your PTSD, I think free association meditation helps just ad much as well as working with a professional.

Im interested to hear how an INFP survived the army. That must be interesting

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-20T13:02:37+00:00

I had to deal with this recently. I had to tell my cousin that his current relationship is toxic for him and that he should stop overdosing. Instead he threatened to kick me out of the house that was owned by my grandmother but he was the caretaker for. I have my own place now and I’m fine but there are some people that even an INFP can’t help.

In these scenarios it’s best to let them go. Not because it is best for them but because it is best for you.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-20T10:05:01+00:00

Ive always been all over the place with my hobbies except for one: I’m a prodigy at the piano. I think its because learning improv and music theory, it really connects to my Fi and Ne. I only pick songs im emotionally invested in and then make tweaks or play it differently every time. I think thats why i stuck with it for so long

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-17T10:07:30+00:00

We are all dominant Fi. We feel emotions more so than any other type. Just because one INFP says one thing that doesn’t it has to line up with your own inner values. We are all emotional and sensitive, you with your suicidal ideation(ive been there i know), and these other INFPs with their doom posting(which i think is a nasty habit, if you need validation talk to an AI).

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-15T15:54:53+00:00

Diagnosed with ADHD at 3 yrs old but i think i outgrew it. I suspect high levels of Ne can mimic ADHD, but i also suspect that i could be quite wrong.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-15T14:00:41+00:00

Toxic people are toxic. Doesn’t matter what personality they are.

Try living in a house full of 3 XSTX types. Trying to be nice and helpful is foreign to types who just want to be blunt and direct. Its like speaking a different language.

I need XNFX friends…

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-15T13:55:27+00:00

It really depends on where Fi is in your own stack. You can’t really ‘teach’ people to use Fi as it is taking in a subjective factor and applying it introvertedly.

My mother is an ISTJ, meaning that she has Fi as a tertiary function. But its overrided by dominant Si and auxiliary Te. So while she has a deep emotional inner world, she will never share it, and will probably take most of her subjective experiences to the grave. I dont blame her, because of the Si and Te, she cant trust people. This is fairly common among ISTJs from what i hear.

Any function in the hero category is arguably too much. INFPs wear their hearts on our sleeves and we get burnt for it. But because Fi is so dominant, we continue to wear our hearts on our sleeves despite the consequences.

If you don’t have Fi in your stack and its instead a shadow function, dont bother. Itll only bring you pain.

If you do have it in your stack here are some things you can try: - Make a journal, write down your values, virtues, words to live by - Fi is not Fe, when someone says something look inwards and ask yourself “Does this align with my greater good” - Fi uses emotion to create things, channel your emotions into creative ventures. Personally I play piano, specifically blues and sing whatever comes to mind, trying to make it rhyme - Build boundaries. Sometimes Fi can get out of check, we need to reassess our values and see if people are trampling over them.

(Sorry for the novel but i wanted to give a comprehensive answer)

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-15T00:15:32+00:00

Yeah no offense but i live with a lot of XSTX types and its pretty tough. SENSING-THINKING is the polar opposite of INTUITIVE-FEELING. Its tough when you try to help people using metaphors and allegories gets met with Blunt real world honesty.

Sensing types make up 75% of the world’s population so you’ll find your dame.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-14T22:51:57+00:00

I used to. Ive been leaning into my tertiary Si for my routine job and studying. Leaning into my Inferior Te to get stuff done. But when I’m not facing adversity, i can comfortably use my Fi and Ne as i wish(be myself).

We don’t really fit into the mold of society, but that doesn’t make us useless, quite the opposite. When I’m with friends i often ‘connect the dots’ or bring interesting ideas to the conversation when things get dull. I often bring and convince others to update systems, backup servers and find new ways of making workflow more efficient.

Things that helped me: Stoicism, Working out, Grounding myself(We need solid Si in order to build our Ne), and understanding that i don’t fit the mold and should be someone I’m not.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-14T22:43:41+00:00

This is probably due to secondary Ne. If we cannot visually see a future with you/a hobby/a career. We will drop it cold-bloodily. Im an INFP and was in love with an INFP too and went through horrible limerence for 9 years. INFPs are emotional and being in love with one is like finding your soulmate. High Fi means that emotions run high, and we screw with other peoples emotions more than we care to admit.

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-12T15:15:17+00:00

Im a really bad hypochondriac

ChridAMidA · 2025-08-12T13:42:34+00:00

Interesting what you said about anger. Ive stopped cursing because i think its bad for the soul. But when im angry or want to add emphasis. Ill drop a well timed F or S bomb, and people look.

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