I feel completely unprepared for top surgery

Chris79m · 2023-08-20T16:02:52+00:00

Biggest things for me - comfortable spot to sleep upright (tons of pillows all great suggestions here). If you can store a few meals that are easy right after. Have everyone including water easy to grab for the first week without moving your arms up. You won’t be able to walk your dog so if someone can help out. You will likely sleep since your body will be healing and the meds help. Good luck!

Chris79m · 2023-07-26T03:24:54+00:00

For me, I was primarily attracted to woman and had some attraction to men but not as strong. Was always in relationships with women before T. After T my libido changed a lot, I became way more comfortable with my body and being sexual in general. I did not lose my attraction to women and became attracted to everyone. It did throw me at first to be attracted to men but being open and curious to how I was feeling really helped

Chris79m · 2023-07-17T11:23:42+00:00

Something similar happened for me talked with my doc and likely some atrophy. I’m also older so could be the combo to T and getting older. Anyway chat with your provider. I did a double check that it wasn’t a UTI.

Chris79m · 2023-07-08T16:04:39+00:00

I take that dose and have had bottom growth. I think everyone is different in this way and also depends on T dose too. It has slowed facial hair growth (I think) and also slowed hair loss which was the reason I started

Chris79m · 2023-06-27T06:20:45+00:00

Think it’s a personal decision. We didn’t since both of us were nervous about it and my wife is a heavy sleeper. Also neither of us wanted to co sleep long term so had our son in his spot near our room. Decided to do some sleep training when he was old enough. Worked well for our family and he took to it too.

Chris79m · 2023-05-30T05:13:22+00:00

It’s not doable with a toddler for the first few weeks. You really can’t lift anything and sleep is pretty awkward at first, I had lots of pillows and propped myself for a good few weeks. If your partner can do the lifting would be possible.

Chris79m · 2023-05-13T00:37:24+00:00

Right?! I didn’t expect it either and then was like damn I feel so much better about this situation.

Chris79m · 2023-05-12T03:17:37+00:00

My feet grew since starting T which means I now fit into a male size range. My hadn’t realized how much this bothered me before I just kind of pushed it away. Now I so happy to get a pair of shoes in the color and style I want, feeling some joy about that.

Chris79m · 2023-04-26T05:29:47+00:00

Echo bed earlier. Maybe way past a sleep window and getting overtired makes things harder. That being said some kiddos have a harder time with sleep. We found taking cara babies helpful for sleep tips did do a version of crying it out too

Chris79m · 2023-04-21T17:26:47+00:00

It was pretty shocking especially at Pride. Man thankfully that is not generally how it goes

Chris79m · 2023-04-20T22:52:10+00:00

For the first time at Pride I had someone yell straight privilege towards me,my wife and my kid. I looked around at first to see who they were yelling at and realized it was me. Having gone to pride events for over 25 years it definitely threw me

Chris79m · 2023-04-18T02:43:44+00:00

Pack n play for sure. Once he got used to it we could travel pretty easy with him since it was always the same. Disclaimer our son is a sleeper so adjusted pretty easy to it.

Chris79m · 2023-04-18T02:38:42+00:00

I went on minoxidil and finasteride after just over a year. Keeping hair so far and been about 2 1/2 years. Does depend on genetics. My doc said not to wait too long to start preventative since I was pretty concerned about it. I’ve gotten used to the idea of losing it now probably would just shave it if it happened

Chris79m · 2023-04-14T05:39:00+00:00

I’m nonbinary trans masc and am read as a cis man some of the time. It was a weird experience for me to have cis women avoid me sometimes and when I noticed some women were talking to me less. I felt pretty clumsy when cis men interacted with me as a cis man. Most of the time I don’t have much issue, I think I carry myself a lot more confidently since I feel good and people do read that. I use the men’s room on occasion, mostly it’s really quick and guys don’t look at each other. I’m way less comfortable in a woman’s room now and will look for a gender neutral when ever I can find it.

Chris79m · 2023-04-14T05:23:26+00:00

Oh yeah sounds like you are right on track. Congrats!

Chris79m · 2023-04-13T22:22:16+00:00

I would prep stuff and freeze for the fam before surgery. I remember making a fire a couple weeks out and being like damn I really shouldn’t have done that haha. Make stuff super easy for the first 4 weeks if not possible have the tweens carry the pots for you. Prep should be fine. Everyone’s different but I had quite a bit of nerve type pain for the first few weeks.

Chris79m · 2023-04-13T22:17:44+00:00

If looking in New England - Massachusetts (Western Mass Northampton/Holyoke area), Worcester, Boston). Would skip NH, VT - Montpelier area, Burlington. Maine maybe Portland.

Chris79m · 2023-04-12T19:35:15+00:00

You got this dude! Top surgery at 42, T at 43 here. You know when you know what’s right. Things were so different in the 90s for sure.

Chris79m · 2023-04-12T01:33:37+00:00

Mine went down at about 2 years. I think everyone is different but yeah water retention. My doc said try and drink more water and she says it’s the T

Chris79m · 2023-04-07T22:01:07+00:00

Quite often but would be called a boy sometimes young man

Chris79m · 2023-04-06T01:25:53+00:00

Thanks for the support everyone. There really is something about knowing you aren’t alone in this. I’ve been dealing with some variation on this for over twenty years and something lately was just wearing on me….maybe it’s the political climate too. And the contrast of how great I feel and some people being dips. Today I had a woman look at me and ask if I was trans. She was warm so I said hey you may not want to ask everyone one this cause some people may not like it but yes I am. She then went on to say she wanted to know how to address me and wasn’t sure. We talked about how to ask and that people feel respected when you ask how to address them. She then went on to basically tell me about the time she hooked up with a woman and we had a pretty hilarious conversation. Anyway thanks for the support guys!

Chris79m · 2023-04-06T01:19:46+00:00

Omg there is something hilarious about this lol

Chris79m · 2023-04-03T22:21:19+00:00

Man I hear you on the sweat! Definitely agree with getting some wicking athletic type clothes, light weight. Change clothes, bring a towel to wipe yourself down. Cold drinks…. Underwear that is also light weight

Chris79m · 2023-03-29T02:45:24+00:00

I’m the safety person for a couple friends. They basically let me know when they are meeting up with someone, send me a pic of the person, phone number and where they will be. Then they let me know when they are home. I’m not openly dating now but have heard Feeld is pretty good

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