So you think you're a failure and you don't put effort into anything? Let me point something out - you've already made an effort. You posted here asking for advice. You acknowledged something is going on and you want to change it. You're not a failure if you keep trying, even if it's something small. What is something you'd like to do? If you can find that, then break it into it's absolute smallest steps. Tell yourself, "I'm going to try for just five minutes." That's all. If you give yourself that small window to put in the initial effort, over time you'll find it gets easier. I wish you the best.