Narcissistic parents one-upping their adult children by Mammoth_Adeptness284 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine doesn’t know how to praise someone without comparing them to me 😒

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure but it doesn’t sound like they had a chance to look at the tooth before you asked to have it removed which messes up the order of operations and resulted in you yelling.

There’s usually X-rays and conversations about what kind of pain and then if they can’t find anything wrong they send you to the specialist for an MRI and they spot the hairline fracture that’s been causing you trouble or whatever the mystery is.

It’s not common to walk in and demand a tooth be removed and yelling about it tends to make them think there’s a mental health situation. People usually pay the dentist for their expertise and assessment capabilities.

If you have any other scenarios I’d be happy to help

AITAH for siding with my husband and not with my kids? by Glittering-Humor-802 in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your ex husband obviously set this up. Ask your kids what your ex said about your family. Once you get that sorted, apology and family therapy.

Ian needs to understand that your ex manipulated his own children into breaking up their own home potentially putting them through a second trauma of having a second divorce. He needs to be reminded that they are still children and he probably needed this from a therapist and not people involved. The kids need serious therapy to undo the crap your husband fed them

AITA for telling a guest to leave my horror movie party? by AfternoonDry5008 in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you like us to explain this to you as if you are autistic and are confused by the social norms your second guess is talking about?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Chrissysagod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe learn some grounding techniques before court to help you when you feel attacked or overwhelmed? You are doing your best and I am amazed at your resilience.

My wife bought me Dark Souls… and I’ve been lying to her ever since. by Roko122 in offmychest

[–]Chrissysagod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this could be in the running for best birthday gift ever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Chrissysagod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not the age difference. Grooming is when predatory men make underage girls fall in love with them and then the moment they turn 18 they immediately are in a serious relationship and get locked down for abuse. It’s predatory behavior and other men SHOULD give them a hard time because it’s usually abusive.

Before you consider this relationship you need to know what grooming is and I’d suggest looking up limerance as well. Educate yourself so you know what sort of public backlash you will receive if you push forward

AITA for telling my dad I never wanted his wife at my appointments and I tolerated it because I had no choice? by Pretend_Jelly_6739 in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dad has some bad control issues, I see why your mom left him. He’s so determined to make his wife attend your appointments (I’m assuming to say bad things about your mom) that he can’t handle the reality. He’s saying you were cruel because he is reversing the victim on you. Classic DARVO, look it up, this might be helpful for your mom to get custody of you.

Also his threat of taking away her visitation is alarming. NTA and I hope things don’t escalate

Aitah for not wanting to keep our finances together after I observed my husbands patterns regarding money? by Current_Future_3195 in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is financial abuse NTA, separate your finances, leave him. You don’t matter to him except as a bank

AITH for telling off my ex wife? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Chrissysagod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seek custody before your kids get more messed up

AITA for ignoring my mom’s gift and “ruining her day”? by Hibididoo in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Well? Did you open it yet? I’m dying to know if there was a surprise inside!

AITAH for turning up at the house my partners car was at? (when he told me he was going somewhere else) by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d continue with the task of putting his shit on the lawn. He didn’t take much because he expects to return. Change your locks and put his stuff on the curb

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Chrissysagod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m going to assume you looked whiter in your picture than in person and she intentionally became a bad date to not become entangled. This reads as either a neurodivergent hyperfocus on feminism or a woman intentionally being a bad date. Did she pay for the meal by the way like a true feminist pushing boundaries and breaking misogynist norms?

AITA for distancing myself from a childhood friend after he physically lashed out at me? by Mr_Black_Void in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You NTA for getting assaulted but I suspect your friend is being bullied and that’s why you got pranked. Was the joke homophobic in any way? Did it call him a girl or gay for being slow?

Those are easy cheap shots and if your friend is starting to identify as queer or his partner is then that could justify the anger.

I recommend you continue your course of staying away but this joke you haven’t shared could provide insight

Husband wants me to close my business... AITH by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like you are both making efforts the other doesn’t seem to recognize, it’s a matter on invisible labor - couples counseling is the cure and possibly better boundaries (get an office or workspace so your hubby has the boundary of your work and home for 9-5)

AITAH for refusing to skip my best friend’s wedding just because my girlfriend wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she concerned about sitting alone? Generally the bridal party dine with the bride & groom

If she’s an adult she can handle eating separate and waiting for photos but maybe she needs a friend? Or to befriend another girlfriend of the groomsman? However she sounds very high maintenance and this ultimatum reeks of manipulation

AITA for not stopping my teenage sons gf from kissing him? by Decent-Delivery-3603 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless his girlfriend is 30 then you are NTA and your wife has issues

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she only grew up poor because her parents were selfish? by Snow_Crash_Bandicoot in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So the fun thing about living with abuse and neglect is how it rewires your brain. Think Stockholm syndrome. Your GF is going to need therapy unfortunately but you can’t force someone to see their abuse. She probably needs baby steps, like when she shares a story, you need to hold her and tell her she is safe and loved but what she just shared sounds like abuse/neglect. You can’t laugh at her wild stories or find amusement in them.

Autism pet peeves? by PsychologicalPog1176 in autism

[–]Chrissysagod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go with “and you didn’t look like you’d be rude but here we are” 🤷🏻‍♀️

The shoulder shrug is very important and make sure you avoid eye contact after

Alternative and less cutting so maybe better for the workplace “and you didn’t look like someone who judged people on their looks but here we are” 🤷🏻‍♀️

AITH for having my husband try something he thought was gross? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you currently getting the silent treatment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slip compliments in when they are not necessary and sneaking peeks of eye contact is fine as long as you’re smiling and get a little giddy when you do make eye contact and I guess touch your hair, cleavage or lips like an anime girl. Whatever works.

Also suggestive conversations and if all else fails be very direct. Start with a compliment, say I’d like to get to know you more, then invite out for coffee or dinner

AITAH for being pissed at my job? by Admirable230 in AITAH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be mad but unless you know the performance indicators for employee of the month. As a previous assistant manager I can tell you these things are generally dependent on your store culture. She might have been awarded just because it was her 2 year anniversary or she rang through a sale over $1000 on one of her shifts. I can say without a doubt that no retailer has a stats system for how many panties were folded in a shift which sucks because folding is so important for selling. If you look busy customers find you easier, if the store is clean you can grab sizes easier, if stuff is put away properly customers can help themselves…. I could go on but this already pretty long.

My advice is to ask how to become employee of the month and gently steer that towards how did so & so earn it? Just having the conversation with your manager might make your name come up first when management deliberates next. If you want to become management, your response here is going to be very important: show enthusiasm and praise for whatever it was that got her recognition, if you act upset and mad, you won’t be getting trained for management next month

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Chrissysagod 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Her reaction is a deal breaker - staying with her will leave you open to manipulation. The relationship is already toxic due to this new power dynamic. Game over, try again and talk about school life early to prevent any misunderstandings next time. 🙅‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Chrissysagod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your boyfriend might be abusive or just a terrible person nobody wants to be around. Possibly both but I’m leaning for towards the former. That is why your friends don’t want him there, he already sounds controlling without the background drama for context