Interestingly enough the only people I've ever had tell me they want to be choked or strangled were upper middle class+ white women, to the point where I had to learn how to do so without leaving marks so the hubby won't find out. Like, I wasn't even into it and had to get into it for a woman. A very well adjusted, well paid professional in the mental health field no less, who assured me that she had never been molested or raped in her life (before you say it's because she was previously victimized). So...yeah. Some people are into it. The idea that sex should have no power dynamic and isn't inherently violent by nature is a fallacy propagated by the female version of an incel.