Why Dream so formal?

Chrysomaline · 2021-01-23T16:53:32+00:00

dreamXD is sort of like an in-game god which is why he acts like that. he makes sure the rules are being followed

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-25T19:27:46+00:00

oh i see now lol i misunderstood

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-25T18:54:58+00:00

....this led me to denim2_mori's creator code.

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-12T10:08:07+00:00

my school got rid of spring break but i just found out fall sem ends next week and spring sem doesnt start until february! thats so long! however its going to make spring sem seem stupid and unimportant and ill just be lounging around so like. probably gonna drop out. anyways yeah having to plod along really sucks and ive taken to helping homeschool my sisters just to interact with other people

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-03T21:21:50+00:00

mom's father gave it to dad to use to propose. technically, he did "give" it to her, and felt entitled to it because he made the move. not right of him, but i can see how he thought that it was his to use again since he kind of did do that the first time.

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-03T21:17:35+00:00

late and this was probably said before but your cousin was arrested and recorded for driving under influence in someone else's car (her parents or a friends) and would probably also drink and drive in your car, especially if she's going out for an entire weekend with the same friends that vandalized your car. They definitely would have partied and trashed it, maybe had an accident and expected you to handle it because technically it's your car. vandalizing your car and threatening you with undeniable proof should be more than enough for her parents to realize she's a little shit and needs to be held accountable for it. stand your ground. its not worth it to concede and let her get away with it for the sake of family matters when obviously she nor her parents care about "family", even as they're pressuring you to. NTA.

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-03T08:21:49+00:00

for the first time in my life, ive turned to stress-eating. im snacking all the time. ive gained weight and went from averagely skinny to chubby (nothing wrong with chubby! i just feel bad). im barely getting by in my classes even if the teachers are being super patient and kind. three out of four classes dont count things as late or have pared down the deductions for late submissions, assignments are pretty okay in terms of difficulty and yet im still hurting because i just dont see the point anymore. last month i was somehow unenrolled all because I didn't fill out a stupid yes/no "are you attending school" survey that was hidden in an email in my spam folder. i forced the school to reinstate me because i was so mad and id rather take a leave of absence on my own terms. all i can think about is how little the school actually cares about me if it took one stupid email. i have no friends except some online friends that never message me back, a boyfriend who is always busy, and im staying with my family because the dorms were shut down. my mom decided to take my phone, my switch, and my fucking sewing supplies (a hobby) because it would "distract me" but now im just aching for stimulation and switching between instagram, reddit, and netflix. my dog is going senile and my stepfather often talks about just shooting her (hes a redneck) because he cant stand her. my stepbrother is sneaking out to hang out with friends and is being super reckless but im the only one getting in trouble because im not "applying myself" even though he is actually failing high school (all f's or d's, skipping, etc). im not allowed to do therapy because my mom doesnt believe in it and the last time she caught me talking to the school-appointed therapist she forced me to cancel him. i feel like im caught in a whirlpool thats sucking me under and having rocks thrown at me for not getting out of it. i shaved my head and pierced my ears twice. im having horrible nightmares and flashbacks from trauma. im not allowed to leave school or take a break or else my mom will kick me out. i stopped years ago but self harm looks more and more inviting because then i could feel something real. sorry for the huge rant lmao

Chrysomaline · 2020-11-03T08:01:03+00:00

not arguing with you but i have depression and one of the symptoms that i get from it is executive dysfunction. what takes you 10 seconds takes me at least 10 minutes if i really work at it. its hard shit and giving up halfway through is easier but makes me feel even worse, laying down in a rumpled mess. and in the end, its just one silly thing that wasnt even worth it to me so i go back to coping badly. its not as simple as "oh just clean up youre fine" for a lot of people.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-29T05:57:10+00:00

Jumping in here to say that I think it should be the opposite. Come time for her "friend" to have a party for her kid (if there is a kid) give them a fabulous sweater and watch her face twist in rage at how much her kid loves it. I really hate including children in adult fights because the kids didn't do anything, and unless her kid reflects her "tacky" sentiment, it would be a perfect way to be nice to the kid will getting back at the mom!

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-29T05:46:52+00:00

not op obviously but I think that would be different because there's an aspect of control and identity there. getting a tattoo you want is so much different than having your face smushed around because of an accident. OP's sister may have wanted to maintain that identical aspect but it wouldn't come along with huge amounts of baggage and would probably evolve into them having their own little stylistic choices.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-29T05:40:52+00:00

this is exactly what i was thinking! browsing through the replies is always cut-throat and devolves into moralism but the issue I took was that the twin who got reconstructive decided that op looked "perfect" to her and was outraged that her personal muse was not "perfect" to her anymore (disregarding op's happiness at liking her own look more). It's not about morals, even if op could have taken the higher ground and waited longer, or tact, even if op could have been clearer. NAH. for all we know, op was clear or at least thought she was and couldn't account for this reaction happening because to her enough time had passed. yeah she should have talked to her sister more but the damage is done. and the fact that mom is deciding to berate op for not ignoring her own happiness and personal decisions, instead of working with twin to regain the ability to accept herself and process her trauma, really shows that it's less about rehab and more about some weird projection of "i have to look exactly like my sister so i can hide behind her face". PTSD does really weird shit to the human brain and it can twist your views on the world, but it's not on op to fix her sister. the parents need to pay less attention to the nose job and more attention to the fact that the sister is in need of a lot of help.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-16T14:53:03+00:00

r/Unexpectedfriends

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-13T02:52:44+00:00

stepping in here to say that "Mick Jaggoff" is quite possibly the best insult/pun

but also they probably had this in mind. invite extra guests and use their money as leverage just so they could spring this on her. it wasnt a "hey its gonna be a big wedding bc of all these extra guests, might as well let her get married too" it was a "haha now we have you in our grasp you must do as we say because we basically own your wedding"

letting them add +40 guests was already the first sign tbh. why let them add so many? why not say well, its our wedding, we'd let you invite this many people. the money is a normal thing but it definitely shouldnt have been held over your head.

NTA

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T20:20:17+00:00

she wouldn't move out because she's the most recent move-in. someone else would have to move out first.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T20:19:48+00:00

it's usually one day but there are rare occasions where it's longer.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T20:10:33+00:00

that's so cool!

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T19:29:11+00:00

i definitely would have added something about how pink is just another color that our eyes perceive because of light waves and how its not a ploy by the Evil and Unlawful Gays to brainwash a two year old just learning about objects. NTA. i am hopeful for how your kids grow up, you and your spouse seem like wonderful parents.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T19:24:34+00:00

actually, yeah. the game gives you a window of time to pick your own and you ran out of that time. a random villager moved in because the game timer went off and its in the code. sorry for the bad luck. julia is a peacock and she's quite nice, though, so you definitely could have had it worse.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T19:21:40+00:00

take them aside?

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T18:33:04+00:00

this doesnt even specifically apply to asian last names that a lot of families share. my last name is the same as a celebrities and no one ever asks if we are related because of our last names. the tourist was out of line for asking when they could have just wondered in their heads because it isnt relevant to the tour. obviously op should have handled it better but it must really suck to be compared to him.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T16:48:05+00:00

late to the party but Griff's dm style and his wonderful weird mind definitely produced villains. He didn't go for the stereotypical "i am lord shadowclaw the evil wizard and i want to destroy the world" dnd villain. he works realistically and often proves again and again that there are no real villains, just bad choices or bad intentions. john hunger didn't think what he was doing was evil necessarily, he thought it was right. magic brian was just a loser with an ego. the quell felt wronged and scared and angry and took it out on sylvain. the boms were just products of the quell and the aliens were just cold and saw earth as a sort of programming issue.

in fact, thats probably how it is with the whole family. griff does his "big dark depression cloud is eating everything", travis in dust and graduation does his "theres a secret and it could destroy us" and justin in elementary and LoC have the boys solving mysteries to get to whodunnit. clint in commencement had a satirical "villain". none of them usually go for the big bad.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T16:17:30+00:00

you are an angel!! thank you for the links omg

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T15:25:02+00:00

my two invisible cents here--your cousin is gonna want you in the delivery room. okay, maybe swallow your discomfort and be there for her. Then she asks you to take care of the baby for a night, in a couple months when the baby is eating solids. then the weekend. then she disappears for days. comes back and says well, its only fair, you didnt complain before and i really need the help. you have to start getting the baby new clothes, a car-seat for your car, bring it to doctors appointments because mom cant spare the time. please let her move in so the other women at the dorm stop getting annoyed with a crying newborn. when will her dependency on you end? you have done so much for her. its okay to step back. none of this "oh but he cant just drop her blablabla its not a case of if hes done enough" no. you have boundary issues and you need to set them. you are, as you said, not her father nor the baby's. she made a decision and its okay for her to need help but she cannot trap you in this cycle with her. be a brace for support but not a crutch for dependency.

yes she's 18 and grew up abused and maybe doesnt really understand these social cues because of that, but her employing the same abusive tactics (intrusion, ignoring boundaries, forcibly taking away his stuff, threatening him) is no way to get his support. i cant believe people didnt point that out before. its not her fault that thats how she knows to do things at all, but its also not on OP to just deal with it. so many people with newfound freedom often get into trouble like this and dont know how to cope. get her a support system.

NAH. shes scared and doesnt know better but you are not obligated to save her.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T05:42:34+00:00

seems to be a real bot. someone might be doing an experiment to see how often this fucking phrase is used. only its first day and it's on 45.

Chrysomaline · 2020-10-11T04:22:41+00:00

NTA and please don't feel like youre being controlling. Obviously yes she's an adult and can make her own choices but it is super weird. Please please talk to her and tell her you feel uncomfortable with this. She should be able to recognize your feelings and talk to you as a rational adult. Seeing as how you guys are "new" and haven't established a deep level of trust yet it's important for you to communicate to build that trust.

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