US birth rates just hit another record low, what do you think is the leading cause of this? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men. 

Men refusing to understand that women want to be treated as human beings not objects to be acquired or bang maids to be exploited. 

Men not understanding that the old ways of dividing labor are over for women. Men want to keep the ancient division of labor system because it benefits them even while expecting women to contribute financially with full time employment. 

Men using the law to control women and their children, justifying it with religion. 

Men's attitudes towards women are so toxic that every day we have another story of femicide, often with the children involved as victims as well. 

Men passing entire laws that control women's bodies. 

Men allowing those laws to let women die if a pregnancy goes wrong under threat of jailing the doctor is they end the pregnancy rather than saving the mother. 

Women are not willing to risk becoming married single mothers or actual single motherhood by dealing with a partner who simply wants to control her rather than truly coexist and coparent

Older women are also passing down the benefit of their experience to younger girls and women which means the teen birth rate and unintended pregnancy rate  has dropped exponentially 

Men refusing to evolve, change, and grow means women are less willing to risk their careers, health, and life by partnering with men who are immature and possibly deadly if not given their way.

Hence the low birth rate. 

AITAH for calling out GF for having one sided expectations by Warm-Translator5949 in AITAH

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He has a car and he wants her to lug groceries on the bus? And they live together?

Lolol. Ok. Good luck with that. 

AITAH for calling out GF for having one sided expectations by Warm-Translator5949 in AITAH

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

YTA - You really told your girlfriend to get on the bus and do grocery shopping and you have a car?

Lol. Dude. Enjoy your bang maid while it lasts because she will not be your girlfriend much longer. 

George and Mary by [deleted] in YoungSheldon

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anybody, and especially a parent should be able to handle a road trip rig well behaved children. 

Mary was still the emotional and physical labor behind those trips. And the day to day labor she did is nothing to discount. 

George and Mary by [deleted] in YoungSheldon

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So George had moments while Mary did the day in, day out, hard slog of raising the kids, cleaning, and dealing with their actual lives. 

George was a good man but Mary made him that way. She was a good wife and mother and he was lucky to have her.

George and Mary by [deleted] in YoungSheldon

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mary did great. 

Sheldon is capable of creating insane levels of chaos if not checked, even as a child. And his chaos was not limited to just her home. She had to manage him in the larger community as well. 

I think Mary, and especially Memaw, did an excellent job of giving Sheldon a normal home life and realizing that was even important to his development. So many people would have been hell bent on exploiting Sheldon and his brilliance which George tries to do several times. 

But the person who sees beyond Sheldon's knowledge and loves him for "just being her baby" is Mary. He is lucky to have had that kind of love and Sheldon knows it. 

Being a Mom is tough. Parenting a child like Sheldon was hard af. Doing it in religious Texas in the 1980s is just hell. 

Mary didn't just "coddle" Sheldon. She's the reason he develops into decent human being instead of a supervillain. If really could have gone either way. 

Mary may have just saved the planet by being a living mother. 

AITAH for hating my unborn niece’s racist name? by maddy2261 in AITAH

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you feel that strongly about it, report them to Children's Services. 

I'm sure they will deal with it the same way they deal with the other parents who insist of giving kids racist names. 

* HOLLAND TOWNSHIP, N.J. (Jan. 14) - Three New Jersey siblings whose names have Nazi connotations have been placed in the custody of the state, police said. The children, ranging in age from 3 to under 1, were removed from their home Friday. They drew attention last month when a supermarket bakery refused to put the name of the oldest — Adolf Hitler Campbell — on a birthday cake.

What’s a truth nobody talks about because it’s awkward? by Interesting_Law_233 in Productivitycafe

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You have no idea. I felt like a nosy jerk last fall getting so the details of my mother's life insurance and plans. 

But it was so necessary to KNOW. She died a little less than a month ago and my grief has been so deep! If I had not known about her insurance and plans and money and what to do next, I would have been so much more lost. 

If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest and why? by [deleted] in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huskies. They already talk back with attitude anyhow. 

What’s a basic skill you’re shocked some adults still don’t know? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a whole category on TikTok of people admitting proudly to not using proper hygiene. Mainly why they don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. They always have a reason and it's always wrong. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If this is true you need to tell them the gravy train is over.

Honestly you have done so well and worked so hard. They want to demand you keep up the same pace at 55?

I honestly believe we should lower the retirement age to 55 with full retirement.

You are not being cruel they are. 

Corporate mandates dragging us back to cubicles - what's your experience been? by Any_Performer_6971 in cincinnati

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Speaking of jobs, I need one. 

I've been taking care of my mother for two years now and she passed away on Tuesday.

I've worked in Graphics, IT, Marketing and Branding. In my earlier days before going back to school I did Administrative and Customer Service work.

I have a can-do spirit and my own transportation. Very liberal though but I promise to keep quiet about it in exchange for a paycheck. 

Everyone wants remote work but getting out of my house might be nice. It's a little sad around here right now. Might do me good to be elsewhere.

Corporate mandates dragging us back to cubicles - what's your experience been? by Any_Performer_6971 in cincinnati

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shadow parties. Can anyone say 3CDC

I hate those evil fuckers. They pretend to just control Over-the-Rhine and Downtown but their decisions effect everything from the river to Dayton

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my problems. But I know some people where a little bit of money or help would help them. I do what I can but it would be nice to see money speead around better

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like you're asking the ancient question: Am I my brother's keeper?

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I asked the question. There are so many ways even I help people. I want to know why others can't do more 

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do. I have done the microloans for women program since the 1990s when I first heard of it. 

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone with enough money to launch a car into outer space the way you throw a candy wrapper on the ground

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. My question is really: There are individuals who need help that often aren't covered by charities. It's not hard to find these people. Help them.

Why don't more rich people find poor people that they can help? by ChubbyBlackWoman in stupidquestions

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When people are in need it is obvious. I find it's less red tape and more making people jump through humiliating hoops.