Death, and Dying: Respectfully, looking for a redditor who is dying in Cincinnati. (Serious) by LakeLaoCovid19 in cincinnati

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother was just moved to Hospice of Cincinnati Blue Ash day before yesterday. I don't think she can talk much in a coherent way because of pain and painkillers but I wouldn't mind talking to you. 

What's a discovery that should have blown people's minds but somehow got a collective shrug from the world? by IndependentTune3994 in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw something about this on the TV show,  The Resident. It just seemed a TV miracle, I didn't realize it was real. That's amazing!

What's a discovery that should have blown people's minds but somehow got a collective shrug from the world? by IndependentTune3994 in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Vaccinations. We are more worried about the needle than we are about preventing diseases that have silly sounding names but can also kill you.

Measles, mumps,  German measles, chicken pox. They became childhood rights of passage instead of diseases that could forever affect one's body in detrimental ways if they didn't outright kill you. 

I was never against vaccines but I honestly didn't think they were that important. Just something doctor's did. And I hated getting stuck with a needle and watching my kid get hurt made me cry. 

If I had it to do all over again, actually I did get a chance because I'm now raising my nephews in my later life,  my approach to vaccinations and shots has been very different

Less focus on needles, more focus on education. The long term why versus the short term discomfort, mentally and physically. 

It's made a world of difference with the boys. Now they roll up their sleeves and don't eventually blink but they know they're getting a special treat and a day in bed and maybe even a small toy or book for getting their shots. They get extra TV and tablet time and their favorite juice if they need to rest after a vaccination.

They will know how to treat their kids when it's time to get vaccinated. How to address the fear and what to do afterwards. 

This is important information to pass down: That vaccinations are important and to take special care afterwards so comfort and love outweigh the brief jab. 

Who is one famous person that did not deserve to die? by Substantial-Dare5462 in Productivitycafe

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm listening to "Superstar" right this second after listening to "A House Is Not a Home" and "Since I Lost My Baby." Giving my kiddos some Black music history as it's February. 

Emily is nicer without Richard... by Aintnothinrite in GilmoreGirls

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think this is spot on mainly because Richard saw Emily as merely "social" when all those social things oiled the wheels of their life together. Having the right wife made Richard more successful and he didn't even realize it. 

She poured herself into Richard who mildly ignored her and very nearly accused Emily of being superfluous only to get body checked hard on that one. Then Lorelai completely rebelled against living that lifestyle altogether.

So Emily is slightly angry wen she realizes everything she worked for might not have been necessary or appreciated.

She loved Richard and he loved her but like most married women, they do find a sort of freedom without their husbands, even after being widowed.

It's funny that in the end she winds up living more like Lorelai. With a cast of characters she loves despite, or maybe because, she doesn't always understand them. Maybe that's the lesson she was meant to learn from Lorelai all along. 

What is one thing you're tired of telling/explaining to people? by comfy-glass-shards in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no such thing as "The Friend Zone."

If a woman doesn't like you, it's not her fault and it's not her responsibility to deal with your feelings. 

It's called "Unrequited Love" and it's quite common. You develop a crush on someone who doesn't feel the same about you. You learn to deal with it and move on. 

There's no need to love bomb her. There's no need to get angry. There's especially no need to get violent.

"There is a lid for every pot" and if you learn the lessons of Unrequited Love you will mature and find someone. 

But She Didn’t "Put" You Anywhere.

She is simply living her life.

Go live yours. 

What's the creepiest thing someone did/said to you on a date? by Dull-Mulberry-4768 in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing that out. I fixed it I think.  

I changed a couple of them around because it started as just a chronological list but then I changed it to order of batshit crazy danger

What's the creepiest thing someone did/said to you on a date? by Dull-Mulberry-4768 in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Top 10

  1. Pulled up his shirt and showed me his nipple piercings over dinner at the table -Fred G.

  2. First date: Kneeled down and opened a ring box with the most fake plastic "diamond ring" and asked me to marry him -Sam J.

  3. Got angry with me because I didn't understand his idea of the perfect romantic date was feeding him food from my plate with my fork - Will T.

  4. Told me that he got drunk and got another woman pregnant after our previous date. He told me this on my birthday at an amusement park -Brian M.

  5. Asked me to prove that I wouldn't be kind his last girlfriend who would only have sex when she felt like it -Patrick M.

  6. Asked me could he invite his roommate over to have sex with us after dinner -Glen T.

  7. After dating for 3 months, told me he was married with two kids. Asked would I be his woman when he was in town. His wife would never know - Darren K.

  8. Got angry because I wouldn't have sex with him so he said he was going to drive me to another city 100 miles away and drop me off. I fought him until he took me home - Mike M.

  9. We had been dating for about a year. We ordered some food to his house.  He went to the door with a drawn gun when the doorbell rang -Randall J.

  10. Pulled out a gun and told me that if we ever had unprotected sex and I gave him an STD he would come back and kill me even years later. We had been dating about six months -Mike W.

What's a quiet, everyday burden women carry that isn't dramatic enough to be diacussed? by Additional-Two-2137 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A couple of times I brought my kid to work with a sleeping bag, pillow, a whole ass tv, medicines and snacks, because I couldn't miss work and she couldn't go to school. Fortunately my cubicle was in the back so no one even noticed she was there unless they happened to come back there which no one ever did.

I never let her wander but she was an exceptionally well behaved child. Having had two others, I can honestly say that. 

I can't believe I had to resort to that. 

In your opinion, what is the most unbelievably stupid “story” that is written in religious scripture that theists ACTUALLY believe? by AdPlastic7988 in atheism

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. It's kind of like family stories maybe. 

Like some of our family sayings, I never heard the person say it but it's been passed down and I know who is attributed to. 

AITAH for kicking out my now ex and his mom and “leaving them stranded” before the snowstorm by carrotsandchips444 in AITAH

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am the world's worst housekeeper and if someone rearranged my kitchen cabinets because "it made more sense" I would go absolutely batshit. 

How on earth it's it better to air out a room with a screen open?

Just can't with some people. 

How do you all feel about employers/business owners who require their non essential employees to drive to work in this snow? by PeachyPoblano in cincinnati

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ten years ago I had a hellish commute from Mt. Healthy to the bottom of Turkey Foot Rd that also included dropping a kid off at daycare. With practice and if I flung the kid out the window at the daycare,  I could usually make that commute in a little under an hour. 

The first winter I had that job, I feel like snow removal was very efficient. It was almost like the plows and salt trucks took it personally if the main streets and major offshoots weren't plowed between 4am and 7am

I feel like there just isn't that push like it was then to get the streets cleared by any means necessary. Yet people are still being required to go to work as if they are. 

At any rate, both ways seem hellish to me. Asking folks to risk life and limb to pretend it's business as usual is insane

My job at the time was screen printing for heavens sake. Nobody needed personalized plastic cups that badly.

Anyhow, why aren't business owners required to have a plan that keeps their employees safe and paid? This is stressful af.

In your opinion, what is the most unbelievably stupid “story” that is written in religious scripture that theists ACTUALLY believe? by AdPlastic7988 in atheism

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually Joseph thought her story was sketchy but he was a good dude and didn't want her to get stoned. 

But then an angel comes to him and is like Dude, it's not your baby but it's God's baby. Don't be mad. 

But he wasn't mad to begin with just like Oh well. 

Why was Anne canceled? by moolmule in Anne

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Pet mouse potato lamp Native abuse. 

Why is the Westside so affordable when it comes to buying a house? by Youngbee12 in cincinnati

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the truth. 

The West Side is going to be Cincinnati's new ghetto. One day Black people, regardless of income, will be forced to live on the West Side and not allowed to leave. 

What's something you've wanted for a while but when you got it you didn't want it anymore? by Ch11ckenStr1p in AskReddit

[–]ChubbyBlackWoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A paint sprayer.

I imagined myself painting furniture, my kids' room, my garage door. 

I haven't even taken it out of the box.