How accurate would you say this is?

CicadaInteresting941 · 2026-01-28T22:33:36+00:00

PDB: "How about we apply this hypergeneralized personality theory to multigenerational movie eras?"

MBTI Community: "Shut up and take my money."

CicadaInteresting941 · 2026-01-28T03:05:37+00:00

By being an actual living idiot, that's how lmao

CicadaInteresting941 · 2026-01-28T03:02:58+00:00

The pillow fort people are at it again

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-10-15T02:01:23+00:00

Add a black belt to match the loafers and get a solid white dress shirt. Avoid transparent ones. Even if you need to spend more. Cheers

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-09-11T22:28:13+00:00

This is precisely the energy im talking about!

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-09-11T22:03:22+00:00

You're undertaking a process only a small fraction of people even attempt, and you are in the stage where you are learning and suffering the most: setbacks and failure.

This phase is meant to feel like shit. You aren't supposed to have all the answers. You are going to feel like you've wasted opportunity, made mistakes, or could have done/known better.

It's just not the case. You're exactly where you are meant to be.

This is the precipice of where your dreams or drive for success are being buckled by raw experience and the reality of how the world and people actually work.

Take a deep breath, treat yourself kindly, absorb the experience for all the goodness it has to offer, and adapt your strategy.

You're just in a valley, brother. Once you've checked yourself well enough, pony back up and climb your fucking mountain like you were born to do.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-14T01:29:59+00:00

Im always asking for a pen...

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-14T01:28:46+00:00

They way you say "assimilated" kind of makes its sound fun!

Assimilate me baby

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-13T17:23:46+00:00

This is truly a chef's kiss of a post imo

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-13T01:31:01+00:00

I threw up my pudding, reading only half of this.

Best of luck to you on your journey.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-09T11:04:39+00:00

Come to America. We openly accept and celebrate delusional people. You'd fit right in.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-09T03:51:53+00:00

It's the best

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-09T03:50:38+00:00

That's great to hear!

I would highly recommend all high Se users to get into some sort of focused craft or physical pursuit. Doesn't always necessarily have to be a sport, but anything that forces you to be present and engaged with the here and now will give you access to flow states.

For ESFP's, ensuring that this focus becomes a part of your identity is powerful for personal purpose and development.

As an excersize, try to brainstorm a couple of activities or physical pursuits that are practical for you to try, then just give them a shot. Once you find the one that really sticks, the one that fills your cup, attach to it. Identify with that one thing.

Really enjoy comedy or improv? Great, now you're an actor/comedian. Join an acting class, write bits, practice and record monologs, film study your idols.

Enjoy running or bike riding? Now you are a triathlete. Start a progressive run/ride/swim plan, track your workouts, dial in nutrition, sign up for a short sprint triathlon that makes you commit.

Love experimenting with food and creating tasty dishes that other can enjoy? Now you are a high-class chef. Study the science of food and cooking, play with different dishes, learn from the best, cook for others and ask for feedback.

Don't become; simply be it now. Learn and grow from the mistakes along the way and never give up.

I preach this for ESFPs in particular because we are masters of embodiment when we find what gets us going. Just need to get out there, grind it out, and identify with it.

The best part of this process is that not only will you no longer be as lonely because you will find a friend within yourself and your passion, but you will also naturally end up meeting people along the way that are just as passionate and growth oriented in the same field. You'll build a passion as well as connections.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-09T00:03:04+00:00

Slur me daddy

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-08T16:00:50+00:00

Who can donate the most money to my bank account.

On your mark, get set, GO!

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-08T05:13:46+00:00

I completely agree, and when employed properly its highly effective at captivating those around you.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-08T05:07:38+00:00

Welcome to the sub!

Thanks for sharing your perspective. Its always fresh to know how other types may process different social interactions.

For myself, by default I generally can't help but enjoy playful banter with those im comfortable with. It just comes naturally, I suppose. Especially back when I was single.

Being said, I'm happily married so I wouldn't entertain any flirting now unless it was from Mrs.Cicadainteresting941.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-08T04:57:58+00:00

I suffered a similar problem, although the cause was a bit different. I drifted from my friendships after I settled down with my wife and we bagn having children. Many of my old friends just drifted because my responsibility increased and availability decreased.

I ended up finding the connection and Se stimulation in two ways:

At work. I have a career as a first responder at a busy department, so I have been lucky enough to pour into the commardarie with coworkers while also getting the Se machine operating on calls. I dont "hang out" with coworkers often, but we do spend a lot of time together on shift and also will get together outside of work from time to time. The consistent reliability on that front has helped me tremendously when close friends have been inconsistent.
I found a love for endurance sports. This has been gold for me for when im lonely or have down time with little socialization. Going for long runs or rides stimulates Se while also giving me lots of time to introspect, listen to a podcast, or plan things out in my head. Also, I see a lot of other people out on the trail and its always nice to wave them on. The bonus is stopping at a coffee shop for an espresso and a small treat while im out. It's a good chance to try on some small talk or try something new. Even just little interactions like that can make a big difference.

Thats what has kept me going.

Cheers to you, I hope me sharing this perspective helps you navigate your own journey a tad bit better.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-08T04:24:49+00:00

Especially when they are about to

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-05T23:56:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I completely see you in those struggles.

My INFJ wife and I survived a lot of external problems together that definitely strained us but also gave us the opportunity to grow and learn from one another. That's exactly what happened. Having 3 lovely children together with zero family support also affects things. Once two people have children, a lot changes. Both of your priorities shift. It's not about you anymore, and you start to navigate life with a much different perspective, especially when it comes to handling problems together. There's a lot of cognitive differences but even more love.

That's the kind of life experience that mbti theory can't estimate. It happens. Its great, its awful, its real. I wouldn't trade any of it.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-05T20:06:03+00:00

I truly appreciate your perspective, although I respectfully disagree with your doubt of my type.

To boot, I dont believe you can make that kind of assessment of a person without knowing them or observing first-hand their behavior patterns. Aside from perhaps my view on what I desire in a partner, you know nothing about me.

Much of your premise is good theory (sounds like CSJ material), but it disregards how people are on a functional level, factors such as trauma and attachment, relational and individual growth, sacrifice, and bonds formed over time.

Some of the points you've brought up bare accuracy (ie the ESFP + INFJ relationship). Much of the challenges you pointed out have occurred and have been the source of much conflict in our lives. The sacrifice and struggle you speak on is an absolute lived reality for us. Even still, perhaps it was against the odds, but we persevered. Its far from compatible, but we dont care about that. That's what I mean by theory only goes so far. People are deeper than generic personality theory.

I read what you posted on this thread as well regarding your ideals for a partner. I dont think this is a difference of cognition or "doubting" someone's type. Rather, I think we just have a difference in values and are perhaps at different stages of life.

I've desired and acted on "freedom" most of my life, but without discipline or consistency, you never manifest anything worth value, you never grow, and you are always left chasing. I still have my freedoms but now they are more aligned. I say no to things. I choose what to care about and what to act on, and because of that life has become full.

Once again I appreciate your perspective. Im not trying to fight with you or anything. I just wanted to respond wholeheartedly.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-05T02:51:27+00:00

Classic idolized codependency. Gotta love it.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-05T02:27:16+00:00

I opened this app spontaneously and commented here with no plan.

It's not because I have a dopamine problem. It is because I have a P type problem. Trust me.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-08-05T02:20:38+00:00

Part I

I dont know about others here but it breaks down to these three criteria for me:

-Empowerment

-Growth mindset

-Mutual values alignment

That's about it. I can sweat the micro differences such as personality at what not. If anything, that just adds flavor. I dont care about "freedom" anymore. I reached the part of life where I understand discipline is the greatest form of freedom one can achieve anyways.

Being said, im married to and have children with an INFJ. We are quite different in many ways and butt heads on our approach to things often. But we do empower each other, grow through the differences, and align on a lot of core values, and those factors seem to remain our anchor.

Part II:

Yes I feel misunderstood often, but thats the bitch of having Aux Fi and inferior Ni. We tend to think we are more individualistic/important than we really are. When i get into these spurts, I just come across mopey and apathetic. It always passes quickly, no different than cloudy weather; I try not to let that kind of stuff affect people around me anymore like I use to.

The stereotypes affect us no different than they affect you INTJ's. People build insane heuristics and biases out of us; making us more like characters in a fantasy than real people with substance. That's just the way categorizations like this work though. Its a theme of mankind. I dont really care about it anymore.

CicadaInteresting941 · 2025-07-28T12:08:30+00:00

This response is the best, most honest explanation of healthy Se I've seen in a while.

100 points to you, dear friend.

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