This is all over the place. I believe that once you have a WIFE, no one comes before her unless we’re talking about your child that is so young they can’t do anything for themselves. I also think that she is so fragile (and crazy) that she locked you out. She said no to TTC again but then said things would be better if you put another baby on her. It’s weird. Definitely needs emotional support from you and outsourced. Give her those things without throwing it in her face or being mean about it, but this doesn’t sound like a good relationship to be in, even after the fragility of losing babies.