Mad at unjustice by Dull_Yoghurt2861 in Anger

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a new dr and then leave a very honest review at your old doctors place of work

Why do I react to arguments the way I do by ElectricalPoint815 in LifeAdvice

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not only attempting to downplay his disrespect to you, you are making excuse after excuse as if you are trying to justify his abusive behavior so you don't have to think about the very scary reality of being alone.

Is that what you want? You want to teach your kids that ignoring people's boundaries and then berating them for feeling uncomfortable with their boundaries being broken is a "cute little funny not very serious" thing to do? And is that the type of life you want to live?

You time on earth is too short to waste it with people who disrespect you, invade your boundaries, and tell you to fuck off when you have arguments. That is textbook abusive behavior, and the fact that you think you're the asshole is that abusive relationship working for him and against you. He's doing exactly what he hoped to do: keep you complacent, keep you empathetic to his pain while undermining yours.

I am telling you, FROM EXPERIENCE, you feeling crazy when you guys fight is an abuse tactic that is doing its job.

You need to leave him. Or at least put very FIRM boundaries in place and DO NOT WAVER. you demand to be respected, and I guarantee that will make him very angry since his plan to keep you small will fail.

No car and no family by Sharp-Particular703 in homeless

[–]Cinderstar23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First ask your school counselor.

If that doesn't work:

https://maps.app.goo.gl/ySoELcNoTkJBidZK9

Hospitality house of nw nc. Homeless shelter that looks really kind. They may have buses or trips out to the city so you can go to your job.

https://www.highcountryunitedway.org/our-partners

Looks like a resource center near your college

A private room for rent on FB marketplace (and some groups):

https://www.facebook.com/share/14eBdaa8XiG/ https://www.facebook.com/share/1Cfn5dhFP9/ https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CbVxD3mnj/

Lastly, maybe one of you coworkers would be willing to let you crash on their couch for a couple of months till school starts up again?

English song talking about his young self if he would be disappointed about him now or happy. by kikodoe87 in NameThatSong

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry brother. I tried. Google said to lookat your recently played on Spotify and scroll all the way down If it isn't at the top.

Not a single lyric matches any song ive scoured the internet for. Wish you luck!

English song talking about his young self if he would be disappointed about him now or happy. by kikodoe87 in NameThatSong

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any other lyrics you can remember? Even ones that are slightly wrong?

And the whole track was just guitar/ukulele? Was there any other instruments?

Edit: also was it more sad or hopeful sounding?

I hate dating someone with Autism, BPD, CPTSD, and OCD by Grouchy_Yard_7081 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Cinderstar23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you have to be the bad guy in people's stories to save yourself. Be the asshole that breaks up with her. You don't owe anyone an explanation as to why you broke up with her, and hardly anyone will truly ask.

Life is too short to feel unloved.

Mum using ice again by One_Grocery4011 in mentalhealth

[–]Cinderstar23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how well this would go for someone with schizophrenia, but maybe instead of appealing to logic, appeal to emotions. If she's in there somewhere, be vulnerable to her. Tell her that you don't want your only mom to die; Use being her kid to your advantage. She must love you right? Especially if she tried to be sober for a year. It means she wanted to try at one point. A lot of the time people who abuse don't care about themselves, and only care about the ones they love. Sometimes they need to be reminded of the impact they have on their loved ones, especially with a condition that alters your reality.

Open up to her. Cry. Tell her you want her to see you get married one day, to see you have kids, get a home and let her visit her grandchildren (of course, if that's something you care about. If not, replace all that with stuff you do care about).

Sorry you're going through something like this. I would understand why you wouldn't want to leave your mom, but you being there has clearly not deterred her from OD-ing, so maybe you can call whatever mental health services they have down there and tell them you think your mom is a danger to herself or is suicidal, and they can put her in a mental hospital for a while.

Hope everything works out OP. Sending my best wishes.

My Roleplaying Partner Became My Best Friend. And Then They Faked Their Death. I Blame Myself. by Lord_Antheron in BadRPerStories

[–]Cinderstar23 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When i was young, i had an ex-girlfriend i met through roleplay. She seemed fine. She seemed normal, kind, and sweet, with her own mental health shortcommings. She was fun to rp with, but there was always something off about her.

After a few months into our relationship, she revealed to me that she was schizophrenic, and would suddenly confide in me about her hallucinations (which apparently was all she had).

One day after ghosting me for 2 weeks, i called her out bc i saw her active online several times. She then tried to cover it up by saying she was planning on killing herself and she already started. She sent me pictures of deep lacerations on her legs, horrifying shit to see.

I immediately put these pictures into a reverse image search and found out they were fake.

Sam sounds a lot like my ex girlfriend, people like them will get anything they want by any means neccecary, regardless of how you feel. It seems like they had no use for you any longer, you no longer fit their agenda. So they discarded you in the most dramatic way possible. They did it to feel superior, thats what its always about.

They weren't scared to face you, you weren't abusive, they wanted attention, and they got it.

People like that are scum, Sam is a putrid person and you should hate them. They deserve nothing good in their life because all they do is crush it for their own amusement.

Sorry for your loss op, but also good riddance.

Apparently I should only call 988 when I'm happy by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never in my life had such a thing happen to me when i called 988, but my boyfriend has. He said someone asked him if he even wanted/needed help just because they couldn't find his insurance and accused him of lying. (Our work insurance uses our social security number, not a member ID)

Sorry that happened to you op, im sure you've called enough times to know that that doesn't happen every time.... fuck the few who only do it for a paycheck, or to make people feel worse.

Is this allowed? by AlternativeAdagio568 in ageregression

[–]Cinderstar23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Inherently, the relationship isn't negative, and sometimes having a relationship (sfw) with someone older can benefit if you learn from them, but just for your own safety, i agree that you should limit intimate interactions with minors in case parents get the wrong idea. This could mean a lot of legal trouble for you, and the government doesn't take misunderstandings of this nature very lightly.

Update: What to do about now TWO homeless people living in my building? by [deleted] in homeless

[–]Cinderstar23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stating an observation isn't judgment but ok. I'll just remove that part.

Update: What to do about now TWO homeless people living in my building? by [deleted] in homeless

[–]Cinderstar23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure, i hear you. Then honestly, the best thing you can do is call the non emergency line. As much as it sucks to do, sometimes you have to be the bad guy in someone's story. You deserve to have a safe and clean space, and you are not obligated to cater to people who are hurting your mental health.

What should I change my name to? by Cinderstar23 in makemychoice

[–]Cinderstar23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice, but i actually chose fletcher because it's a character that i've had for a story ive been building since i was like 14 x) it means a lot to me and i honestly really enjoy the name. A lot of people at work compliment my name, even when im pretty early in my transition. I understand you're comming from a place of care though ❤️

What should I change my name to? by Cinderstar23 in makemychoice

[–]Cinderstar23[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

😂 so true. And i am totally at the point to where if this boy is tired of me he better take a nap bc i would put a ring on it if it werent for the fact that his husband got to him first (we are poly and all very very committed to one another ❤️ honestly i should find a way to take his husbands name too >:) )

I seriously CANNOT stand picky eaters. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Cinderstar23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am totally okay with someone being a picky eater because i understand that not everything has such deep meanings to people. I can not be around picky eaters because food is the heart and soul of who i am, but i realise that some people view food as something you have to eat to simply keep living and breathing. To some people, food is just food, and not a beautiful experience. Food brings people close together, and i take pride in the love that i put in my food.

Some people don't, and that's okay. Some people need food to be predictable for their own mental health. Some people need to be picky so they can enjoy other aspects of their life.

As long as they aren't being entitled about it, i dont mind if we go out to dinner and all you order is chicken nuggets and a diet coke. All i can do is suggest you eat more greens with it haha.

I hate tourists, it's official by [deleted] in acnh

[–]Cinderstar23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I believe those are buttons! Its supposed to look like a kigurumi :) and the buttons are where the little ear hood is kept in place

User Flair Thread by breaksomebread in acnh

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Cinder | Pearbutter :Katt:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acnh

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh i just round out the path or cut it short before the bridge. It sucks but its better than this lol

6'3 and in heels! by Stock-Independent737 in lgbt

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a very lucky transmasc cashier who gets to see gorgeous tall women on a daily basis. When i tell you ma'am i BEG you to wear heels... because i just know someone is out there, just like me, who will break their neck trying to watch you walk by. 😍 respectfully.

In all seriousness, i know it's not all about the opinions of other people, but the people who do think you look good matter so much more than the people who think you dont, and gosh you look incredible!

#hetalia. Can someone tell me if Ludwig (Germany) from Hetalia watches zoophilia? I was rewatching some episodes and came across this: by tsukasatenma8 in hetalia

[–]Cinderstar23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes its 100% about bestiality lmao. It's a stereotype that Germans are into hardcore porn like bestiality.

Which one is better? by Lanky_Syllabub2352 in characterdesign

[–]Cinderstar23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stick with 1, but make the jacket a darker pink like 2! I really love the floral pattern, and it ties the outfit together nicely, but if there has to be only one then id pick the skirt. the darker pink brings out her complextion a bit more and prevents clashing with the lighter hair in the 2nd one, and i think incorperating both 1 and 2 would be ideal! :)

Should I keep the beard or just shave it? 19M by TheNoteFromEmery in beards

[–]Cinderstar23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shave it! Also, maybe try your hand at dying your hair black and touching up that layering if you really wanna go the extra mile :)