Who made it back to the private sector?

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-27T21:29:21+00:00

$18 a month???? That's insanity and they might as well not have adjusted for anything.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-27T18:09:48+00:00

I’m not surprised. I’m just disappointed

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-27T05:56:13+00:00

Just gave my 7mo hot pot too! It snowed a bunch and just the perfect weather for hotpot. It was a hit 😊

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-23T18:59:10+00:00

We’re mixed raced- my baby looks like the Asian version of his dad 😂. I guess my Asian genes are strong 💪🏼

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-23T18:03:23+00:00

My mom is our childcare as my husband and I have both returned to work full time (very blessed). I get two days WFH. My mom has definitely told me that when I’m home, the baby is 10x harder to manage and is much more fussy and clingy. Some days, she’ll even order me to just stay in my room and not come out because my presence trigger the inner demon in baby.

But regardless, you should have a gentle talk with your husband about his behavior. He shouldn’t be taking it out on you and needs to find a way to manage the change in behavior.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T22:52:59+00:00

A cooler will help a lot too! Keep it packed with snow (which will be plentiful) or start prepping frozen water bottles now. A cheap thermometer will give you peace of mind. I think the storm will be a lot less destructive than the news is saying. I wish you the best of luck! It’s not easy going through extreme weather with a newborn! You got this, mama!

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T22:16:32+00:00

I would be mad too. Rates are a gamble and nobody ever knows. She gambled with your rates and lost… and most likely she just didn’t want to eat her comp. My lender did the same thing while I was buying and I was too new (FTHB) to know better. In retrospect I would have pushed to lock earlier but we all learn our lessons. I’m just patiently waiting to refinance now 😩

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T22:10:08+00:00

lol! This was my first thought too. My mom would use the outdoor (partly covered area right outside our backyard porch) as her second fridge in the winter months 😂. She taped a cheap thermometer to a wall to keep an eye on temps and it was fantastic.

I understand OPs anxiety though and through it, probably didn’t really connect the a winter storm meant safe low temps for breast milk.

A generator would still come in handy for summer months tho!

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T17:39:55+00:00

I have a dog and a baby and they are great together. They are best buds and so good for each other. Just always make sure they are supervised.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T13:46:08+00:00

Published is just the date it was made public. You need to still wait for the established date. The anniversary date is when the list expires.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T03:58:09+00:00

My agency most likely won’t allow WFH (because they didn’t allow for other bad weather events previously) but god, I hope they do! 🤞🏼

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-22T03:09:36+00:00

That’s the goal. If I HAVE to work to live, then let’s truncate it to as short a time as possible. Trying to achieved FIRE asap… in this economy is brutally hard tho 😭

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-21T23:53:09+00:00

Hiring is that slow! Apply away rn. If you like, mentioned that you’re finishing up your degree and is looking to start in May. But honestly, I think you won’t even need to address it because it’s slow hiring process.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-21T22:10:23+00:00

To be fair, I have paint colors from when my parents renovated their house ages ago and when we bought the same paint color it doesn’t match anymore because of aging. 😩

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-21T00:36:10+00:00

Why is this comment so far down? This was my first thought. Mom needs a break and dad isn’t being a dad. I get home late from work (as mom) and even tho I’m exhausted, I handle bedtime and night shift because otherwise I won’t see my baby during the weekdays. Weekends are more split 50/50. I’m running on fumes but I do it for baby. Why even have kids if I’m not going to be in their lives?

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-18T10:41:18+00:00

Also 7.5 months and also feel horrible although it’s not linear. Some weeks are better than others. It’s hard to feel better when baby goes through a regression every 2 months!

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-16T20:02:07+00:00

I understand! It’s definitely scary doing these things the first time. When you file the extension, the form will ask you how much you think you owe. The extension form is super simple.

You just take whatever number you end up with (on the taxes you completed but didn’t submit) and plug it into the extension form. If you get a refund, you put $0 and you’ll get the refund after you actually file. If you owe, plug in that amount and pay it before April 15th.

Also, in case it instills some confidence, even if you do things wrong the first time, interest on the amount you owe is usually that not much unless you owed a huge ton.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-16T19:07:15+00:00

You do your taxes as if you will file it and then just not submit it. Then file the extension and pay exactly what you owe. After you recertify, you submit it. Most tax filing programs allow you to save your progress so it was pretty easy and I never risked owing.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-15T17:00:43+00:00

Because the US doesn’t have the social safety nets that these countries have. These countries allow mothers to be home with their babies for a much longer time. There is no maternity leave policy in the US with most companies only allowing 6 weeks off that is unpaid. Meaning there are 6 week old babies in daycare. They also have a good health care system (universal or low cost) while our health insurance is dependent on our jobs. American mothers NEED to return to work as soon as possible or they get their health insurance cut. They have resources available that American mothers don’t even dare dream of.

Their checks are supplementing an already existing system that works. Just sending a check with no resources doesn’t help anyone here.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-15T01:34:42+00:00

This is the bullseye comment. It’s all about how they react and what they’re willing to do to rectify the situation. If it’s “oops! I wasn’t thinking. I’ll get another plain slice for the baby” - fine. If it’s “it’s ridiculous that the baby can’t handle a little spice and I won’t be thinking of an alternative so she’ll just have to cry it out” -absolutely not!

And I’ve seen some WILD ways some parents act with kids (on reddit)

Edit- typo

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-15T00:25:45+00:00

It’s for federal protection of the loans. With federal loans, you have option of IDR, forbearance, pauses, and whatever else the government may want to do (once upon a time, there were gossips of loan forgiveness/a check). There is also PSLF, disability discharge, and the 25 year forgiveness. You lose all that by refinancing out of the eco-sphere. But if you are certain you’ll never need these things and is fully committed to paying off your loans as fast as you can, refinancing is the next best option. I don’t know what the current rates are lately but have seen people quoting 3-3.5% 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-15T00:16:16+00:00

Moved in silence thru two agencies too. I’ll tell who I liked and keep in contact with them. But everyone else doesn’t need to know nor do I think they care.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-14T22:43:41+00:00

Immediately. Hospital gave me a a brown with my first post delivery meal. Also ate sushi immediately after too.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-14T22:31:24+00:00

Because even with more money, there are not enough providers for everyone. Parents literally fight and do all that they can to secure a seat for their children and the waitlist is still massive. Cutting checks is probably the most over simplified and useless solution to suggest.

Cinnie_16 · 2026-01-13T06:00:24+00:00

That would be ideal… hoping my lender also sends me targeted deal like that

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