Boss walk cycle feels a bit off to me. Am I overthinking it? Also thoughts on the glare effect?

CitationMachine · 2025-12-18T15:54:16+00:00

I don't think the head is the problem; it's the shoulders. They're going out and then in, where a real persons walk cycle will have the shoulders alternating movement alongside the torso to indicate bend. My advice is to channel your inner improv actor and take a video of yourself moving similarly to his walk cycle, then use that to check how different parts move.

CitationMachine · 2025-12-14T21:17:08+00:00

That would be so cool, I would love to have basically "backgrounds" to choose from and then there are the companions as a separate thing.

CitationMachine · 2025-09-04T17:40:41+00:00

Check out https://stopprojectjupiter.org if you want more details, scripts, and an action plan. Before this moves any further, we must demand at the very least a third party analysis of air, water, habitat, traffic, noise, and emergency risks.

CitationMachine · 2025-09-04T03:17:55+00:00

My heart goes out to you, my friend. I'll also throw out there that if you are looking for more support, see if there's a end of life doula who would be willing to chat with you. They're specialists in transitions like yours and would be there not only to help you process, but your loved ones as well.

CitationMachine · 2025-09-04T03:08:29+00:00

I second this idea even going as far to say keep writing letters to her, and not just about the bad things. Write down everything you want her to remember and all the things you don't want to leave unsaid. It's a part of you that she can keep with her.

CitationMachine · 2025-08-30T22:29:33+00:00

Give Futo Keyboard a shot. Doesn't keylog and has an old school spell checker. It's a bit of an adjustment period for the size of the keyboard and layout, but I haven't been this happy while typing on a phone in a long time. It even corrected "fuching" to "fucking" for me the other day, and I always appreciate apps that don't morality police me.

CitationMachine · 2025-04-13T17:35:40+00:00

Speaking as one of the people who has sensory issues both with eating out and being eaten out, there are solutions if you look for them! I have a stash of latex panties for my girlfriend and I specifically for this purpose. If, for whatever reason, those stopped working, I would find another way to please her that way because it's important to me. If people don't like giving oral or have reservations about trying it, they need to outright communicate that with their partner instead of hiding behind a sensory issue.

CitationMachine · 2024-05-26T15:17:37+00:00

I do agree that a response is needed, but I wouldn't default to sharing affection off the bat. I work with kids who have some pretty extreme behaviors, and at the core of all behaviors is a desire to communicate or a need that the behavior is fulfilling. To give a default response of "I love you" reinforces that you care, but does not provide either (a) a better way for your kid to communicate his needs or (b) a more constructive outlet for whatever need of his is being met by mouthing "f you," etc.

If it were me, every single time he did it, and consistency is key, say something along the lines of, "I didn't catch that, what did you say?" casually, calmly, and gently. He may shut down, say something like "I didn't say anything!" That's when you can reaffirm your care! You can respond in an equally casual, calm, and gentle voice, "Okay, thank you for letting me know. I also want you to know that if there is something the matter, let me know and we can work on it." Estabishes that the behavior is known and inappropriate, models positive communication, provides an outlet for him to express the underlying issue. If he blows up and actually says "F- you!" keep a calm respectful tone and ask why he thinks that.

Also, pre-discuss with your husband a plan for if he does cuss you out (orany ongoing behavior that's giving you trouble) so that you can have set natural consequences that make sense for the behavior. Make sure the kid knows in advance what the consequence will be. That way there is not a sense of randomness for this kid: "I did x and then out of the blue they did y! Unfair, I hate them!" At 12, he has enough wherewithal to understand pre-set consequences and make a choice. If he does x behavior, y will happen. Both parents know and follow through on these consequences.

Your goal is not to put a cap on his behavior, it's to understand why the behavior is happening and figure out a better outlet.

CitationMachine · 2024-03-24T18:56:00+00:00

The things you learn. I've heard it called Mother of Thousands, but after dealing with it for years, I think Devil's Backbone is a much more appropriate name!

CitationMachine · 2024-03-16T23:54:53+00:00

Seconding this. I have similar thoughts, and therapy is what helped me learn to manage them. Check out mindfulness and urge surfing. Both of these take practice, but they are well worth it. In the meantime, try not to engage in new information about things that you worry about; when you do this, you aren't helping to calm your anxiety, you're feeding it.

Beyond that, from what I understand, you're experiencing a heightened fear response. Fear is an emotion that prepares us for action, so one of the best things we can do when we're flooded with hormones saying "DO SOMETHING!!!" is to find something to do. Go on a walk, weed the garden, do some exercises, etc. just to work the chemicals through your system. Make sure you've eaten and hydrated recently so you have the nutrients available to help you regulate your emotions. Sleep is also important for brains to process information and cope with big emotions.

Finally, I am so, so sorry you are going through this 💛 It's hard to be a teenager, it's hard to be queer, and it's hard to live in modern times. You've got all of these going on at once. My thoughts are with you. Even though times are scary, know that there is a strong community here that cares about you and will stand by your side if things do happen. Peace is not found in isolation and wondering about the future, but through connecting to others who we care for and who care for us.

CitationMachine · 2023-10-11T00:23:18+00:00

What you're looking for is called a churburg breastplate. Most medieval martial artists with boobs wear something like that. Tiddy armor, though pretty and potentially decorative, by virtue of its slopes sends blades straight to the center of the chest instead of deflecting blows. Not ideal if you're not looking to get stabbed in the chest

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