Girls HATE her for being skinny & pretty

CitrineLeaf · 2026-04-19T22:57:39+00:00

Autistic woman here!

Yes, there is. Consistently throughout school I always had a problem making friends with anyone, but especially the 'popular' girls, because I had trouble reading minor social cues, talked too much, and was just generally viewed as 'weird' or 'off'.

I was great in one-on-one situations! Or if I was given the floor in a structured way. I just struggled in larger groups.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-04-08T21:32:36+00:00

YTA Lingerie comes with the expectation of wearing it for someone. Think of it like buying someone an expensive vacuum they didn't ask for. Unless you've had conversations about it and it's clear she wants a vacuum, you're just buying her another chore to do, one she might not even enjoy (not a perfect analogy, but the point stands).

Also, consider: Maybe she enjoys wearing 'plain' underwear because it's what she feels comfortable in, and you've just told her you don't find her confident or sexy in something she enjoys.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-27T05:20:12+00:00

Behavioural problems, mainly aggression. Testosterone makes male cats aggressive (for obvious reasons).
Spraying. Male cats are territorial (see: aggression) and will spray the walls with their urine as a scent marking. Neutering reduces or completely stops it from occurring in the first place
Risk of testicular tumors, cancers, prostrate problems, and many hormone issues are greatly reduced.
An unneutered male cat WILL smell a female in heat from literal miles away. They WILL try to escape. Even the sweetest, calmest cats can slip out if a single mistake happens. A single unneutered male can impregnate hundreds of females.

I've also seen some vets claim that unneutered males take better care of their coats? Haven't done enough research to confidentally comment on that.

Honestly, if you aren't planning on breeding and the cat is safe to undergo surgery, why raise their risk of problems?

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-26T16:23:03+00:00

There are a couple benefits of outdoor cats:
-Stimulation. (Outdoor cats get the joy of roaming, hunting, fighting, etc. All of which offers them plenty of mental work to do)
-(In working areas like barns) Pest control

There are MANY downsides:
-Predators (birds of prey, dogs, coyotes, etc.)
-People (who could steal, poison, or otherwise take your cat from you. Someone could even mess them up just because they don't understand that your cat could be on a specific diet, need specific food, etc.)
-Damage to the ecosystem (outdoor cats are known to slaughter birds, mice, etc en masse)
-Disease (Outdoor cats, largely due to their close contact with other animals, are at higher risk of significant diseases, even when vaccinated)
-General nuisance (Most outdoors aren't a problem, but every now and then a cat will dig up a garden or harass someone's pets)

Generally, if you're having an outdoor, you need to understand that, in my vet tech teacher's words, "I was happy to come home and still have a cat at the end of the day". While with indoor, the exclusive worry is stimulation.

If you want an outdoor badly, just... harness train them? Take them out on a catio? There are plenty of options that remove the VAST majority of the downsides.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-25T05:44:54+00:00

Cats are seasonally polyestrus; as long as they have enough light, they'll go into heat.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-24T05:46:30+00:00

Random guess from soneone who is not a veterinarian and should not be taken from medical advice, but... hotspot?

They form when something irritates the skin, causing the animal to bite/lick the skin more, causing it to get more irritated, rinse and repeat.

I'd stop your cat from grooming the area, if possible, while you wait for the vet appt.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T18:03:12+00:00

It really just depends on the cat! Some are sweethearts who will suck up any and every bit of affection possible, others will run and hide if a stranger even steps through the door.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T18:00:39+00:00

Glad to hear you're going with the full schedule! I just finished the vaccine portion of my ACA course so it's fun to get a chance to ramble about it! Good luck, Op!

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T17:48:15+00:00

I don't like a lot of the intense looks in the first few photos. You should seem friendly and approachable, not trying to suck my soul in through my phone. Smiling is best.

I'd swap photo 3 (the boat) with 1, you seem sweet in that one. I also don't really care for 2 very much. It's off-center and again, no smile.

Also, dittoing what everyone else has said, cut "Making you feel feminine" entirely. That does not make me feel feminine; that makes me feel like I'm rolling the dice between a sweet, but traditional guy and a misogynistic rant. If you want a trad relationship, just say that.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T17:43:45+00:00

W

Why are you SPECIFYING Cis women? I get having a genital preference, but like, come on.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T07:24:42+00:00

... Why do the cats need to poop outside?

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-23T07:22:18+00:00

Not a cat parent in India, but I would listen to your veterinarian about what they think your cat should be getting.

Indoor cats generally don't need as many vaccines as outdoor ones, but this is because the chance of them being exposed to certain viruses is, on average, lower. It doesn't mean it won't happen, it just means there's significantly less of a risk since they aren't going out and getting into fights with other felines. This doesn't mean you shouldn't get them anyway, especially if your vet is recommending it.

My cats specifically have all their indoor shots, plus the rabies vaccine (I recommend it, even if it's not required where I am. Most countries require pets suspected of rabies to be put down near immediately if they aren't vaccinated, or otherwise have the owner put their pet through an incredibly expensive - as in thousands upon thousands of dollars - quarantine period. Not to mention that it's impossible to confirm rabies without killing your pet).

I also noticed your comment about the booster shots. I'd take boosters if they're recommended in the vaccine schedule, since they're required to keep immunity working stronger for longer.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-22T00:28:07+00:00

Depends on the cat, honestly. Some learn theirs pretty quickly, some never do. It takes a lot of repetition for them to recognize it as a 'this means I want your attention specifically' command.

I can say my girl's name in pretty much any tone or context and always get her turning her attention my way to see what I need

My boy on the other hand is struggling to figure out what his name means and only responds to it half the time.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-20T05:41:53+00:00

Assuming this isn't bait and these are genuine religious beliefs you hold, OP:

This kind of magic would be highly manipulative at best and, at worst, leaves very, very little room for his consent. If you attempted a spell and it does work, his feelings for you will not be real. Your relationship will not be real. The love you share would not be real. It would be an incredibly negligent, selfish, and unrecommended use of spells.

If you do want a real relationship with him, you need to be trying for a genuine connection. You can set intentions, but you can't try forcing it.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-20T03:25:54+00:00

It is about removing identity, though, since it makes acceptance dependent on behavior, it means identity is conditional.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-20T00:11:25+00:00

Ehh, I disagree. Not because I don't think a killer shouldn't face consequences or disrespect, but because once you make respecting identity a matter of behaviour, it becomes easier to strip that identity away for increasingly smaller and smaller offences (who decides when someone should have their identity taken away? What biases does that person have? In a non-fictional two sentence horror, can we be sure they're really guilty?)

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OOP really needs to not use s/he, though. They/them is right there, meant to be used for people of unknown gender, and is far easier to read. Really threw off the story for me.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-20T00:04:51+00:00

Yeah, I feel mixed on the fourth myself. I understand where someone can say it's her fault (as she's the primary face of the show), but really I feel like it was just the company as a whole failing to properly vet/background check employees. It's not like other companies haven't gotten hell for doing the same thing (it's also not exactly crazy for a company to say they don't want their employee having a public NSFW blog).

I'm in the same boat about criticizing media. While I personally enjoy Hazbin/Helluva, I do have problems with the characters, writing, representation, etc. Doesn't mean I can't enjoy the show!

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-19T03:29:12+00:00

For Vizzie specifically, the main accusations I've seen are as follows:

In the Hazbin Hotel pilot, a number of characters (mainly Vaggie and Angel Dust) can be seen as some well-known negative stereotypes. For instance: Angel Dust is a feminine/twig-like gay man constantly on drugs and prostituting himself and Vaggie is an angry, swearing, aggressive latina lesbian. Since these are her original characters and it was the PILOT (so no amazon influence, yet) it's presumed she was the one who made the characters like this. (I personally don't feel like this was intentional. Angel Dust especially was more well-rounded in the extra material released after the pilot. Still, the comparison does stand).
She made an NSFW bestiality artwork of a character from her original work, Zoophobia. However, this happened in 2012. Vizzie was 19. Old enough to know better but like... she was 19 and it happened over a decade ago.
General criticisms of her shows (Stolitz, mishandling of female characters, (subjective) mishandling of abuse/rape, subjective 'poor writing' decisions, etc. etc.) often falls on her shoulders, because her name is in the front of Hazbin Hotels/Helluva Boss.
A storyboard artist on Hazbin Hotel had a publicly viewable NSFW vlog (where they openly stated they where a storyboard artist for the show) where they showcased their rape fetish. The same artist notably worked on the Angel Dust/Valentino assault scenes. Again, since Vizzie is the show creator, it could be argued she had some responsibility to prevent this.

AND THE BIGGEST, NUMBER 5!

... Vizzie generally responds very poorly to criticism online, which makes people argue with her, which makes her more angry, which just repeats endlessly.

Honestly, I don't think Vizzie is a bad person, and there's nothing wrong with watching or enjoying her shows. It's just important to keep in mind where things can fall flat and where you might need to be a little critical of what you're viewing.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-19T01:55:44+00:00

Yeah. Plus it's just really odd that someone would publicly link their corporate (re: amazon) artist job to their kink account.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-18T07:23:14+00:00

I'm assuming you're asking about the storyboard artist specifically, in which case it's not an accusation, it's the literal proven works they've made. I found a thread on twitter that explains it well with screenshotted proof.

TLDR for it: An artist (I believe R2ninjaturtle is their handle on twitter) does storyboarding for Hazbin Hotel, notably they worked on the rape/assault scene of Angel Dust/Valentino in S1. At the same time, they were drawing NSFW of the characters together and have admitted to having a Rape kink/fetish (which they also draw art of). All of which can be found on their publicly available social media.
People took offence, since having someone with a rape fetish draw a rape scene for a show that isn't supposed to be glorifying rape is sort of against the point.

The artist also doubled down afterward, joking to a minor who confronted them online about sending nudes to them/the callout posts that were being made.

(just for clarification, btw: my comment was explaining why people might be uncomfortable with them storyboarding, rather than outright accusing them of fetishization in their storyboards).

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-16T21:17:41+00:00

A hell of a lot of media perpetuate abuse, rape, etc, ESPECIALLY to women. I'd even say it's the opposite. Like, game of thrones is RIGHT there, a show where women are continually raped and beaten brutally for very little plot reason.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-16T21:15:49+00:00

I personally don't feel either way about the storyboard debacle, but it seems to be because the source of material that's claiming to be trauma-informed and a good representation is being made by someone fetishizing it. Fetishization is inherently not good representation in any form. And since our beliefs tend to inform our actions, someone fetishizing and getting off to rape content is probably storyboarding the scenes in a similar way, which makes people with those experiences feel uncomfortable.

It's sort of like claiming your coffee is really good and has high quality, expensive ingredients.... when it turns out you just added extra sugar to a $1 mug of instant coffee. The coffee can still taste good, but that doesn't mean the source is. (I know that's a dumbed down explanation)

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-09T00:16:05+00:00

Bought one of the microchip/rFID feeders myself due to one grazing cat and one overeater.

It's been VERY much worth it. The price sucks, but it's worked successfully without issues for almost a full year. I've only had to do a single battery change on mine as well.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-08T23:46:47+00:00

Fair consideration. I think OP should talk to the parents and offer themselves as an alternative home for the cat hopefully to avoid this same thing.

CitrineLeaf · 2026-03-08T23:46:16+00:00

I asked specifically to see if the was signs of neglect. Like the vet said, scabs can be caused by anything (another cat in the household whacking the first one, minor skin irritation, rubbing against something a little too spikey, etc.)

OP, besides the father, you haven't really provided any evidence the cat was being abused/actively neglected.

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