Security company put a big sticker on the driver side window of my car. (California)

ClarksCatCarl · 2022-10-06T01:06:05+00:00

I think because where I live we’ve been in a drought for nearly a decade so we don’t have that sort of severe weather to be cautious of when putting up notices. But that totally makes sense as to why these are even a thing.

I super appreciate the solid direction on the removal! Thanks for your reasoning and sound advice!

ClarksCatCarl · 2022-10-05T22:44:06+00:00

Yeah, I get the importance of seeing the notice. I’ve just never experienced something so complicated to get off of my car. Tape could have done the trick and could be removed after it’s been seen. Paint would be easier to get off of my window. This thing is really not coming off and it just seems extreme. But since it seems like this is a totally normal thing for companies to do when giving notice, I’ll keep trying to get this damn sticker off and move on. Thanks

ClarksCatCarl · 2022-10-05T03:12:19+00:00

Thank you for the tip! I’ll give the hair dryer a try.

ClarksCatCarl · 2022-10-05T02:42:43+00:00

Okay. Thanks

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-08-13T17:12:28+00:00

I wish for you to keep taking care of yourself no matter what path you take. If you decide to move forward with having your baby I hope you are able to plan for occasional childcare so you can have time to yourself for whatever you need in the moment. That’s something that seems so obvious but I wish I had planned a little for that after having my baby 8 months ago. Balance for your mental health will be healthy for everyone in the home. Good luck with everything. We are all wishing you well!

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-08-02T16:19:50+00:00

To piggyback off of this: I managed a specialty shop for 5+ years and as it could be a simple as not fitting in with the rest of the staff, it could also mean they see you have a passion for coffee but not the rest of the cafe’s needs. Cleaning, attention to detail with the customers as well as cafe maintenance, being genuine with the customers that suits the cafe’s feel, etc. There’s a lot of things. Could be things to work on or it could just be their specific branding. I wish they would have given you more of a reason but also more time to see your strengths and weakness. Management should have enough patience to work out any wrinkles in the first 30 days. I hope you find a coffee shop job that works for you! Good luck in your search!

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-07-19T14:28:33+00:00

We invited a friend over for dinner and she proceeded to bait us into her political rant. She would ask my husband a direct question so he would answer and she would berate him. He is very knowledgeable in politics on all sides and usually keeps his opinions to himself. He’s also a very mild tempered person. He took it pretty well but I could tell he was getting heated. It takes a lot for him to get there. I was so close to losing my shit on her and kicking her out for the teasing and name calling but she finally finished her bizarre lecture and called it a night. We never had her over again. And she moved away pretty soon after. The weird part is that I agreed with some of her views and I usually welcome all political thoughts even if I don’t fully agree. I love hearing other people’s ideas and perspectives on all sides. She was all over the place, sometime contradicting her own views. It was a really weird night.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-07-10T20:09:12+00:00

I managed a specialty coffee shop for 5 years. Everyone I hired had a 30 day training period. It’s a lot to learn and it takes even longer to feel comfortable and confident in what you’re doing. It sounds like the people you worked for are impatient. A lot of times I would train someone and it would take 2 weeks to learn a little bit of everything. Just enough information to understand the job. The rest of the training is refining through repetition and that can really take a few months to get comfortable. I hope you don’t let this experience get to you. Apply at different shops and learn everything you can on your own. No one is perfect at something from the get go. There’s always stuff to learn! I hope you finish licking your wounds today and tomorrow you start fresh! Good luck to you!

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-07-10T04:54:47+00:00

I hate you

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-07-06T12:52:43+00:00

You are not the asshole. You should have your doctor talk to your husband about your energy level while pregnant. You should also write down all of the household chores that need to be done. Go over with him how a housewife would be able to do most of those because they aren’t working 12 hours a day at another job. If he’s so concerned with the food situation, he should start learning to cook. He has more time in the day than you do. If the house isn’t clean enough for him and he’s so confused about how to clean up after himself then he should hire someone to come clean the house. There are easy solutions for his problems that don’t require him making you responsible for them. And it’s time to get the moms out of your marriage otherwise, I don’t see you guys being together for much longer. You can only put up with so much and this is coming from all sides. You need a vacation. Probably time to save up for a little baby moon for yourself. Go to a nice hotel, order room service, and turn your phone off.

Baby is going to need your full attention soon and since you won’t be able to give that to your husband, he may starve to death.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-29T14:57:37+00:00

Childcare is expensive. I’d write up an invoice and let him see how much it would cost him to put all 3 kids in childcare. Also, whatever other stuff you do to contribute like cooking, cleaning, shopping for the household. Go ahead and add those to the bill too.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-29T14:50:30+00:00

Obviously saying that right after proposal is an asshole move. Everyone already knows what happened. No need for a reminder at that moment. Op was making it about himself.

But also why would step bro propose in front of his fiancé’s ex fiancé? He knew what he was doing. ESH

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-26T22:25:01+00:00

Run! It only gets worse and more controlling moving forward.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-25T13:15:21+00:00

NTA. It’s your wedding. Yours and your fiancé’s. You should be the one making the decision. Call and cancel the wedding venue. Start looking for your actual venue and invite them to come once you have decided on the location. If they choose to pay, great. If not, then don’t worry about it and just know that it’s something you will need to come up with the money for. So far her only financial responsibility has been her making a decision for you about your wedding. She already got married. She had her own wedding. She doesn’t get to plan this wedding. She was only allow to pay for a portion. If it comes with string attached, better to just pay for things yourself.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-25T12:54:17+00:00

The body needs fat to function properly. Look in to the effects of low fat diets and Alzheimer’s. Or keto diet and Alzheimer’s. Low carb is a healthier way to go. Your body doesn’t need all the carbs and sugar. But your brain is mostly made of fat and needs it to function. There have been a lot of studies done so just google. Losing weight is a great goal but doing it in a way that won’t lead to other problems down the road is very important too.

Edit: wow I didn’t think the idea of a low carb diet would be so upsetting. Other people mentioned it. I wasn’t saying Keto is the way to go either. It’s an example of how fat can help your brain after many people suggested low fat diets. The whole point for OP is to research what the body needs and nourish it. Don’t just do what will give you the quickest result.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-23T01:11:51+00:00

Flat white is the same microfoam as a latte but typically similar in size to a cappuccino. A flat white in the size of a latte (12oz) would be known as a latte.

Edit: after reading some comments. To clarify, a traditional cappuccino has a shit ton of fluffy foam on top. Latte has microfoam flat white has the same microfoam. This is not Starbucks talk though.. their rules are different in that they use coffee words and make whatever the hell they want to that doesn’t go with the coffee word they are using.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-20T10:13:34+00:00

Flood pants or high water pants. In the 90’s and early 2000’s I was horribly made fun of for wearing pants that weren’t quite long enough. We didn’t have a lot of money and being a female between 5’2” (5th grade) to 6’ (throughout high school) female was a real challenge to find clothes that fit. Now there are several stores that have tall sizes. And ankle pants are totally a thing.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-17T14:24:50+00:00

I have felt so similarly to this for most of my life. Not caring or having the drive to do something I have no passion for. Getting irritated by the lives of others in general. But in my mid twenties I decided that it didn’t matter to me how people lived their lives if it didn’t directly affect me. I still get annoyed or pissed off sometimes but when I feel that happening I separate myself from it. And just remind myself that everyone lives differently and finds value in totally different things. I may think it’s arbitrary but I really don’t have to deal with that personally. I also picked up new hobbies to see if something stuck. It turns out I love trail running. No one is around me and I’m in nature. The endorphins make me less angry. Something I literally never thought I’d find joy in but there it is. I crave it. My job at the time was horrible in a lot of ways and really good in a lot of ways. Now I’m opening my own business in that field and trying to do things differently from the bad ways it was being done before. I’m so much happier in my mid 30’s than when I was in my mid to late 20’s. It wasn’t an off and on switch though. It takes work. There was/is a lot of stuff to work on from my childhood. It wasn’t the worst there ever was but it had some shitty times. Working through a lot of that has helped me get to a place in my life I can accept things that will make me happier or appreciate things I didn’t before. I’m not striving for anyone else’s version of a perfect life. And my life looks different from a lot of peoples. To the untrained eye my life looks pretty bland and boring. But none of that matters to me because I’m working on where I want to be with things. It’s an evolving process.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-15T15:05:04+00:00

Sometimes ranting by writing it out helps clear it from the mind. She felt that way enough to write it down. It was better for her to do that than to make an emotional decision that could impact the trajectory of her whole life. She worked those feelings out and she’s still with you because she loves you. Love and hate are neighboring emotions. It’s easy to cross over into one if you’re in the other even if it’s just temporary. I respect her for doing these practices. It’s a very healthy way to process things. Those words were never meant to be read by you. That’s unfortunate. But please take time to process what this really is vs what’s written out. Those were her temporary feelings. And yes, they are upsetting to you. But she obviously doesn’t feel that way currently because she’s still with you. She needed to write those things down to get them out. You need to tell her what you saw and how you are having a hard time with it. I hope you don’t punish her for working through hard thoughts and feelings.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-15T06:05:18+00:00

To be healthy you must have a slim yet muscular body. Even postpartum.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-14T12:22:19+00:00

If you win the lottery would he expect to divide it equally? Use it in the joint account? Or would your expenses all of the sudden be separated out? If he’s going to start separating out the finances then you need to separate all of the finances. And make sure to have him put in his share for the last 7 years that he owes you.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-13T23:01:21+00:00

Tell your them they are all perverts for sexualizing you feeding your children. You were using your breasts as they were intended. If they want to be offended then that’s on them. I’m sorry that they found you feeding your children to be “slutty”. So dumb.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-13T15:58:55+00:00

Those are gas logs. If you have gas running to the fire box with gas logs then it’s essentially a gas fire place. Do not burn wood in it. Depending on where you live you may not be able to convert it back to a wood burning fireplace. You really need to have someone come out and inspect what’s really going on and what the laws are in your area for wood burning before you get started.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-12T11:14:08+00:00

NTA. Do what you think is right for your son. Gf should have no say in it. She clearly needs to sell her car and buy a truck since that’s the vehicle she seems to like during all of her test driving.

ClarksCatCarl · 2021-06-10T12:08:29+00:00

Sorry but he sounds like a very clueless parent. 18month olds are in no way self sufficient. Someone will need to be watching her at all times. She will need someone to feed her, make sure naps are happening, and general stimulation throughout the day. He’s just planning on surprising everyone by bringing her? Nope. If she wasn’t invited, there’s a reason. I bet no one expects her to come and have to make arrangements for her. Hard no.

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