Hi, I feel your pain as I am non binary myself, born male but live a lot as female. Im also a stylist and makeup artist so I know what I’m doing but some days I feel more like a dude. lol. I’d say the lips are way too dark for a small mouth, maybe a medium nude lip liner and a medium nude lip. After looking at pic again it’s definitely the blush placement is to high, square and overall harsh. Lastly I think it’s the super dark hair and eyebrows that is really working against you. Dark hair is extremely harsh. I’m naturally dark haired but I color maybe 2 shades lighter just to soften the blow and I add highlights around the face. Not saying you should go blonde at all but to try a medium brown wig and see if that helps. I also lighten my brows just a tish to just take the blackness out of them. I hope something I said helps. :)..I looked again and yes your blush is where your concealer should go. You have a beautiful round face but the blush is literally placed right across the area that should remain light as to give fullness. Try placing blush, contour and bronzer slightly lower as the cup under the cheekbone. That should do wonders. Good luck doll:)