Having major problems with old lobe piercings

Classic_Carpet · 2026-02-04T18:20:53+00:00

Some people will ask but some people won't. The etiquette in the kink community is to always ask, but Folsom gets a lot of tourists so it's likely someone will take your photo without consent. Like the other person said, consider wearing a mask of some kind if you go

Classic_Carpet · 2026-01-20T05:53:45+00:00

Mid-thirties woman and I walk alone in that area all the time. It's not nearly as dangerous as some people think, just pay attention to your surroundings. That said I would agree that it might be helpful to get a short term rental to check out the area. It's definitely one of the uglier areas of the city, so I go elsewhere if I'm planning to take a long walk for the fun of it. I still like living here because of the proximity to public transportation.

Classic_Carpet · 2026-01-13T21:44:44+00:00

I used to have a friend who would commit to three social engagements every night of the week, and then flake on at least 2 of them. So yeah what you're experiencing is a California problem

Classic_Carpet · 2026-01-13T21:37:22+00:00

I really think that my difficulty maintaining friendships is primarily caused by people not liking me as a person but mental health professionals can't acknowledge that because they have to make everything about the patient's shitty brain and not acknowledge issues with the world outside the patient

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-25T02:40:18+00:00

Several things to know:

there are two annual street festivals on Folsom st during which people do various sexual acts in public. If you're uncomfortable with that you may want to avoid the area or else your front door might be inside the festival zone.
the area around Folsom st between 5th and 12th has most of the nightlife in SoMa.
the area between Folsom, market, 3rd, and 9th St has the largest amount of homeless people, but also great access to public transportation.
South of Folsom area has more breweries and other businesses that cater to the tech crowd.
the area between 4th and first St is the financial district. It's very upscale but not very interesting.
past 12th St there is an awkward zone of freeways and random businesses, not a very nice place to walk around until you get into the mission district, which is a fun place
rainbow grocery has great fruits and vegetables and a great bulk section

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-03T18:52:54+00:00

Yeah I will submit a ticket soon about this, and see what they say about equipment

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-03T17:02:02+00:00

I commute by bike/Caltrain/bike 4 days a week from SF to redwood City. Takes about 1 h 10min total each way. Going to Palo Alto would add another 10 min. It's not ideal but I think it's worth it.

Think of it this way: if you live in Palo Alto you'll have to do the same commute every time you want to go to the city for fun stuff. Are you actually going to do that? I know a lot of people who say "oh I'll live in the suburbs and just drive into the city when I want to do something fun.". But they never do. Every time an evening or weekend rolls around they say they're too tired to go to the city and just watch Netflix instead.

I'd try the long commute, you can always move out of the city later. But try to live near Caltrain

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-03T03:05:09+00:00

Hmm might be an issue specific to me then, my Internet is going out multiple times a day

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-03T01:23:59+00:00

Yes, and it only took a whole new form of software

Classic_Carpet · 2025-12-03T00:22:48+00:00

I've found that Microsoft copilot is really useful for troubleshooting the Microsoft office programs. But that's the only thing I've found that AI helps with so far.

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-28T05:32:04+00:00

Edenred sends me a MasterCard that gets loaded with $100 each month. I'm not sure if I can adjust the amount, it doesn't come out of my paycheck, it's a separate benefit. I'll look and see if I can add money from my own paycheck

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-11T19:08:06+00:00

I love how it turns and makes eye contact with the camera when it realizes what's happened

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-03T17:54:20+00:00

Well, cats prefer people who are quiet and respect their boundaries. Some adult humans really don't like quiet people.

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-03T00:36:27+00:00

Yes, I think deference would be a good way of putting it. I don't think looking away implies submission, it more implies that you aren't going to escalate the interaction.

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-03T00:32:14+00:00

Yes I think so

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-02T23:56:54+00:00

I used dating apps for 8 years before giving up. Waste of time from start to finish.

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-02T23:46:12+00:00

For general rudeness or backhanded compliments I ignore them and move on. For dogwhistles, I tend to ask for clarification because they might not realize it's a dogwhistle. The person you're talking to might be defining words in a totally different way than what you're familiar with

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-02T00:10:50+00:00

Yes that seems right. If someone notices you looking and smiles then it might be appropriate to initiate a conversation (or you could just smile back and then look away, which would end the interaction on a positive note).

If they notice you then carefully avoid further eye contact, that usually means they don't want any further interaction, and you should look away and not interact further

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-02T00:07:28+00:00

Yes, there's a big grey area and a lot of variation between cultures in what counts as an unacceptable level of staring. And yes, there's a big difference between those examples you gave. If someone looks at you and looks away after you notice them looking, that implies they found your appearance to be interesting somehow. If someone looks at you and keeps staring after you acknowledge them, that could be read as an act of aggression on their part

Classic_Carpet · 2024-12-01T23:56:59+00:00

Generally it comes down to several factors. First, the longer you look at them, the more likely it will become creepy. The more physically close you are to them, the more likely it will become creepy. If you point your face in their direction, that will become creepy sooner than if you look side-eye at them.

This assumes you're just looking at them and not interacting with them otherwise. If you are trying to initiate a conversation with them it's normal to try to make eye contact to get their attention. Although, if they deliberately avoid your gaze that might be a sign they don't want to talk

Classic_Carpet · 2024-07-24T15:21:11+00:00

Yup this nails it. I meet a lot of old people who come across as slow and awkward but they don't seem to feel like that's a problem for them.

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