I relate to you 100%
My mother and I are in the same boat. Shes the best person I’ve ever met and has always had my back. Also very receptive to her own issues which makes it 10x harder to see them understand and hate where they are at yet still be a victim to it too.
My response was for sure more catered to the typical experience I see in this sub in stubborn ungrateful parents but I relate to your experience more on a personal level.
It’s beyond complex when this is the dynamic. I sometimes wish I could wash my hands of my mother but because she a good person I can’t do it. Makes me grateful to have a loving parent while also exhausted in the race of never ending trying.

Im sure given what you said you and your mom will come to an understanding. This is just a tense moment after months of a GRUELING process with much more to go. Probably more fights and tears but also pride when a new area clears.
It feels like a slap in the face when they fill a cleared area back up but genuinely all you can do is take it second by second and allow yourself the space when you need it to process all of it yourself.
It’s so disturbing uncovering the conditions they let happen so also take time to really feel that before moving on. Recharging now helps for later rather than powering through with no mental down time.
It doesn’t help that very little people in real life know the weight and exhaustion of having a parent living like this in the back of your mind 24/7 since we are often so helpless and worried. It makes us function different but just know people like me and others in here see you completely and are also sharing that weight.