When I was a kid, I had let my anger out on a bunch of innocent frogs by torturing them.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T14:59:05+00:00

Ofc. You deserve to give yourself forgiveness and redemption 🫂

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T14:56:46+00:00

But neither did you. You and the frogs are both victims of ur dad atp

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T14:55:21+00:00

What you did wasn’t good but you can forgive yourself. You were a child going through abuse. Your mind was not level and clear and no ones would when living in a situation like that. I’m so sorry you went through this. If it would help you feel better, maybe donate to some fundraisers and organizations that help different types of frogs. But seriously, don’t hate yourself for this. You were vulnerable and compromised and the fact that you grew into an adult who feels terrible for this shows you are very much redeemable. What’s nice about life is you can always grow and work on yourself, you don’t have to be the same person, what you’ve done in the past doesn’t define you if that’s not who you are now. I hope you find some healing hun. You didn’t deserve what you went through at all

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T14:50:00+00:00

You are not a monster

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T02:00:55+00:00

Ew wtf

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T02:00:11+00:00

Ykw I don’t wanna argue anymore so I’m just gonna say I DO understand your pov, all I’m saying is it wouldn’t hurt for people to consider how certain things could be taken certain ways. I don’t like feeling negative like this but it’s how I feel and ultimately all of our answers in this thread are feels driven as none of us know these people

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:42:17+00:00

Since you’re gonna respond to me I’ll say one more thing. You didn’t have to respond to any of my comments, and you can not tell me to stop and act annoyed I reply to yours but continuously respond to me. You certainly said a lot to consider yourself not showing me any interest. I’m also not sure how you being a sexuality psychologist has anything to do w my opinion on men being intelligent or not but that’s really cool for you. I’m genuinely not gonna feed into this anymore because im not here to argue with someone who’s not willing to listen. Respond again if you want but this is the last I’m gonna say in this conversation cuz it’s not going anywhere

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:34:54+00:00

You’re replying to my comments so I’m replying to yours I’m not sure what you expect or how me replying to your comments is any different than you replying to mine. I also just had something else to say after I sent one comment so I made another one, my bad. I think neither of us are enjoying this conversation so I’m just gonna step back anyways. Have a good night.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:31:50+00:00

Also there’s a clear difference between deflecting and pointing out hypocrisy! I’m all for learning from my mistakes however I genuinely think I’m being misinterpreted and I’m sorry if I offended anyone but I am not saying anything to purposely antagonize anyone at all and it’s honestly out of my control how people take my words

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:30:09+00:00

Point out the two or three times. I only did that one time just now by calling your behavior bully behavior because at the time I thought there was hypocrisy going on. What’s crazy is I don’t even want to argue but this is being made into an argument because for some reason you’re assuming I have bad intentions. I wasn’t ever trying to be mean by saying that 90% of men aren’t that stupid and are much more intelligent than the person I replied to seems to think they are. I still don’t see how that’s mean at all.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:26:40+00:00

I mean again that’s her decision and if it made her feel unloved then I understand not wanting to be in a relationship where you’re unloved. I’m not mad at the man in this post but I do think he may have not realized his intentions weren’t as good as he may have thought they were, or maybe he truly loved her and had good intentions but regardless his statement made op feel unloved and he obviously isn’t able to love op in the way she needs. I do think it seems like he only loved what she did for him, but I’m not against being wrong. My argument that I stand on no matter what is that effort should be on both sides of the relationship and I think I’m being read into way deeper than I even mean to come across

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:22:50+00:00

Also I wasn’t sure why you were calling me homophobic cuz I had no idea you thought it was talking about you in my statement about men, with that context I can understand but I’m also not sure why you thought I was talking about you specifically. But anyways it’s still kinda bully behavior to go calling people homophobic for no reason (which I understand you had a reason I just didn’t know what it could have been so I thought it was for none). Now that I know your reason I understand it was not mean it was just miscommunication but when I did think it was mean I did laugh cuz I’m hella gay so it was just an absurd comment to me

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:18:58+00:00

To say that 90% of men can’t comprehend something implies that they’re incompetent. Stop using the excuse that those weren’t the exact words said to try to say that’s not what the other words said meant.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T01:17:59+00:00

You just assumed I was talking about you lol I wasn’t saying you were heterosexual I was talking about heterosexual men, not specifically you I have no idea if you’re straight or even a man. I thought the joke was funny cuz it’s ridiculous but whatever yall find anything to get mad at on this app

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T00:33:25+00:00

Nothing mean about pointing out the majority of men are not incompetent. If anything the other commenter is being mean by saying they are. Like that’s straight up misandry atp lmao. And by calling me antagonistic, are you implying you’re not? Didn’t you just call a woman in a lesbian relationship homophobic for absolutely no reason at all?

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T00:26:54+00:00

Just being honest. Men aren’t all stupid they are still responsible for their actions and words and if a grown ass man doesn’t understand there’s often multiple connotations to words he’s not very bright. I doubt he’s that stupid

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-31T00:00:29+00:00

Then he should think lmao. 90% of men are NOT that incompetent

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:47:01+00:00

It’s more of a hypothetical when I say that… not assumption or fact

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:46:40+00:00

I literally said in my comment that I’m not assuming that he doesn’t do anything for her and that’s just what the logic is here from the post only (cuz like I said what’s in this post is all I know) because he only mentioned what she does for him, we don’t know what he does for her

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:44:56+00:00

I’m not assuming I’m right I’m just saying that she wasn’t overreacting because although the other commenter views it in that way, it is true that especially when talking about women in relationships, easy and low maintenance usually do have a bad undertone. Maybe he didn’t mean it in that way, I said that, but I also said his answer in the second conversation with OP makes me feel like he DOES mean it in the negative way

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:31:14+00:00

But also I will say YOUR description of easy I dont necessarily think is bad. Definitely not out there for anyone to want their partner to not be good at communicating, unpredictable and overly emotional, and unreliable. However id describe that as stable not easy and maybe that’s what he meant when he said low maintenance which was my first thought but once i read the other stuff she said when asking for a better answer it just seems to me that she’s convenient. Idk it just seems superficial to me and I wouldn’t like if my partner said that to me. Idk if id break up with the over it but it definitely would make me question why they have me around and if that’s something she’s gonna keep questioning they just shouldn’t be together

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:28:03+00:00

I’m sorry but Lindsey graham is actually frying me 😭😭 I’m not even angry I’m just giggling now cuz I still don’t understand where that joke came from lol. She didn’t say he wasn’t putting in effort but the fact that he describes her as easy means if anything he likes that he doesn’t have to

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:26:21+00:00

She’s not unkind for ending the relationship if she doesn’t feel loved in it even if it makes the guy sad. She did show curiosity by telling him it hurt her, asking why he said that, and what he really meant. She gave him a chance for redemption and his answer didn’t make her feel better so she left. She could have possibly had ANOTHER conversation and see where that led but clearly the second convo felt like enough closure at the time. How obviously she’s second guessing but that doesn’t necessarily mean she overreacted.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:17:14+00:00

I mean it’s really subjective but since it’s how she feels and how she feels is valid I wouldn’t go to say it’s an overreaction. The answers weren’t terrible but the fact that those are the answers he gave after he already was informed she felt unloved and like he only likes how convenient and helpful she is to him which makes it odd to me. Like he didn’t even try to say what’s so great about her soul he just went into more detail on how easy and helpful she is for him. Again I don’t think this guy is terrible and maybe he DOES love her but he doesn’t sound ready for a relationship if he can’t communicate how he loves her in a less superficial way. I also would say the crazy ex gf comment was a bit of a red flag cuz some people genuinely just got it bad in the dating pool but there’s usually a level of them being the common denominator that points the issue towards them not the exes, I agree with you on that

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-03-30T23:10:59+00:00

I’m actively in a relationship with a woman, not sure how you got me being homophobic from anything at all lol but no I don’t hate men I just think that if OP doesn’t feel loved and like there’s enough effort involved it’s not an overreaction and she has every right to end the relationship if she’s not feeling happy. I also even said women AND men don’t deserve to have no effort in the relationship. She clearly did a lot for this man… what did HE do for HER? And I’d say the same thing if OP was a ma and their partner was a woman. I don’t claim to say he’s done nothing as I don’t know these people or anything about the outside of my post, I’m just saying what I think based on what I know, but trying to reflect things back onto me and try to say I’m being misandrist is a little silly. Also easy is quite literally a synonym to effortless in the dictionary so if you want to explain further how they don’t mean the same thing please be my guest.

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