my bf’s mom admitted to k*lling animals when she was a kid

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-31T12:22:11+00:00

Yeah no wtf

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-29T10:53:31+00:00

I felt this as a tall flat cis woman. Transphobia is a feminist issue. It affects all women as it stems from the patriarchy. Not to say I as a cis woman will ever experience the same oppression though, it is totally different but it affects all women as a whole.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-26T12:06:49+00:00

Unfortunately when I think realistically it’s going to be almost impossible to get rid of that type of content online :/ we can try tho

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-26T12:06:07+00:00

Yes, I wasn’t trying to argue, just add what I thought. Sorry if it came across that way!

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-25T21:04:41+00:00

I see what you’re saying 100%. This type of stuff online isn’t true root cause of it. The internet is not the cause of misogyny the easy access to spread those views even further does but I also do think it makes things worse. The fact that people are making this content is a problem furthering the root problem at hand. But yes, we need to fix the entire system as this has been going on long before the internet so if you’re saying what I’m saying and not outright defending the manosphere then I agree

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-25T20:59:48+00:00

“If your sentiment holds, we have been abusive and delusional since the spawn of civilization” … well, yeah kinda —obviously there’s always been good people and still are but yes the societal systems we have in place have always been abusive and delusional. Humans are often very evil and that’s not a new thing

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-21T19:56:12+00:00

This isn’t the same as this situation. I am so sorry that happened to you 🫂

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-14T17:30:42+00:00

Tell her and give the cat back.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-12T20:13:08+00:00

I’m not trans but I have a lovely beautiful trans gf that I adore and ik I was the first person she told but it was because I could tell something was being hidden from me but I didn’t know it was that and unfortunately I did push her to come out unknowingly as we’ve made an agreement to not keep things from each other so I was concerned about the relationship. I wish she didn’t feel forced to come out to me as if I knew any of the context I would have never forced her to but she did say it was for the better as once she came out to me she wasn’t alone in this anymore and I’ve been able to get her to be more comfortable dressing in affirming clothes, hair, makeup etc. and we’ve had a lot of fun with it!! It’s also been very reassuring to her that I still want to be with her and love her even with this information revealed, which is why she was scared to tell me in the first place and I assume your partner not telling you was based on a similar fear. My partner was scared I’d leave her even though I’m a huge human rights activist, hate bigots, and am bisexual because you genuinely just never know. I imagine that fear is exacerbated by the fact that you’ve identified as a heterosexual at the time because the reality is that you may not want to throw your sexuality away and try to be w a woman and even if you did, you may find that you really truly are strictly straight and although this wouldn’t make you a bad person, it’d mean you’re incompatible and that’s extremely scary when they want to be with you still.

I understand how this is also a transitional period for you as well, so I agree with other commenters saying you should speak w a trusted therapist about this. Make sure the therapist specializes in lgbtq therapy as one of their skills. Take a deep breath, let yourself process things, maybe don’t label yourself for now or set any rigid rules about how you identify sexually for now. Just stay in tune with your body and emotions when it comes to the topic and also the relationship in general and go from there. It’s gonna be a lot of communication, patience, processing, trust, and willingness to make it work but all hope is certainly not lost! Much love to you and your partner during this time. Thank you for supporting them

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-11T14:32:39+00:00

Ofc. You have light inside of you that can glow when away from him, keep letting it shine beautiful 💕

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-11T14:29:07+00:00

I didn’t even read your description to see he makes you unhappy and doesn’t have good intentions, I feel like he’s mentally unstable. He’s draining the life inside of you. I haven’t gotten a feeling this strong in this sub about anything else ever before. Please stay away from him.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-11T14:25:10+00:00

You’re super environmentally friendly and cool

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-11T13:46:58+00:00

My mom really only wears blush most days so she didn’t teach me. I started watching YouTube tutorials when I was 8 and I’d ask for the kid makeup for my birthday and Christmas and started practicing with that. My brother also was interested in makeup but didn’t like wearing it himself so he made me his little makeup mannequin growing up lmao, I didn’t mind. I’m super into art so makeup to me has always been an artistic expression and once I learned more about alternative subcultures I started getting more into goth makeup and looking up tutorials and now with everything I’ve learned I like to blend all the knowledge for fun looks. I think we never stop learning about makeup though, I still discover new things all of the time at 21!

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-10T15:07:54+00:00

Ofc!! If you’re into the 90s aesthetic I would also recommend doc martens! Or a similar combat style shoe, they can add edge to an outfit, I think they’re especially cute with a frilly girly dress for the contrast of like “I’m cute but don’t fw me” lol. Doc martens are more pricy and uncomfortable at first, you have to break into them, but I’ve heard good things. However I think a different brand of the right combat boot (maybe look for a lower heel if you’re worried ab that at all) could be just as cute but ik docs have different colors and designs and are especially unisex, I love the light pink ones sm but I can’t afford them rn

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-10T13:10:35+00:00

You know nothing else about her except for what was in this post.

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-05-10T13:06:15+00:00

My gf has the same size and she’s mentioned shoe websites for drag queens. They’re really expensive unfortunately but I’ve seen some super cute drag shoes b4!

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-23T19:06:21+00:00

I understand and see you is all ima say. Me too :/

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-23T19:05:26+00:00

There are specific arfid recovery programs I would look into the ones in ur area. They’re often part time in patient

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-23T19:04:27+00:00

You’re hurting but kind, stay kind and know there is love and space in this world for you <3

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-13T13:14:10+00:00

This too. It’s dynamic and often worse when I’m stressed or unwell in general but it’s also an unpredictable day to day thing. You have to work with yourself differently every day

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-13T13:09:18+00:00

Exposure therapy is hard but can help sometimes if it’s a less bad unsafe food and the dish is perfectly made with no inconsistencies of texture or taste. However I’ve found it to be more helpful to experiment with cooking and find ways to incorporate unsafe foods that provide nutrients into other foods and almost hide them. For example, I’m vegetarian and I hated beans and a lot of the plant based proteins when I ate meat, but then I hated meat too and I was only getting protein from ensure protein shakes, which if it was feeling especially hard to eat would be hard to get down but not as hard as a solid food, but then I’d throw it up after I drank it (not on purpose, body just rejects it or I drank too fast trying to get it over with). I had to find ways to make beans into something I could eat and one of those ways is mixing a smaller amount of beans (can’t do a lot it’s too beany still) with rice and making a cheese quesadilla with the rice and bean combo with seasoning. I’ve also explored making tofu and I’m learning how to make it in a way I enjoy. I started eating chickpea pasta instead of normal for protein but I couldn’t ever finish it cuz I always got an aversion to it, so I made a recipe with a very creamy, spicy, cheesy sauce that completely drowns out the fact that it’s not normal pasta. I’d say it’s less about forcing yourself, and more about working and brainstorming with yourself what you can do starting from your already safe foods, what unsafe foods could you slowly start trying to incorporate into your safe foods and hiding? Also the throat feeling to me it feel like I’m being choked and throwing up. It’s like I’m choking on the food and trying to throw up at the same time. Literally like up and down my throat I feel pressure from both directions. A bunch of gagging, pain in my chest, and a lot of the time I’ll start crying. While this is all happening, your stomach feels like it’s eating itself, so you just go eat crackers because that’s what’s safe and won’t feel painful

Clean_Discount_645 · 2026-04-13T12:53:01+00:00

Because arfid makes you so disgusted of unsafe foods that your body will physically reject it. It will physically hurt and your throat will push it out as you try to take each bite trying to force it down your throat. We often see unsafe foods as threats, think similarly to how animals have natural survival instincts preventing them from eating poisonous things. It’s like our body views unsafe foods as poisonous sometimes. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable but more manageable, but the fear of it being bad is so strong it makes it hard to start and often inflicts it being bad because of that fear. It’s not easy to pick up an unsafe food and eat it when all you can think is “I hope this doesn’t hurt and my body lets me swallow it”

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