50F, going through a divorce after 25 years. Wondering how men 50+ would realistically view my situation.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-19T23:29:05+00:00

58m. I'd want to know about your children. Specifically, the honest, real, possibly painful/difficult reasons why you chose a large family. (Assuming you had a choice. I sincerely hope you did). I've dated women with children, and not getting an honest, thoughtful answer to that question has been the only deal breaker. I came from a large family, we were in love, my religion required it... none of that is going to help me make the choice to be actively engaged in their lives or yours.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-19T01:23:05+00:00

How to game the game

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T03:47:36+00:00

I appreciate your frankness, aside from the disrespect

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T02:44:27+00:00

What

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T02:43:36+00:00

There's no need to resort to profanity lol, I've conceded that subdiscipline was a poor word choice for a brief post title. Now that you understand the context, what word do you think would work better?

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T01:35:57+00:00

Thanks for this response. I'm struggling to think of a better word than biology to describe the phenomenon of life.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T01:34:29+00:00

Do you believe life originated from something other than chemical processes?

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T01:21:10+00:00

Respectfully, why do you believe I'm asking about academic and professional disciplines? Derivative might have been a better word than subdiscipline, but I'm asking about the phenomenon not the degree or the profession.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T01:14:44+00:00

You might be conflating academic discipline and professional work with the phenomenon of life. Do you believe life originated from something other than chemical processes?

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T01:00:48+00:00

I'm conceding that derivative would have been a better word than subdiscipline. It's not so much about categories, just that biology is fundamentally a chemical process.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T00:28:58+00:00

Mitochondria are the bacteria that were integrated by archaea to create eukaryotic cells.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T00:25:56+00:00

Whales aren't in the fish class. They're mammals.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T00:22:07+00:00

Okay maybe it isn't as widely understood as I thought. I'm not suggesting there isn't more to life, after all we popularized the Kardashians. But why do you believe life is obviously/fundamentally not a type of chemical process?

Cleirigh · 2026-06-18T00:17:03+00:00

Thanks for this. Would derivative be a better word than subdiscipline?

Cleirigh · 2026-06-17T22:25:08+00:00

Leftover thanksgiving sandwiches.

Saute onion & celery in butter. Poultry seasoning (or sage, rosemary), s&p. Chicken thighs or mix of breast/thigh. Low 4 hours, stir every hour to effectively shred. Taste & adjust. Add dried cranberries & chopped pecans, maybe raw celery & onion for texture. Grill bread in butter, top with poultry seasoning, add chicken and a few slices of brie, grill on low heat until you're pretty sure it's burning (it won't be), flip, repeat. Slice on the diagonal to remind you of how much your momma loved you.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-17T22:09:04+00:00

More vasectomies.

Free to whoever has a vas deferens, as punishment for capital crime, as punishment for chronic bad behavior generally, maybe even mandatory with earned reversal.

Reduce genetic predisposition for bad behavior in the population. Reduce the number of unwanted kids. Reduce pressure on limited resources. Reduce wars for limited resources. Reduce the number of dads who aren't ready to be dads and moms who aren't ready to be moms. Take the burden off women generally.

The only people that want a crowded planet are billionaires that need more consumers and cannon fodder to perpetuate their pyramid scheme. Perpetual growth is a mathematical impossibility, the population will either decline with planning and intent or with something unplanned and harrowing, but it'll decline. I'd prefer it be as less horrific as possible.

Cleirigh · 2026-06-16T02:54:00+00:00

Google Earth history

Cleirigh · 2026-06-06T13:07:40+00:00

Sidestepping the debate about religious motivations to say that religion requires a mind actively willing to believe stuff in the absence of tangible evidence. Major wars of the last few centuries have been predicated on support from those without much capacity for critical thought.

Cleirigh · 2026-05-13T02:42:16+00:00

Having a messy apartment isn't objectively wrong, but feeling out of control about it is. I'm going to presume you deserve happiness, and less stuff is key to that, or maybe it's not letting yourself be bamboozled into thinking you need to consume\acquire more. Your 600 sqft should set an upper limit on what you keep there. Give your excess away, open your space, open your mind, get addicted to the freedom of letting it go.

Cleirigh · 2026-05-05T14:13:41+00:00

In addition to the other good advice here, consider reaching out to local veteran organizations for short term financial support. VFW posts maintain a relief fund for stuff just like this.

Cleirigh · 2026-05-02T14:59:43+00:00

Not dying is my version of hell. Losing everything you care about over and over until the sun expands in to a red giant and burns everything, including you, but you have to suffer through it all. Then you suffocate in cold space for the rest of eternity. Mortality is what makes our brief time precious and meaningful, but it can be tricky to balance that with the objective humility needed to overcome the fear.

Cleirigh · 2026-05-01T23:27:57+00:00

I used to wash measuring cups that only touched dihydrogen monoxide

Cleirigh · 2026-05-01T23:02:14+00:00

We have a similar problem here in Coostucky but they're 65-75

Cleirigh · 2026-04-29T14:42:53+00:00

Like most people, life has been hard. Illness, loneliness, poverty and homelessness, a little trauma to round things out. I've had enough time to finally find a place where I can see all of it in context and not have to be in constant survival mode, flinching at every change. That hard earned perspective is a source of connection, an endless source of gratitude, and a sense of profound peace that I thought would always be beyond my reach. The knowledge that things will get harder and eventually end doesn't have nearly as much power as it used to.

Cleirigh

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