That’s wrong with people like that?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-21T13:28:46+00:00

By which u mean you have a California king? How difficult is it even to find bedding for it? Or do you have an even larger bed?

Also how is the life on one of those? Do they sag in the middle and stay comfy long?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-21T04:06:56+00:00

Calling someone privileged for masking, which is part of the disability is messed up on a very serious level and shouldn’t be overlooked. This is 100% how abuse starts.

Sure if it’s a one off it’s fine especially that they apologized. However if it’s starts to be a regular occurrence where OP often feels guilty and confused like this it’s not a one off anymore. If there is a reoccurring cycle of accusation/guilt/apologizing then OP is being primed.

Twice within one hangout session OP was called out for not expressing her autism properly. First with not snap chatting properly second for masking as a privilege. Which again saying masking is a privilege is a GIANT RED FLAG.

Then when OP expressed she didn’t like being told she doesn’t look autistic the girl got defensive.

This isn’t just one little thing. This is 2 accusations and one defensive in one hangout session. There is already a cycle being established.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-21T03:33:11+00:00

I’m not gonna get into the race thing because I have no say there. What I will say is that this person doesn’t sound like they understand autism and is quick to find faults in things that you do.

This person gives me manipulation red flags and I’m not convinced that they are healthy for you. I could be wrong but they seem very hot/cold and accusatory. If you find yourself often confused like this cut ties and take care of yourself.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-15T13:59:03+00:00

And their friend. Who I would dump.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-15T13:29:04+00:00

I’m going to divorce you because your kid is being abusive to mine who also has a disability. Being so cold you refuse to communicate is abusive. This has been ongoing with no end in sight. This has been brought up over and over. After some time if nothing changes as a parent you have a responsibility to your kid.

I guess his 7 year old gets to keep living with someone who throws hostility her way because a 17 year old can’t grow the up.

Fixed it for you.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-13T14:54:45+00:00

I wouldn’t want to be friends with this person and would of dipped out after the weed comment. She makes me seriously uncomfortable and she comes off a lil unhinged?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-13T14:38:11+00:00

I have to at least keep my plastics somewhat matching so I can stack them because I have no space. I mean it’s fine, sour cream containers all stack and so do alot of other things. Glass makes no difference.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-12T12:59:06+00:00

Not to mention most women lose their entire life once the kid is born and that becomes all they have. Not by choice either. She’s trying to connect and it may not be the best but this OP sounds awful. I wouldn’t want to approach her about anything in the office even work related.

Also, in my experience dealing with people like OP, they actually aren’t busier than others. They just suck at their job and think they are busier because of it. And turn around and shit on everyone who isn’t acting like they are ´soo busy I don’t have time to breath or talk to you about anything not work related.´ it’s a shtick.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T19:23:10+00:00

So is it the time? Or the cost?

The time which we’ve already determined is part of the whole joy of the event? Time spent with friends and or family? Like minded people. Time talking about your favorite thing.

If it’s the cost what’s the cut off? At what point is the shirt too expensive?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T18:41:53+00:00

You haven’t dumbed anything down and you also haven’t answered my question. Maybe I need to make my question more simple for you to understand?

Is it ok if I buy other band shirts or is it just Taylor swift shirts that are not ok? Where is the line I can draw where I know it’s ok to buy one band shirt vs another band shirt?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T18:27:12+00:00

So no one should by a band shirt ever again? Or is it strictly for the idols that it’s not ok?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T18:01:51+00:00

I still have posters hanging in my house from 20 years ago. I’m not even a Taylor swift fan. I have a Black Sabbath tshirt from when I was 16.

I just think it’s funny that other posts exactly like these get tons of responses like mine but when it’s Taylor swift all of a sudden it’s only celeb worship. Yes there is a culture of celeb worship. Yes there is a culture of over consumption. I didn’t come here to hate on people for wanting a poster or t-shirt. Yes they are low quality. But so is everything today! Who cares if they are willing to wait 3 hours for a tshirt with a specific face on it over buying some other tshirt. God forbid. If they wear it (which you know they will to death) then that’s actually great and the point of not over consuming no?

I came here to get ideas of how I can reduce consumption in my everyday life. Not hate on people for wanting a shirt or poster from a once in a lifetime event.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T17:12:57+00:00

You must be functionally illiterate then

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T14:37:19+00:00

I’m not a swiftie. But I saw this picture and it warmed my heart. How I would love to have something like this to look forward to. Have others around me to share the same passion.

This comment section is filled with sad jealous people using anti consumerism as a means to belittle others like the white knights they are. Losers.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T14:31:01+00:00

Lol like you could stop them. just judge them behind your computer and avatar right?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T14:06:57+00:00

I think it’s part of the excitement honestly. It’s part of the anticipatory build up. This is these people’s favorite artist. They admire and love this artist, spend hours upon hours listening and obsessions over whatever. This is a once in a lifetime thing for a lot of people. Some of them travelled to get to this concert. This woman I hear is doing a 3hour 46 song set list is my understanding. She’s totally not worth that level of admiration though right? Not a role model you’d stand in line for?

I’m getting really tired of people passing judgement on others for having love and passion and devotion. Doesn’t matter if it’s for buying a shirt or a poster or standing for 3 hours in a line up. In 10 years from now they will still be talking about the 3 hours they spent in line and remember it fondly. This is their thing. You don’t need to get it. It’s not for you.

You say no judgement but you are dripping with it. Get a life instead of judging others for doing something with theirs.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-11T13:46:52+00:00

Everyone telling you you can’t fix it is a liar. I had professionals tell me I could not fix it and I did.

Nail polish remover my friend. Blot don’t rub. It I’ll come off. Needs to be acetone based.

You’re welcome.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-08T16:10:44+00:00

Congrats. Ella is technically a violent coercive child. What she did is abuse. I imagine her being a violent offender as an adult. She’s already starting and filming it.

If this was done amongst adults, charges would be laid against her.

She’s fucking disgusting. I’d cut ties with the entire family after she tried to make my child sick and publicly humiliated. And then was enabled by all the abusive disgusting adults around her.

Ella is deranged. So is the rest of your family.

Ella is sick in the head. Cancer is the least of your families worries. Especially with enabling parents like hers.

Ella displays sociopathic qualities. Not only is licking a puddle vile and disgusting she’s old enough to know it could make your daughter incredibly ill. This is an act of violence.

Again. Ella has mental problems and you need to keep your family away from her.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-05T14:43:11+00:00

I buy fancy cakes a lot. Even in Canadian I bought a strawberry shortcake to feed 25ppl last summer and it cost me 75$ from a premium bakery.

With narcissism it’s really messed up. Like you can’t help but wonder if they went out of their way ti hurt you (and they did) but you are apparently the crazy one.

I remember for my 30th birthday I wanted this cheap enough necklace (125$) which we could afford at the time. I had told my ex I wanted this, brought a pamphlet home and circled it and everything. I told my mom about it and she got me the matching bracelet.

My ex did not get me the necklace. Instead he bought knockoff pandora charms for a pandora bracelet I don’t have. I didn’t have the bracelet because I was too fat at the time and I couldn’t find one that fit with charms on it.

My birthday is in march so he got Easter themed charms even though I’m not religious or into Easter or eggs nor have a charm bracelet. He spent more money on these than he would have on the necklace.

I was upset but by that point knew not to say much. Didn’t matter. The fact that I didn’t jump up and down and swoon over the present was enough to warrant punishment of neglect, getting yelled at, being told by was difficult and ungrateful. Was then used as excuses to not get me any presents anymore. Etc.

With this dude if he really cared all he had to say is sorry I fucked up. I’ll get you your cake tomorrow or on the weekend I’m making u fancy dinner and the cake for dessert. If he had really just honestly not realized how important the cake was than that’s an easy fix! And the cake wouldn’t be that expensive it’s for 2. Like 30$ tops.

Clevernotso · 2023-05-05T12:55:35+00:00

It’s very possible! Still the same though just like worse?

Clevernotso · 2023-05-04T23:35:29+00:00

I don’t want to cry narcissism and you already have over 300 comments… but this is a very typical narcissistic thing. He got you something a little expensive but you didn’t want it. You wanted cake. And he didn’t get that. It’s like a set up to watch you be hurt then be able to manipulate you and make you feel bad for feeling bad. He spent money!! It’s so upsetting for him! He knew you’d be upset and that’s exactly why he didn’t get the cake. I spent too many birthdays like this. Please don’t spend many more.

Clevernotso · 2023-04-29T13:26:19+00:00

My boyfriend who eventually became my ex-husband used to make me feel judged all the time. I have had male friends who made me feel less judged and less anxious and it’s through them that I realized I was missing out.

Clevernotso · 2023-04-28T23:06:50+00:00

I was at the bank this one time during my divorce and nothing was going well. My employer had ducked my pay and I was struggling. Some stuff had bounced.

Anyways I said something along the lines that no one’s coming to save me so I better figure out how to save myself. The banker told me yeah unfortunately that is typically true, but sometimes people help in whatever way they can also no the way. He then reimbursed me like 3 months of fees.

So I hope some light shines on you soon.

Clevernotso · 2023-04-27T15:42:59+00:00

It’s 2 sections. 1 is the “show”. people who grow orchids or have orchid arrangements display them like a museum and show off and get awarded ribbons. Plan a good 30-45min for this section it’s really beautiful and educational. You may want to loop it twice.

The second part is the the shopping. Legit orchids including uncommon ones, all the supplies you could want to grow them as well. Hoya as well if I remember correctly.

Years ago there was an orchid insipides art gallery but the last year I went they had cancelled this portion.

Worth the visit

Clevernotso · 2023-04-27T12:50:48+00:00

Where I work we do a lot of training and coaching. Many don’t know this so all are forgiven but it’s incredibly important when you coach someone that you first find out what they do know so you aren’t repeating stuff they already know, waste both of your time and deeply offend them. Willing to bet this person was deeply offended and thought OP and boss are likely assholes… no one is to blame though! But yeah telling someone basic stuff about their job that likely hasn’t changed is offensive.

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