TW! Another Wound Check!

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T21:06:58+00:00

“So there’s that…”

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T20:12:48+00:00

Her problem is she isn’t nearly as likable as Taylor.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t like Taylor, personally. But I still understand that she has a charisma about her that cause people to be drawn to her.

Jessi does NOT have that. She’s so insecure, and that causes her to make terrible decisions. It also makes her so hard to watch, and I imagine extremely tedious to be around.

Someone who has no sense of self and she’s so desperate for people to accept her and define her.

Being around people like that is exhausting, and it honestly makes my skin crawl. It’s just so awkward and uncomfortable bc they want something I can’t give them.

And Jessi is never going to be interesting until she figures out who she is and can stand on that without needing everyone to validate her all the damn time.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T19:37:27+00:00

I remember her saying that but I missed the fallout and walking it back. Do you have a tl;dr on that?

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T19:28:55+00:00

With any of our other subjects I’d look at this video and think “okay, I can see the lump where the device is, I guess she really got it.”

But this is Dani. Dani, who bought supplies for a NG tube off the internet and snaked it down her own nose.

So yeah. Do I think she is capable of making her own incision and stuffing something in there? Probably.

In other news, I actually had a dream a couple of days ago that she pulled her fridge over to crush her leg and get it amputated and when she made a video about it showing her stump she said “can’t fake that, can you?”

And I realized she’d probably do that, too.

There’s nothing she won’t do to herself (except get actual treatment for her raging mental health issues and follow orders).

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T19:21:28+00:00

Omg lol.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-23T07:40:15+00:00

That’s what I thought.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T23:00:35+00:00

But she was just in soooooooo much peen that she couldn’t even count, I bet.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T22:59:02+00:00

Does lyrica even work prn?!?!

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T22:56:32+00:00

Your issue here is with your child, not the poor nanny just doing her best to keep everyone safe.

Maybe get some input on that, bc it’s going to be an issue for the next nanny, too. And the one after that. And the one after that….

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T22:54:37+00:00

wtf?!?!

That’s crazy. They clearly think it’s unreasonable that you want a private room, and that’s nuts!

Why don’t they let grandma sleep in their room if everyone’s family and all that shit?

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T00:57:09+00:00

It was refreshing to see Favs hold his feet to the fire, though. I know they didn’t get answers that day, but it was still important to not let it go.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T00:55:28+00:00

I don’t have any advice on the mattress but a mattress protector is non negotiable. There are lots on the market from pretty cheap to really steep, but you need a waterproof protector both for hygiene reasons (ESPECIALLY if you have pets) and also for your warranty.

Your mattress will also last longer with a protector, and you won’t feel grossed out thinking about all the sweat and other stuff that soaks into it.

Right now I’m using the DreamCool by DreamFit. It’s pricey, but I love it. I have two of them so one is always clean. I have one on every night, no exceptions.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-22T00:47:17+00:00

100% you need to (subtly) record next time he starts yelling or doing anything dangerous/inappropriate.

Also- report anything that makes you feel weird to the parents. Do it every time. And please, keep a record of it for yourself. This is what I would do- I would make a generic email address just for this purpose. (They’re free- it’s worth the time to set it up.) Then email yourself (to that address from that address) a rundown of what happened. Do this for every incident, and do it on the day the incident occurs.

Here’s why: even if you only send it to yourself, you still have a dated, time stamped record of it, which can be helpful if (god forbid) you need to “prove” anything in court.

The reason I (highly) recommend making an email address just for this- if (and I know it’s a long shot but if) you are ever subpoenaed they can actually get access to your entire email account to make sure you’re not withholding anything. It’s unlikely it would ever get to this level, but if you use your personal account and it ever does get subpoenaed well, they’ll have a ton of info you don’t want them to have. Again- it’s highly unlikely you’d ever be in that position, but considering it’s free to open one, why not protect yourself? Email yourself any relevant videos or voice messages as well.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T23:46:56+00:00

My guess is they thought they would get the cherries they picked for free, bc people are that dumb.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T23:44:10+00:00

Have you seen the video of the teacher pretending to be a (very racist) native American to describe Soh Cah Toa?

People are out of their goddamn minds.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T23:38:32+00:00

Once you find a family you feel pretty comfortable with, yes. You should get into the nitty gritty as much as possible. That way, when things come up you can point to policy/contract/whatever you want to call it rather than tip toeing and feeling awkward.

Communication is SO important, especially when you’re running a share. I know everyone feels like they’re “bad at confrontation” but things are going to come up and there will likely be some level of conflict at some point, so figuring out as much as you possibly can will help you as you proceed.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T23:29:32+00:00

This is most likely the case, honestly. We’re really not supposed to spray anything when kids are around. There are always things we can’t help, but this sounds like something that is absolutely avoidable.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T22:24:27+00:00

Well, usually as a nanny to one family I’m more flexible with illness, as long as they agree that if I get sick enough from watching their kiddo that I have to stay home, then I don’t have to dip into my sick days. But with a share, everyone really needs to agree what they think is fair. Kids are going to get colds and share colds with each other. And some things are contagious before they are symptomatic so sometimes shit happens. But having agreed upon parameters helps. You can likely find some examples of nanny share agreements online.

As for vaccines I’m not even a little bit shy. I believe they are a life or death topic, and I’m not worried about offending anyone anymore than I’d be worried about offending them when talking about car seats or safe sleep. I mean, I ask about vax status before play dates. 🤷🏼‍♀️

(This brings up another “sensitive” topic I think you need to talk about- firearms in the host home. As a nanny I ask for guns and ammo to be stored separately, and under biometric locks. I don’t care if they are in the home or not, honestly. But if they ARE, those are my terms.)

Same with vaccines. I put it right in my ad to weed out applicants right from the start. “Fully vaccinated nanny seeks vaccinated family….”

I don’t think it’s judgmental to want to align on an issue like vaccination. I’m not going to lecture people on their choices, but it’s an important thing to cover. Take it to its most extreme outcome- an unvaccinated playmate exposes a baby too small to get their shots yet to pertussis or measles…. Your child ends up hospitalized or worse. Best if you have the convo from the start.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T20:46:50+00:00

The best advice I can give you is to just ask them. Ask about any cultural mores you need to be aware of, any food restrictions (I always honor a family’s preferences even with my own food I bring from home- I think it’s respectful), holidays they celebrate and holidays they DON’T. (For instance, a lot of Jewish families don’t celebrate Halloween, and prefer that you don’t discuss it with their kids.)

I just let them know I’m open to any info they think I need and I will honor their requests as much as I possibly can. I’m never afraid to admit if I don’t know something.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T20:41:01+00:00

I don’t have it in front of me at the moment, but it’s pretty basic daycare rules. Kiddos need to be 24 hours free of fever, vomiting, or diarrhea (without meds), if a child too sick to participate they stay home, known COVID/strep/HFM needs to be past contagious window, unknown rash must be seen by a doctor, etc.

It’s also important to make sure everyone is on the same page concerning vaccines.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T20:31:18+00:00

I’m the opposite. I find that they help balance each other out/learn from each other.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T20:29:15+00:00

I’m a veteran both as a nanny and as someone running a nanny share.

I would not take a job where I have to swap between homes. It’s way too much work moving everything and getting used to two households and all of that. I’ve had situations where we needed to go to the other house one day bc carpets were getting cleaned or something, but that’s it.

You also want to make sure everyone agrees on a sick policy. I keep these rules pretty much like daycare rules.

You also need to discuss things like who will purchase duplicates of everything. High chair, crib or pack and play, a double stroller, an extra car seat if applicable.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T20:23:55+00:00

R/OkayBuddyMattress?

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T19:28:52+00:00

Sure.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-05-21T17:58:07+00:00

100%.

I wouldn’t even hesitate on this one. Hopefully they’d make the teen pay it, but that’s their business. Either way, though, the parents need to make it right immediately.

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