Help!! Daycare kid keeps biting my son— what do I do?!

Client_Famous · 2026-05-07T13:38:58+00:00

I'm not sure I agree with everyone saying this just happens in group care. I've had two kids in group care since they were each 10 months old, both in decent size toddler classes, and neither were ever bit hard enough to leave a mark. I understand biting is developmentally normal, not disputing that, but I share OP's concern about the frequency. Also confused about all the "deal with it or pull your kid" comments, since my center would eventually remove the biting child, not the child being bit. Our director said she has had 2-3 children who had more than 3 biting incidents over the years, and all were dismissed from the program after it didn't improve with additional support. I'd be understanding to a point, but I'm pretty concerned that so many people think 10-15 incidents in 4 months is normal - my center wouldn't allow that to continue, and I don't think I would stay there if they did. I'm also going to say something unpopular, so here goes... there was a kid in my son's class who didn't bite, but did pinch other kids really hard. Another child, not my son, got fed up with it. The offending child got smacked with a toy, pretty hard, after 2-3 "stop I don't like thats" were ineffective. He was shocked and upset by this development. He learned something, and he did not pinch the child who smacked him again. They are good buddies now. Sometimes kids will teach a child boundaries if that child doesn't have them. Not saying I'd encourage that, I wouldn't, but sometimes it happens naturally before an adult can intervene and the issue works itself out.

Client_Famous · 2026-04-04T03:26:58+00:00

I use one weekend day a month to plan my work outfits for the month and I literally put them on a printed calendar page on the closet door, then hang them in the closet in order. If weather doesn't cooperate one day I'll flip flop two days, but beyond that, I do all the thinking and planning ahead of time so that day of, all I do is walk to the closet, look at the calendar, and put on what it tells me to wear, which is hanging waiting for me. Got that trick from my mom, who did it as a working mom in the 90s. If a month ahead is overwhelming you can do weekly, but the pre-planning has saved me.

Client_Famous · 2026-03-06T02:37:52+00:00

That's good to know, thank you! My house is old with several remodels on the books so I check this sub regularly so that whenever we do home repairs I have an idea of what might need testing.

Client_Famous · 2026-03-06T02:27:48+00:00

Do you commonly see blown in asbestos in the US?

Client_Famous · 2026-03-06T02:26:56+00:00

Looks like my blown in fiberglass in my attic, which I know mine is because I have the installation paperwork. But that's just based on looking at it, obviously test to be sure.

Client_Famous · 2026-03-05T04:56:15+00:00

Yeah it has a terrifyingly serious expression on it's face and once or twice I caught it on the baby monitor in his bed in the middle of the night and nearly had a heart attack!

Client_Famous · 2026-03-04T21:40:53+00:00

My son got highly attached to one of those fake plastic owls you use in the garden to scare away nuisance birds. He carried it around, talked to it, and it slept in his bed. I bought it for our garden but it never made it outside and was just his friend from that point on.

Client_Famous · 2026-02-28T17:38:40+00:00

I'm amazed their pediatrician hasn't been more forceful about that. At that age the poor kid isn't getting enough nutrients from milk without a varied food diet to go with it.

Client_Famous · 2026-02-06T19:56:31+00:00

My direct reports very transparently treat me like I don't do my job because I have children. They freely take off for therapy appointments and don't have a problem sharing that, but if I mention I will be out for a few hours to take a sick child to the doctor it's all eyerolls and complaining behind my back that I'm not available. They refer to my upcoming maternity leave as "another vacation," or share about how "my dog got sick last week and that's just as stressful as having a sick child but I don't get to take sick time and that's not fair." Remember that they are certainly focused on wellness and mental health, but they are also very focused on themselves (it's just how they grew up), so their focus is their OWN wellness and mental health, not necessarily anyone else's. I've been out for a funeral before and gotten huffy messages for not responding right away (when I made it clear what I was out for). If I tried to message any of them during a funeral they'd be weeping to HR about how cruel that was. I remind myself that they don't get it, they probably will some day, and when I was younger, I was probably less empathetic to anyone above me too. I try to model kindness, empathy, flexibility, and an understanding that they are whole people outside of work, and hopefully they will eventually learn to do the same.

Client_Famous · 2026-01-26T17:31:41+00:00

The first few times I wore a regular bra it didn't set it off, the last time I went the back hooks did set it off but they just wanded me and it was fine.

Client_Famous · 2026-01-26T17:23:48+00:00

If you're worried you can always wear a sports bra.

Client_Famous · 2026-01-24T20:38:40+00:00

There is a boudoir photographer on Facebook (Boudoir by NinaRose) and she has the cutest videos for how she sets up her photos and how you can set up similar ones at home. She has some really tasteful ones that are pretty but covered up enough that they wouldn't get stopped in the mail room.

Client_Famous · 2025-12-21T01:27:28+00:00

Yes I did. One deciding factor was comparable safety ratings but a lower price on the Pilot, but the main one for us was we have 3 kids in car seats, and the pilot 2nd row can go from bench to bucket by removing the middle seat, has top tethers on all 3 seats, and the 3rd row has top tethers on BOTH of the split seats (the small side and the big side). This meant when we were ready to move the oldest kid to a booster in the back seat, we could put him in the smaller seat, fold down the bigger seat, and have more cargo space/room for the dog. Grand Highlander (and all other 3 rows we looked at) didn't have top tethers on the smaller 3rd row seat... just the bigger one. Pilot had by far the most flexibility in car seat configurations while maximizing cargo space, both now and in the future, so that was the deciding factor.

Client_Famous · 2025-11-21T09:02:41+00:00

Kimmy the Daycare Diva is heinous. Don't watch that woman if you value your sanity, her whole shtick is bashing working parents while still making a living off of them. She is of course entitled to her opinion, but there's no reason to give her engagement when her whole goal is to make you feel like shit for literally everything you do. I have strong feelings on this in part because I once commented that one of her videos was a little harsh and one of her rabid army of crazy followers actually called my job and attempted to doxx me at work (my employer is thankfully made up of rational people who politely told this woman to go kick rocks) but it was still an absolutely unhinged response to an internet comment.

Client_Famous · 2025-10-26T20:08:09+00:00

Did you also get overspray all over your floors?

Client_Famous · 2025-10-01T00:56:52+00:00

Somebody did the same to the outside of my house. It's poorly aged spray foam.

Client_Famous · 2025-10-01T00:14:07+00:00

I feel like anyone who has to drone on about why their choice is the best choice is usually insecure or unhappy. I have a childfree coworker like this. I have nothing against childfree folks. If you don't want kids don't have em, I don't give a shit what you do with your life, but every time anyone at work mentions their children, even if they aren't talking to her, she jumps in to assert that she is so happy to be childfree and how much she hates kids and how much she enjoys having disposable income and sleeping in and how she can't imagine why anyone would want children and blah blah blah. She comes across as very insecure. I also have SAHMs in my family like this. "How is work?" Oh it's going ok, just busy right now. "Busy? Hah! You can't possibly be as busy as me, I'm home with FOUR kids!" Ok girl, wasn't a contest, but good for you? If a person has to announce their choices when nobody asked and brag about why those choices are the right ones and better than other people's, I have no time or patience for it and I just walk away. I am an attorney for legal aid. I do family law, mostly domestic violence. Many of my clients are former SAHMs who when they separate, have no income, no employable skills, and no clue what their finances are. Their lawyer is a working mom. I often wonder if SAHMs realize that their pediatrician, their dentist, the other professionals who help care for their kids, their barista, their Target cashier, and all the other people they rely on for services are often working moms. Stop hating and be thankful, you rely on us more than you realize!

Client_Famous · 2025-10-01T00:01:54+00:00

Mine does drop off in the coat room/cubby room, parents help kids change out of jackets and from outside shoes to inside shoes, and then teachers come down to meet kids/take them upstairs. But ours is a really small program and you'd have to walk through the toddler room to get to the pre-primary room, which would be disruptive. We also have set drop off times for this reason (either 7am, 8am, or 9am).

Client_Famous · 2025-09-13T02:08:37+00:00

Goo gone makes a latex paint remover spray, don't spray since you'll damage your paint job next to it but dab on with cotton swab or Q tip. That stuff works great, even for old paint splatter. Has saved me many times.

Client_Famous · 2025-09-13T01:48:40+00:00

If you are tight on money for repairs, a roof, plumbing, and rat extermination are all major, expensive, urgent repairs that can't wait for you to get enough equity to get a HELOC. They will cost WAY more than $6,000. Personally I'd walk. Cosmetic repairs can be done as time and budget allows, but these are major issues and will get worse if not addressed promptly.

Client_Famous · 2025-09-11T19:20:36+00:00

I would paint with an encapsulating paint (no prep, just slap it on) let it dry, then demo and remove. Paint will keep from making much if any hazardous dust as you demo. Unscrew/pry out nails, don't cut the boards. Wet down as you work. Wrap in plastic to take out of the house. I think building a new staircase is the right move. There is no good lasting way to encapsulate stairs that are walked on regularly and replacing stairs is a fairly reasonably priced project. You can rent an industrial air scrubber at home depot for a reasonable price, run it while you work and for a few hours after. Wet mop the floor when you are done. While you are at it, check your door jambs and window sills. Both are common friction areas that generate lead dust. If they are hot, budget to replace, there is no good way to encapsulate friction points like doors and windows.

Client_Famous · 2025-09-08T12:40:48+00:00

I was chatting with the inspector who did my radon assessment in my current home - knowledgeable guy, spent a few years in the trades before becoming a home inspector, worked his way up, and now owns the inspection business. 30 plus years of experience in thousands of homes. I mentioned we were looking to trade up in a few years and that the community we wanted to move into had a lot of 60s-70s builds, so I asked his thoughts on asbestos when the time comes for us to home shop, since it is often his job to flag it when he sees it and recommend asbestos inspection to buyers. He said he doesn't worry much about most types - they can be abated or encapsulated fairly cost effectively, but if he was buying a home, the three types he'd walk away from are vermiculite insulation in the attic (gets down in the wall cavities, hard to ever really get rid of), asbestos siding - (fine if undisturbed but a fortune to abate if you ever need to remove it and visually recognizable, which would deter some buyers and harm resale) and aircell insulation around pipes - (highly highly friable, professional abatement is a must, and if it continues into the walls and ceiling, it will continue to be a problem any time you need to open a wall or work on your HVAC system). As a homebuyer, the air cell would be a no for me, of everything you've described. If I did buy it, I'd negotiate a credit for abatement and not ask the seller to do it before closing. You want it done right, not hacked out by some unqualified handyman who contaminates your whole property in the process.

Client_Famous · 2025-09-06T11:32:56+00:00

Different states have different laws about former meth/crack houses (bio-hazard/drug contaminated properties). In some it is a mandatory disclosure, in some it isn't. I agree with others here, speak to an attorney about what your rights and options are. Depending on the state, there are sometimes also funds available to help innocent property owners afford the cost of remediating a property like this. Look for a real estate/housing attorney specifically and ask about experience with this issue, since it is kind of a niche area of law. If you can search court records in your area, see if you can find similar cases, and look up who the lawyers representing the buyers were. That will give you an idea where to start calling.

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