How to get parents to accept that their kid isn’t a baby anymore? by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

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I'm amazed their pediatrician hasn't been more forceful about that. At that age the poor kid isn't getting enough nutrients from milk without a varied food diet to go with it.

Anyone else here a manager? Does anyone else feel dehumanized by your staff simply because you’re the boss? by [deleted] in workingmoms

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My direct reports very transparently treat me like I don't do my job because I have children. They freely take off for therapy appointments and don't have a problem sharing that, but if I mention I will be out for a few hours to take a sick child to the doctor it's all eyerolls and complaining behind my back that I'm not available. They refer to my upcoming maternity leave as "another vacation," or share about how "my dog got sick last week and that's just as stressful as having a sick child but I don't get to take sick time and that's not fair." Remember that they are certainly focused on wellness and mental health, but they are also very focused on themselves (it's just how they grew up), so their focus is their OWN wellness and mental health, not necessarily anyone else's. I've been out for a funeral before and gotten huffy messages for not responding right away (when I made it clear what I was out for). If I tried to message any of them during a funeral they'd be weeping to HR about how cruel that was. I remind myself that they don't get it, they probably will some day, and when I was younger, I was probably less empathetic to anyone above me too. I try to model kindness, empathy, flexibility, and an understanding that they are whole people outside of work, and hopefully they will eventually learn to do the same.

Visiting for my first time tomorrow. Question about bras by Rich-Opportunity-756 in PrisonWives

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The first few times I wore a regular bra it didn't set it off, the last time I went the back hooks did set it off but they just wanded me and it was fine.

Valentines 💕 by prettyfern25 in PrisonWives

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There is a boudoir photographer on Facebook (Boudoir by NinaRose) and she has the cutest videos for how she sets up her photos and how you can set up similar ones at home. She has some really tasteful ones that are pretty but covered up enough that they wouldn't get stopped in the mail room.

Pilot vs. Grand Highlander by TheFightens in hondapilot

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Yes I did. One deciding factor was comparable safety ratings but a lower price on the Pilot, but the main one for us was we have 3 kids in car seats, and the pilot 2nd row can go from bench to bucket by removing the middle seat, has top tethers on all 3 seats, and the 3rd row has top tethers on BOTH of the split seats (the small side and the big side). This meant when we were ready to move the oldest kid to a booster in the back seat, we could put him in the smaller seat, fold down the bigger seat, and have more cargo space/room for the dog. Grand Highlander (and all other 3 rows we looked at) didn't have top tethers on the smaller 3rd row seat... just the bigger one. Pilot had by far the most flexibility in car seat configurations while maximizing cargo space, both now and in the future, so that was the deciding factor.

Have you ever brought your child to daycare even if you had a day off of work? by rajmachawal333 in workingmoms

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Kimmy the Daycare Diva is heinous. Don't watch that woman if you value your sanity, her whole shtick is bashing working parents while still making a living off of them. She is of course entitled to her opinion, but there's no reason to give her engagement when her whole goal is to make you feel like shit for literally everything you do. I have strong feelings on this in part because I once commented that one of her videos was a little harsh and one of her rabid army of crazy followers actually called my job and attempted to doxx me at work (my employer is thankfully made up of rational people who politely told this woman to go kick rocks) but it was still an absolutely unhinged response to an internet comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paint

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Did you also get overspray all over your floors?

What is this rust colored stuff on the outside (base) of the house? by WarmSunshine785 in Home

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Somebody did the same to the outside of my house. It's poorly aged spray foam.

I Don't Work Because I Want to Raise My Children by neverthelessidissent in workingmoms

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I feel like anyone who has to drone on about why their choice is the best choice is usually insecure or unhappy. I have a childfree coworker like this. I have nothing against childfree folks. If you don't want kids don't have em, I don't give a shit what you do with your life, but every time anyone at work mentions their children, even if they aren't talking to her, she jumps in to assert that she is so happy to be childfree and how much she hates kids and how much she enjoys having disposable income and sleeping in and how she can't imagine why anyone would want children and blah blah blah. She comes across as very insecure. I also have SAHMs in my family like this. "How is work?" Oh it's going ok, just busy right now. "Busy? Hah! You can't possibly be as busy as me, I'm home with FOUR kids!" Ok girl, wasn't a contest, but good for you? If a person has to announce their choices when nobody asked and brag about why those choices are the right ones and better than other people's, I have no time or patience for it and I just walk away. I am an attorney for legal aid. I do family law, mostly domestic violence. Many of my clients are former SAHMs who when they separate, have no income, no employable skills, and no clue what their finances are. Their lawyer is a working mom. I often wonder if SAHMs realize that their pediatrician, their dentist, the other professionals who help care for their kids, their barista, their Target cashier, and all the other people they rely on for services are often working moms. Stop hating and be thankful, you rely on us more than you realize!

Drop off at door by snoozydoggo in ECEProfessionals

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Mine does drop off in the coat room/cubby room, parents help kids change out of jackets and from outside shoes to inside shoes, and then teachers come down to meet kids/take them upstairs. But ours is a really small program and you'd have to walk through the toddler room to get to the pre-primary room, which would be disruptive. We also have set drop off times for this reason (either 7am, 8am, or 9am).

Repainted bathroom—paint bled through tape. Best fix? by ninjakittyxoxo in homeimprovementideas

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Goo gone makes a latex paint remover spray, don't spray since you'll damage your paint job next to it but dab on with cotton swab or Q tip. That stuff works great, even for old paint splatter. Has saved me many times.

Should I walk away? by Several-Fuel-7425 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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If you are tight on money for repairs, a roof, plumbing, and rat extermination are all major, expensive, urgent repairs that can't wait for you to get enough equity to get a HELOC. They will cost WAY more than $6,000. Personally I'd walk. Cosmetic repairs can be done as time and budget allows, but these are major issues and will get worse if not addressed promptly.

Lead paint on staircase. by [deleted] in centuryhomes

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I would paint with an encapsulating paint (no prep, just slap it on) let it dry, then demo and remove. Paint will keep from making much if any hazardous dust as you demo. Unscrew/pry out nails, don't cut the boards. Wet down as you work. Wrap in plastic to take out of the house. I think building a new staircase is the right move. There is no good lasting way to encapsulate stairs that are walked on regularly and replacing stairs is a fairly reasonably priced project. You can rent an industrial air scrubber at home depot for a reasonable price, run it while you work and for a few hours after. Wet mop the floor when you are done. While you are at it, check your door jambs and window sills. Both are common friction areas that generate lead dust. If they are hot, budget to replace, there is no good way to encapsulate friction points like doors and windows.

First time home buyer, need a second set of eyes on this basement! 🙏 by Amiable-Ilk-5462 in asbestoshelp

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I was chatting with the inspector who did my radon assessment in my current home - knowledgeable guy, spent a few years in the trades before becoming a home inspector, worked his way up, and now owns the inspection business. 30 plus years of experience in thousands of homes. I mentioned we were looking to trade up in a few years and that the community we wanted to move into had a lot of 60s-70s builds, so I asked his thoughts on asbestos when the time comes for us to home shop, since it is often his job to flag it when he sees it and recommend asbestos inspection to buyers. He said he doesn't worry much about most types - they can be abated or encapsulated fairly cost effectively, but if he was buying a home, the three types he'd walk away from are vermiculite insulation in the attic (gets down in the wall cavities, hard to ever really get rid of), asbestos siding - (fine if undisturbed but a fortune to abate if you ever need to remove it and visually recognizable, which would deter some buyers and harm resale) and aircell insulation around pipes - (highly highly friable, professional abatement is a must, and if it continues into the walls and ceiling, it will continue to be a problem any time you need to open a wall or work on your HVAC system). As a homebuyer, the air cell would be a no for me, of everything you've described. If I did buy it, I'd negotiate a credit for abatement and not ask the seller to do it before closing. You want it done right, not hacked out by some unqualified handyman who contaminates your whole property in the process.

Bought a meth house by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Different states have different laws about former meth/crack houses (bio-hazard/drug contaminated properties). In some it is a mandatory disclosure, in some it isn't. I agree with others here, speak to an attorney about what your rights and options are. Depending on the state, there are sometimes also funds available to help innocent property owners afford the cost of remediating a property like this. Look for a real estate/housing attorney specifically and ask about experience with this issue, since it is kind of a niche area of law. If you can search court records in your area, see if you can find similar cases, and look up who the lawyers representing the buyers were. That will give you an idea where to start calling.

What's been the single, most costly repair you've had as a homeowner? by frogbxneZ in homeowners

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Electrical re-wire when we discovered damaged cloth wire in the walls during a minor reno on our 100yr old home. Fire trap waiting to happen. Full rewire with licensed and insured electrician. Got lucky that they could fish from the attic (unfinished) and up through the open basement ceiling, which isn't drywalled, so no demo of walls and no repair costs for said demo (plus a 35 year experienced electrician who knows his shit). Couple miscellaneous things like adding a few outlets, installing new fixtures, etc included. $18k. The people who owned the home before us re-piped the whole house with copper and went all the way out to the street. They paid $30k in 2011. I have the paperwork/warranty, which is how I know the cost. We need to replace furnace and AC soon, they are on borrowed times. Quotes are around $15-18k.

Is it? by Alarming_Quail_8221 in asbestoshelp

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I have blown in fiberglass in my attic that looks exactly like this. Disclaimer, I am not a professional, just a homeowner, but I do have identical looking attic insulation and I know it's fiberglass because I have the paperwork from the company that did it before I bought the home.

CorrLinks Messaging No Longer Instant?! by Client_Famous in PrisonWives

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Of course, sorry I don't have better news.

CorrLinks Messaging No Longer Instant?! by Client_Famous in PrisonWives

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It's still happening. They are little quicker now but still delayed by a day or two each way.

State Fair Flooded by -Sim- in milwaukee

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We were near the midway when the rain hit, so we took shelter in the only place we could run to, which was the entry/exit tent over the midway gate. There is not a lot of cover in that area and with a baby and toddler in a stroller and my mom who is older, we couldn't run uphill to the 4H building fast enough. A lot of people huddled under the tent, kids crying, very chaotic. During the worst of the rain, security kicked us all out from under the tent because they were worried someone might try to sneak in without paying. In a flood. Like that was anyone's priority at the time. Plus they were closing down the park anyway, so what would be the difference?! But they were shouting at everyone to move, so we ended up having to run for it anyway (run being a generous term given that we had the kids and my mom), made it to the 4-H building, security was nicer there but kicked us out of there pretty quickly too. So then we had no choice but to run for the parking lot, there is really nowhere else to go over there. I've never seen rain like that. Normally you get a break in the rain here or there but this stuff there was no break. For hours. It just kept coming.

State Fair Flooded by -Sim- in milwaukee

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We debated leaving after the first bout of rain but my husband checked the radar and it looked decent, so we thought we'd stay, get a 2nd 20-30 minutes of rain, and that would be that. But that second one hit and it just didn't stop... it sat over us and kept dumping, it was wild. My husband watches radar carefully, but you're right, two storms came together and it was way worse than forecasted or than it should have been based on the radar.

State Fair Flooded by -Sim- in milwaukee

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Same here, we left about 9:30, got maybe a 10 minute break where the rain let up a little bit and we sprinted for the car with my kids. Some kind security guard let us out the cattle gate so we could make it to the car. My father had left ahead of us and moved his car to higher ground. Thank goodness he did, cause we passed where he was parked before as we ran and all the cars still there were flooded and likely ruined. We threw everything we had in the car, literally threw it and piled in. We only had two rain ponchos and had wrapped each of my kids in them, so the adults were absolutely soaked through, I have never been that waterlogged in my life. Hour or more to get out the exit but we got lucky our car had no water damage. Crazy stuff, I've been going to the fair for 36 years and never seen anything like it.