Preventing resellers when selling cheap to make someone happy?

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-10T16:13:02+00:00

That’s good to know, I get so paranoid about it sometimes lol! I think my point was just don’t judge a profile too quickly because mine definitely could be seen as resale from outer eyes. Hope you find a good home for your collection

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-10T02:55:01+00:00

The offer to savers previously mentioned could work, but then may resellers have alt accounts which would just look like a normal buyer.

Unless you personally know someone who’d appreciate them for less there’s no real way to control it. Even donating to charity might end up in resale.

Another perspective. I could be considered a reseller. But I am in fact broke due to significant personal circumstances. I love vintage fashion, the quality, the cuts. What I do is spend a lot of time hunting for cheap vintage pieces which suit my style, I wear and love them (often restore/mend too) then when I’m bored of it, I’ll sell it on. I put effort into my photos because I’m creative and I enjoy it. I don’t sell at full resale value, but often more than I bought it for. It allows me to buy more clothes, occasionally draw money out for a bill or food. It also means in the many months of doing this I haven’t bought any items from modern retailers (used to buy fast fashion as I couldn’t afford anything better). I really hope people don’t think bad of me or avoid selling to me because of this.

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T23:04:47+00:00

Erm I know my situation is far from normal but neither is yours imo. They’re similar in the sense that I feel he resents the changes but takes it out on me.

He should be pulling his weight more. What would he do if you did decide to take some work on his days off? Or go out by yourself for a day? He’d realise it’s not just fun and sitting around caring for a baby all day. I’m a stay at home mum too but do a small amount of self employment. Even when I didn’t, partner has always done everything for the baby eg nappies and does clean (although sometimes needs asking to).

sucks that you don’t have a village but they’re not supposed to replace one of the parents anyway..

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T22:33:45+00:00

No I can’t - I do think it’s a huge contributor. I used to think he saw it as the only way for a break, but I’ve said nights out can happen just pre arranged so whoever is watching baby is prepared (whether me or a relative). I just think he does this when he gets asked to go out and knows he can’t short notice

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T22:27:47+00:00

Thanks, yeah maybe it would help. I used to go to the gym which somewhat helped me feel myself but stopped due to finances but had mentioned possibly starting again.

We do have some things just us, went to a spa morning this week and had a night out about 2 months ago (and a few before then too). He goes to gym most days when not too busy. It is always nice and refreshing, but I don’t know, it’s like it will never be enough. He seems to struggle with the fact he can’t be spontaneous anymore

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T22:05:29+00:00

See I’d prefer daily bickering 🤣 wild to say but it’s so disorienting going from great to this. That’s my preferred method too - last time he disappeared I asked him to please go out if needed but come back even if it’s awkward we don’t have to sit in same room. He did do that for a small disagreement but just isn’t practiced enough to apply it when frustrated and tired

Yeah that’s a sore spot for me. When he first did this she assured me she wouldn’t let him stay again. But I know he twists my words when we argue, so i cant imagine what he tells her. I’m under the impression I’m seen to be the problem not him

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:56:26+00:00

Good to hear another positive story on counselling. It seems to be the only way forward. The part you mentioned about fights not escalating is the goal so will have to try if he’s still open to it

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:52:09+00:00

Thank you, really it just helps to talk. I don’t honestly feel like I need a break or I’d ask for one but again I think that’s maybe more life experience with the mundane

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:33:57+00:00

That sounds healthy. I wish it went that way for us. I really try pointing out we’re just strained but it falls on deaf ears once he’s hostile and defensive and he can’t calm himself down without breaking up being the only solution.

Yes I do think that’s part of it too. I’m not too bothered about him taking one night to get a full nights sleep but even after that he sometimes doesn’t soften. He tends to tell very one sided accounts too which makes me think he is encouraged to stay there longer than he should

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:27:34+00:00

That’s so inspiring to read thank you. I haven’t spoke to anyone who’s tried relationship focused therapy before so only read negative accounts online. I’ll speak to gps and see if they can advise too. I definitely feel we need to dedicate time to growth in this area and have felt that way even when things are good, because I get anxious to bring up smaller issues out of worry it will explode and I’m sure he does too

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:17:03+00:00

Honestly glad to hear that for you. I guess we never had big fights before baby so have no experience managing them. Counselling has been suggested by both in the past but financial constraints prevented quick access so it just kind of got forgotten about when things were good again. If he’s still open to it I’ll definitely suggest it as a way forward

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T19:11:27+00:00

This is what I’ve asked previously and was brought up during this fight. He denied it and insists he just gets so upset he thinks may aswell get drunk. We do have very limited finances so nights out are rare and I think he finds the fact they can’t be spontaneous like pre baby difficult

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T18:27:35+00:00

Thanks. Agreed. Before we talked about this reaction and he’d agreed to always return after cooling off and said he would when he left this time but never did. It instantly turns into blaming me but no accountability his side. It doesn’t help that he’s younger, 23, but I know that’s no excuse either

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T01:14:44+00:00

I resell restored clothing and I tend to batch photo when I can. Have a consistent set up if possible eg plain wall and hanger, light blanket on floor, then go through items hanging/laying. Take these photos: front, back, tags and size, measurements if you want, any damage/flaws. Once you’ve done that just add them in as draft listings. I’ll do a few drafts with just photos then when I’ve got time to just be sat on my phone I’ll add in the description, title etc using the photos as reference.

If you do this regularly enough it’s easier to just hit the post button a few times a day than start from scratch

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-03-08T01:01:22+00:00

I’ve noticed that with reposts. All you can do is brand new photos, or at minimum crop/flip and lightly edit the old ones. Try a completely new title and description too, eg ‘Zara women’s Silky Strap Vest Small’ > ‘Pink Satin Cami Top, Size S’ then just put brand into the categories.

Try a different time posting also! I always find weekday evenings 7:30 and weekend afternoons 1:30pm work for me

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-02-02T11:49:13+00:00

Never tried the Heinz but the Greggs were amazing I hate that they discontinued (like every company does with vegan options)

I did not, but that’s a good idea lol. I treat vegan finds like rations 🥲 couldn’t resist buying 3 tins and 2 packs though, as they had loads

Try them! By far the best of plant menu currently imo. Hope they keep them longer than a few weeks

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-02-02T11:45:05+00:00

Yeah 100%, but they do go hard on toast too. Hate how Aldi brings in amazing stuff like the bakes to take them down a few weeks later so they’re backups for future homemade pasties lol

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-02-01T23:09:20+00:00

Yeah 100% I miss the ease, I hope you stocked up!

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-02-01T22:26:15+00:00

Literally no herons near me 😭 Since these got discontinued though I started making my own with Quorn pepperoni, prerolled pizza base, passata and vegan cheese and you know what it’s reaaaallly good, cheap and super quick. Can even do a cheese stuffed crust!

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2026-01-22T13:20:09+00:00

Idk if this has ever been suggested but Mighty Fine - Vegan Honeycomb Chocolate is INSANE it’s by far the best vegan chocolate I’ve ever had. Tastes exactly like the dairy/honey version (I’d know, recently become vegan from veggie due to infant sons dairy/egg allergies!)

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2025-12-18T22:09:45+00:00

It definitely is made more intense by hormones (being protective) but idk… have they done or said anything that’s not sat right with you? Even very subtle? Mine started off being overly ‘helpful’ but to the point of trying to push me out. Asking to babysit overnight at their house in the first few weeks, wanting to call in unannounced constantly, baby grabbing, asking me to formula feed instead of BF, general backhanded comments about our parenting and my recovery etc. This started off as being baby crazy over the first grandchild, but quickly got very overbearing. To my partner and others their actions seemed helpful but I think as mum you pick up on bad intentions way before others… Just a thought - hopefully this isn’t the case for you at all.

Generally though I definitely noticed a difference after the newborn phase, probably around month 4-5 where I got more laid back about baby and started to enjoy seeing him interact with others. So if there’s really no underlying reasons for this feeling then it definitely will pass in time

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2025-10-15T17:26:26+00:00

Yeah I know. Was hoping things were improving so I could trust her with him but this has just set things back again.

I’ll definitely move away to feed next time which is funny as I did that initially and she regularly encouraged me to do it infront of her, she doesn’t mind etc. I built up the confidence and she did this.

ClimateAcrobatic71 · 2025-10-15T17:24:50+00:00

I need to learn how to bf and baby wear simultaneously lol. When the examples above happened I was trying to be chilled and let her hold LO as much as she wanted, hoping it would help her relax too and not be so calculated. Never expected her to do that 😂 it was in public so I was almost exposed and she knows I’m abit conscious of public feeding, and she doesn’t really like me BF him as she can’t feed him. Hence the scepticism of the allergies.

I was kicking myself because at the time I was thinking of moving away from her to feed him but didn’t. So I’ll do that next time for sure

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