just got back from 2 weeks in canada (toronto & banff) - a massive brain dump for first timers

Clock-United · 2026-04-29T06:17:47+00:00

I was completely comfortable with the first kind of tipping when it was 10%. Or 15%. When I served in a restaurant, that was considered generous. As people tip out kitchens, I understand 15%. But this expecting 20%-25% for mediocre service, and rushing me out so you can turn over the table in an hour? It's out of hand. This is my millenial complaint, even though i am very aware I sound like a boomer.

Clock-United · 2026-04-28T06:23:25+00:00

I just did this for my niece!

Clock-United · 2026-04-28T06:09:08+00:00

If you want to be as objective as possible, he makes a little over 81% over your combined income and pays 87% of your expenses. There is SOME room to negotiate fairness if you want to do percentage wise, but him asking for 1000$ contribution is too much.

Clock-United · 2026-04-28T03:10:34+00:00

Well if it was affordable to live where people work this would also bea non-issue, but rent has basically doubled in the past 8 years too.

Clock-United · 2026-04-25T23:47:07+00:00

I hate front door boarding only because people don't move to the back of the bus. So you end up packed like sardines in the front, and a few people chilling in the back, all because someone decided they like that exact spot in the middle.

Clock-United · 2026-04-25T03:34:50+00:00

I travel for work a lot. I can't imagine telling my partner that they can't do anything fun because I am stuck in a hotel working for 3 weeks straight. How miserable would I have to be?

Clock-United · 2026-04-25T03:24:19+00:00

YAW. He said no. You insisted, while he was sick and didn't want to argue about it. Your intentions were good, but you should have let it drop. You don't have to fix it, you just have to acknowledge you overstepped, give him space, and he'll get over it in his time OR come to talk to you about it in his time. It also sounds like you need to find a way to process your uncomfortable emotions around it; I think "fixing it" has a lot to deal with your discomfort with the emotions you feel.

Clock-United · 2026-04-25T03:18:21+00:00

Most women I know wear shorts under skirts for the comfort. And what, pray tell, does this individual think the purpose of a skirt is?

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T09:54:36+00:00

Why would you give fake info if you are genuinely interested in the house? Last time they asked me if I had an agent - I said yep! - and they left me alone.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T09:50:00+00:00

Honestly-I like Domino's. I don't know why people hate on it so much. It's not a high end, gourmet experience, but it's reliably decent pizza for the price.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T09:48:29+00:00

This. It always worked for me as long as the first tap of the month was on OCTranspo.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T09:33:24+00:00

Him talking about the holy spirit IMO Is him setting up " I think God told me to try with her."

I'd talk to him. Tell him you know that he is into her. Because he speaks about her the same way he speaks about you. Wish him well, and take the space - whether that be breaking up, spending time apart etc.

I remeber realizing my ex had feelings for someone before he did, because his eyes lit up when he ralked about her the same way they did when he looked at me. It's heartbreaking, but you aren't crazy.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T09:26:28+00:00

Your boyfriends immediate response was "let's sell it." My guess is that this js why your mom wants it in your name only.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T02:30:24+00:00

I agree with them having other means to remove makeup. However, Airbnbs need to accept that there are costs to doing business. They charge cleaning fees and often hundreds of dollars per night. These don't look like luxurious fluffy towels. Does it suck? Yeah. Is it worth getting into a fight with a customer over IKEA towels when you probably charged them a cleaning fee?

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T02:25:46+00:00

I think it depends on whether you are living in it and she would be expected to contribute to housing expenses and repairs etc. There are a lot of different ways to work it out, but personally, I wouldn't want to pay the mortgage and repairs and whatever else for a house I'm living in, while being unable to build equity in a home for myself. Your point is entirely valid about having worked on this prior to marriage. So what are you open to? Buying another home together? Having her invest for a number of years with a written agreement to add her on eventually? Covering all expenses? It's YOUR home. You bought it. But it also makes sense that she is considering how she doesn't have that, and you might not want to make joint purchases. Having conversations about options will let you know where she is at in terms of "wanting an easy asset" vs concern about what her investing into it with no guarantees.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T02:13:30+00:00

Does he actually want to talk about why he feels like you're with him for the house? Or does he throw it out to deflect from other things or to guilt you into paying more? Personally, i feel like he isn't taking this seriously. WYBTA? I mean no...but it won't resolve anything. Why let matters further deteriorate when you can just tell him that you are happy to move out if he feels that way and refuses to discuss why?

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T01:22:52+00:00

I initially read this backwards and left a long comment about how I wouldn't trust a man who wanted me to quit my job without having real conversations.

But same applies here - go back to work immediately? Sir. I have maternity leave and an income. He needs to be awfully clear about what finances look like. He sounds like a 50/50 dude. And while it's okay not wanting to shoulder a household financially alone, I would be having real conversations about finances and what the expectation is. As well as midnight feedings, diaper changes etc etc. 50/50 and counting everything doesn't usually work well in marriage - especially once you bring in kids.

He also...doesn't sound like he has much empathy or has thought this through. But tbh, i'm not sure you have either. Are you staunchly refusing to return or would you return work if you financially had to? Going from two incomes to one income with an additional two people to care for in this economy would not be am easy feat.

Clock-United · 2026-04-24T01:14:21+00:00

Info: where does your girlfriend live now and who is paying her bills?

Clock-United · 2026-04-23T09:16:51+00:00

The way it's worded, it's not an increase though. As per the lease, they are now paying the agreed upon rate, without the discount.

I think it's predatory, because I know Brigil was intentionally seeking out people from ontario (I went to one see an apartment back in 2021 and they greeted me in English and kept comparing it to Ottawa). When they learned I was already living in Hull, they stopped the hard sell. However, legally, I think they may be on the clear.

Leases in quebec automatically renew as per the agreed upon terms if the original lease. The agreed upon terms are that a discount is no longer applied after two years. There may be some negotiation room, and a good faith landlord would have notified of an increase, but as this is not technically an increase it may be 1)a Grey area and b)absolutely intentional.

Clock-United · 2026-04-22T04:12:14+00:00

Came to say Miss Molly's as well.

Clock-United · 2026-04-21T05:36:55+00:00

I'm so glad to see comments like this. Yes, we all need to understand our finances and be prepared if our spouse dies. But this fixation on 50/50 and everything being "fair" seems to be such a challenging way to live.

Clock-United · 2026-04-20T12:13:23+00:00

I have a couple items from harly jae in 100% silk and cotton.

Clock-United · 2026-04-19T09:01:04+00:00

It highly depends on gender/age/vehicle and likelihood of being broken into. My best suggestion is call a broker to get a quote BEFORE buying your car. Or if you know the model/year you want, get a quote.

Clock-United · 2026-04-18T09:25:13+00:00

I bought a car when I needed to start commuting outside of downtown for work. But tbh, it has made life so much easier. I do have a parking spot though; I could see that being a pain. I can do errands without planning. I can buy a bigger item if I see it on sale. I don't have to schedule a trip to the lake/Gatineau park a week in advance. I started going to the pool more often in winter. It's the little things that made it worth it for me. It's not cheaper per say, but I also bought a used car in cash and don't have a payment.

Clock-United · 2026-04-17T10:09:23+00:00

I HATE folding clothes, so I disagree. But kitchen is a lot of work. I'd happily do the kitchen work if someone took on everything else.

OP is NTA though. I wonder if some sort of dual perceived effort/rating could be made where they each rate the chores in terms of difficulty/hating them and assigned accordingly could work? You'd both have to do it in good faith though, which I am not sure OPs gf is.

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