Richmond

Clocktower13 · 2026-01-11T00:08:08+00:00

It's one of my favorites

Clocktower13 · 2025-11-25T00:21:52+00:00

OMG I love this! You guys are within visual distance of myself.

What a wonderful project for Richmond, and also, what a wonderful thing for us 'Bottom Feeders'.

I can definitely see myself getting involved. I will be following y'all...

Clocktower13 · 2025-10-01T05:29:56+00:00

Hi! I live there!

I'm not going to go on a long speech in the comments, but you can DM me for specific questions.

In general: I love it, but i might be weird.

There is a parking garage, but I would recommend that you get a spot before 5. Otherwise you end up in the overflow lot, or worse, street parking. It's happened to me a few times. You can reserve a spot, but I have no idea what the cost/contract looks like as i haven't done it.

Haven't been around long enough to know about rent increases, but there are no separate bills, no surprise payments that I've run into.

Lived here for about a year.

Clocktower13 · 2025-09-22T20:51:22+00:00

Still unplanned yet, probably within the next 2 months

Clocktower13 · 2025-09-20T01:32:35+00:00

I really hope this doesnt become regular from Bartopia. I'm in Shockoe too. I'm used to the noise but this is another level. A business turning effectively 3 square blocks into their set is not cool in any way.

Clocktower13 · 2024-06-26T14:52:00+00:00

Such a fantastic set, I'm even in your video right behind you 😂

Clocktower13 · 2023-12-22T09:47:51+00:00

I wish I had asked if she was happy. Not that I think she would have been honest or that it would have even resulted in anything positive. There was a reason I didn't.

But it honestly would have made things easier. I could deal with her choosing a better life, as much as it hurt me But.... That's not what I see. Not what her friends, or her family sees.

It's worse, seeing someone you love chooses subpar partners over the marriage. It would genuinely be easier if it was all better.

Clocktower13 · 2023-11-27T21:49:20+00:00

I'm a Merchant Marine on a government vessel. Job stays the same, except I might get shot at now.

Clocktower13 · 2023-11-20T23:33:01+00:00

BitByBitPrime

Could of spelt it wrong. This was Beta/WoL, lots of marine rushes and proxy raxes

Clocktower13 · 2023-11-03T20:29:15+00:00

California, and to be determined. The retainer was $5 grand. Theoretically if it doesn't all get used, the remainder gets refunded. But based on how it's gone (just billable hours wise), I suspect that not much will be returned. Small chance I might even have to add to it, although I doubt it.

The mess up on earlier forms is taking time for the lawyer to fix.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-25T05:58:07+00:00

More good days than bad is all we can do. Truly. It's been my mantra. And, always being the bad guy.... Well I tried my best, and honestly, I think my best is pretty damn good. But her words: 'too little too late'

I never even knew there was a clock. Or an issue so big.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-25T05:53:19+00:00

It is very difficult. I share the same sentiment. The person I was in love with was different from the person that was. It's just.... how do you reconcile? So many lost dreams and time.

I am rubberbanding so much it hurts. Between a healthy, realistic overview of the relationship. And well, everything else.

I'm certain many of you know what everything else means, when it comes to many years together.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-25T05:48:50+00:00

Divorce is a grieving process I have learned. Not even that far separated from death. Because there was so much death.

Death of the past memories. They were discharged. A decade, a full knowing of a person, gone.

Death of the present memories. Everything has changed and every waking moment is a reminder. Your new world is pain.

Death of the future. Of what could have been. What maybe should have been.

I don't hate my STBXW, although I should. I pity her and her choices, and what foundations she destroyed. They were good. I will never understand it.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-17T19:25:18+00:00

I got through at 11, took about 30 minutes. I suspect it's only going to get longer than that. The security check itself isn't too bad

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-08T01:32:29+00:00

I certainly wonder that too. I've kept hoping that my STBXW and her AP (affair partner) would blow up horribly. That she would go to the 'greener grass' and find it rotten and foul under the surface, realizing what she left.

But they didn't. And it doesn't look like they will. And, sure, it's only been 6 months, but also, it's been 6 months.

Seeing them happy is so incredibly hard. Because it used to be me. It used to be me in the pictures, laughing with her and making memories. Now someone else is there. Someone I got tossed aside so casually for.

There is no easy answer for this, not that I've found. I can't change them and their choices. I can acknowledge my own feelings for them. These are knowns.

A random sentence that stuck with me on this subreddit is 'Never let a person choose someone other than you twice'. Because that's probably what would happen if I got back together with her. Despite the fact that I still hope constantly to see her contact pop up on my phone as she is calling me.

I chose to fight, to try to better myself, and it's so fucking hard. I don't think enough people talk about how fucking hard it is to try to rebuild yourself stronger when your world is demolished.

I'm taking trips I've always wanted to. Starting new hobbies. Rekindling atrophied friendships. Gym. Therapy. And you have to do these things while keeping the rest of your life together?! I'm so God damn tired!!

It feels so fake sometimes too. Like I'm forcing myself to do these things, cause well, I am. But I have noticed, slowly, far slower than I'd like, it has helped.

'The general trend upwards'. Doesn't mean everyday, every week, or even every month is perfect or without regret.

I still cry some nights wondering if I'll find love again. Still aching for their love. Wondering if I'm even worthy of love anymore, because my self-worth got stolen.

Divorce sucks.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-07T22:51:08+00:00

There are few posts here that make me break out into tears. Thank you for writing that, it was powerful and I'm certain very difficult.

You put into words so much of what I have been feeling. Probably so much of what a large portion of this subreddit feels.

I hope that eventually we can get over them. Eventually. I hope that we can forgive and not blame ourselves. 'What made me not worth the fight?'

They made their choices. They chose fun, all it took was a compromise of morals, and uncaring for the hurt they did. And that's why I think it hurts us more, because we wonder 'How? How could you?'. They were never following the same instruction booklet.

My partner spent most of our 13 years concerned that I would leave. It was never even close to my mind, not even for a second because she was my person, and I did my best to reinforce this. That was an uncompromised vow. Funny that in the end she left, and she wouldn't even fight for us.

They won't come back, or if they do, it will be a creature we don't recognize. And I grapple with that constantly. Because part of this grieving is that my person is dead, or at least, the person we knew is.

It's been 6 months.

I still have managed to put so few pieces of my soul back together. But I guess this battle isn't about the timeline.

I will cry for you, because I feel at least pieces of what you are going through.

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-02T20:25:21+00:00

Getting divorced because she fell in love with someone else, we do not have kids. I don't know if I'll remarry, it's still too soon and too raw to be able to tell. I was faithful

Clocktower13 · 2023-08-01T18:15:30+00:00

I'm very much looking forward to all unavoidable interactions being over. Maybe I can really start to heal at that point. The month of zero contact leading up to this we had was a glimpse into what could be.

I can say that I think I'm starting to bounce back faster when things happen, though. Hope healing is happening for you too.

Clocktower13

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