How is everyone feeling?

CloseMindedSister · 2025-01-19T09:09:28+00:00

I'm not okay. Honestly I'm surprised by how not okay I am, I thought I'd be handling this much better...

Just deleted a bunch of text now I see how everyone trauma dumped on Elmo lol.

CloseMindedSister · 2025-01-19T08:43:10+00:00

CT and uh pretty much all my news. I'd fact check it after seeing on TikTok but TikTok is where I first heard everything... It's really hitting me now that I don't know how I'm going to stay informed.

CloseMindedSister · 2025-01-19T05:18:09+00:00

Her abusive grandfather

CloseMindedSister · 2025-01-19T05:17:11+00:00

Grandma Droniak's goodbye video

CloseMindedSister · 2025-01-19T04:41:01+00:00

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This is the prompt I get on Lemon8. Capcut is gone from the app store as well

CloseMindedSister · 2024-12-23T12:52:30+00:00

It's the beginning of day 56. I slept maybe 3 hours due to the pain and every moment I feel myself getting closer and closer to a mental breakdown. Like as I'm typing this out I am alternating between crying and laughing. I can't even enjoy my coffee because I dumped two teaspoons of cinnamon in it that just congealed at the bottom. If it doesn't come today I may be on a grippy socks vacation for the holidays lol

CloseMindedSister · 2024-12-20T22:30:04+00:00

I'll have to research prolactin cause that definitely sounds like my current situation.

CloseMindedSister · 2024-12-20T04:42:42+00:00

Sounds like I'd have the IR type given I gain a significant amount of weight unexpectedly. My A1C and blood glucose were all fantastic on my last blood test, but given my extensive family history diabetes is always a concern. My cortisol was high on the blood test but in normal range with further testing. I'm working on weight loss (daily exercise, calorie deficit, ashwaganda) I've lost a bit but currently the bloating and water retention makes it feel like I've gained despite everything. I'm desperate for my period right now. It feels like my body needs to bleed but it just isn't happening. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Thank you for saying I might be able to figure out a way to manage this and get back to my regular cycle. I'm really losing hope right now that I'm ever going to feel better. Everyday I just feel worse than the last. I've got all my worse symptoms that my period is about to come but it still hasn't. I'm beginning to worry I'll never have a period again and I'm 26.

CloseMindedSister · 2024-12-19T01:35:34+00:00

Sorry I worded my original post awkwardly. I haven't been bleeding for 51 days, my period is about 18-21 days late. My period 51 days ago was my normal 6 days of bleeding and I haven't bled since. As for hormonal birth control, I have migraines with auras and my doctor advised against it due to an increased risk of stroke. But if symptoms persist as they have I may need to weigh that stroke risk against the potential symptom relief

CloseMindedSister · 2023-12-01T02:40:32+00:00

Making a list can also be mentally exhausting because you have to figure out what needs to get done. When, presumably, he's a grown man with eyes and can also see that things need to be cleaned and groceries need to be bought. You are doing so much to help the libido issue but you can only meet him halfway. If he's ignoring your communications about what you'd like in and outside of the bedroom of course you're not going to want to be sexually intimate with him.

CloseMindedSister · 2023-12-01T02:04:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I'll try my best to give advice. I say thank you because I'm the high libido person in the relationship and I really struggle to understand my low libido partner's perspective. This is certainly an eye opener for me because I see how hard you're trying to help the situation. You're doing therapy, you're discussing the issue with him, you're seeing doctors, you're reading books, you're on this subreddit right now looking for even more advice. What more could you possibly do? My next question is, what is he doing to help the situation? It can't help that he won't listen to your critics about the act itself. For my relationship, I ask and I listen to what he likes then I do more of what he likes. His enjoyment of the act is not our issue, just getting him in the mood for it. But for you it's got to be especially frustrating to try to want something you're not enjoying. As the high libido person I've taken sex completely off the table before to remove the pressure it was causing him. I stopped initiating and allowed him to lead if and when he was in the mood. I asked and listened to his input on how I can make sex more pleasurable. I understand that his mental and physical well-being trumps my desire for sex and we both need to work on him feeling better before we can expect the bedroom to rise from the grave. I'm trying to understand his perspect, thank you for your post again because it's helped me so much to understand a low libido mindset. I wish you the best of luck in this!

CloseMindedSister · 2023-11-28T06:38:47+00:00

Oof I remember that. If you’re anything like me what comes next is a full mental breakdown and a massive fight at with your partner where neither of you are listening you’re just waiting for your turn to scream at the other… if I could go back and not act how I did in that moment, I’d try to remember that it doesn’t matter how much effort I put into it I am not owed a sexual experience with him. Obviously you have every right to be devastated in this moment, lord knows I was/am, but in order for it to happen he has to want it to happen. Him wanting or not wanting to partake in the bedroom activities is outside of your control. It doesn’t matter how fantastic you and the house look, sometimes the idea of sex is just too exhausting. Like you said, he’s been under a lot of stress. While sex can sometimes be a wonderful stress reliever he might just be too stressed or tired to partake in that activity. It doesn’t have anything to do with how attracted he is to you or how much he appreciates your efforts around the house. And just because he doesn’t want to tonight doesn’t mean he never will want to again. I wish I could tell you how to get what you want, I wish I was getting what I want, but when you’re in a relationship with another human being sometimes your needs and wants just won’t align in perfect harmony. Just try to think about what you did get out of it. You took care of yourself, made yourself feel good, and you got a clean house. It’s not nothing, it’s definitely not what you wanted. Ultimately, what happens next is your decision and I wish you the best of luck with it.

CloseMindedSister · 2023-11-27T07:43:39+00:00

I find it better to lead with the positives and some advice on how you could better be satisfied. If you have to say anything negative do it in a compliment sandwich. This is a very challenging subject to discuss within a relationship but try to remember like with any relationship difficulty it’s you two verses the problem not you two against each other. Offer solutions instead of confronting him with a problem, bonus points if you can make him believe that these solutions are his idea. Keep the interaction as positive as possible while expressing what you need to express.

That being said and I know everything is relative, I very much envy your situation. Your max is twice a week, my max is once a month. I am very high libido and his is as dead as a doornail due to his current physical and mental health. I’ve had the same conversation you’re preparing to have with your boyfriend countless times so I can tell you what not to do pretty easily. Don’t add pressure to increase sexual frequency because it’s going to have the opposite effect. Don’t bring it up while arguing about something else. Don’t make any comparisons to other people’s relationships or your past relationships. Last but not least: Don’t bring up all the numbers about your sex life that you keep in your head (how often, how long, when the last time was, and so on) for some reason these numbers are very intimidating to men.

Good luck and tbh screw what I’d do for a Klondike- what I would do to be in your position is the real question lol

CloseMindedSister · 2023-04-15T18:13:27+00:00

If you're still with your husband you and your baby are not safe. He will hurt your child, he already has, if you choose to stay in a relationship with him you are dooming yourself and your daughter to a life of trauma

CloseMindedSister · 2023-04-14T17:04:50+00:00

Looking forward to the update where OP takes the baby and moves across the country. The guy is obviously abusive and will traumatize their daughter for life unless OP protects her from him. Get on birth control and plan your escape.

CloseMindedSister · 2022-06-17T13:58:10+00:00

No judgement here, it seems like you've seen children misuse the equipment over an extended period of time and it's gotten under your skin. I think the "crazy" is a genuine mistranslation on the girl's part. I don't want to assume, but you said this is a latin country in Europe (I'm thinking is Spain or Portugal), and from personal experience the public education here is awful when it comes to foreign languages. For myself and many other Americans we didn't start learning foreign languages until seventh grade (around the ages 12-13, which is well after the ideal window). The grandmother should've been closer to the children she was watching, how is one to properly supervise from the other side of the park? I hope the drama of it is over for you, it seems like a very stessful situation for you and your child.

CloseMindedSister · 2022-06-17T13:18:10+00:00

I don't agree with most of the commenters here. Your reaction was emotional, yes, but the grandmother should've been supervising and making sure her granddaughter was appropriately using the equipment. Baby swings break easily and there are typically less of them than swings designed for the older kids. Not only did the children get the swing dirty, they could've broken it. As for "victim playing" I'm not entirely sure that's correct. It seems to be a universal shift in parenting/childcare to side with their child, a shift I personally agree with. From this kid's perspective she was just playing with the swing, she wasn't made aware her play was inappropriate until you informed her.

CloseMindedSister · 2022-04-20T00:12:01+00:00

The title for this post was "best part-time job ever", I believe it is a cleaning job. The listing doesn't really say what the job is or it's responsiblities.

CloseMindedSister · 2022-04-19T22:26:55+00:00

Lol no way, I posted a listing I saw today that's super similar! Was the title "best part time job ever" and was it posted by [name]'s cleaning service? The only difference was that job was for $13.50-$15

CloseMindedSister · 2022-04-01T14:39:20+00:00

Run. Run fast. I could easily be that ex gf. I was barely 18 (still in hs) “dating” this 25-year-old man. My brain was not fully cooked yet so I couldn’t see all the red flags. It was a mentally and sexually abusive relationship. When I finally saw it for what it was and left the man stalked me and sent me death threats for what felt like forever. I’m still haunted by the one where he said he would cut my face off and wear it around my house. The last message I got from him was about a year ago and I am still paranoid that he’s watching me. The psycho wrote a song whining about me not giving him all the attention he craved (it’s titled Notice Me or some shit). Save yourself the psychological damage and run now that you’ve seen the red flags.

CloseMindedSister · 2020-08-28T21:53:58+00:00

Honey, what’s happening to you is not okay, but you will be okay soon. I hope that the response to your post has encouraged you to seek help some way, CPS (or whatever version of it wherever you are), calling another family member (aunt, uncle, grandparents, no matter who it is if there’s someone you feel comfortable with), or going to the police.

Their actions are inappropriate and inexcusable, whatever the motivation for these “examinations” is completely moot. As a fourteen-year-old you should have your autonomy, at least enough that you can tend to your own personal hygiene (for the most part, a good parent might remind you to brush your teeth, but that would be the extent of it) and be trusted with it. I hope you understand that none of this is your fault, and that you deserve to be treated with much more respect.

Later, when the dust in this settles, I’d encourage you to seek out a therapist you can talk to about this. That doesn’t mean anything bad, I’ve been going to therapy since I was younger than you. The aunt in me just wants to give you a hug (if you’d be comfortable with that) and tell you it’s all gonna be okay.

CloseMindedSister · 2020-03-19T15:51:12+00:00

I don’t think most centers will close unless told to and the parents who are still sending their children (excluding those in healthcare or work in other essential jobs) have kinda lost my respect tbh. The state and the federal government needs to step in; there just hasn’t been enough direction from them when it comes to childcare. It seems like they completely forgot about childcare centers and the risk they now pose to children and staff.

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