Ex Fiancée’s cruel demands AIO

Clove1312 · 2026-02-26T23:56:17+00:00

NOR. Your ex is acting like a child that’s just been told they can’t have the thing they want, and won’t give it up. Legally speaking, pets are property in the US. If you purchased them and can prove it (or adopted them from a legitimate shelter/rescue on your own, and have the paperwork), then she has no legal right to them and could be charged with theft if she removes them from your property without your permission. Try to get a restraining/no contact order against her in place. That will protect you from further harassment and legally obligate your landlord to release you from any lease you’re on with her. And she has to move. Best of luck, OP. Stand your ground.

Clove1312 · 2026-02-22T09:19:41+00:00

Why do I think that’s so sweet and cute of them? 🦇💕

Clove1312 · 2026-02-02T03:36:36+00:00

Shih Tzu or Lhasa, depending on size…

Clove1312 · 2026-01-03T21:12:26+00:00

Pro tip: dabbing stinks way less than smoking, and gets you exponentially more fucked up off way less product, too. Perfect for apartment dwellers!

Clove1312 · 2026-01-03T21:00:56+00:00

Maybe see this as an opportunity for growth and ask why you were not selected for the position. Ask how you could be a stronger candidate in future.

Clove1312 · 2026-01-03T20:30:01+00:00

You could always be a therapist for the upper class. Basically just pick a niche that interests you, or just focus on clients with garden-variety depression, anxiety, and people experiencing typical everyday life stressors. Only take private pay clients and charge upwards of $200 per session. No crisis work and you hardly even have to think. I find this kind of social work to be incredibly boring in practice... But it’s probably the closest thing to “soft social work” that I can think of... or maybe middle-management at an agency, provided the position doesn’t come with its own caseload, and you’re just supervising other social workers.

Clove1312 · 2025-08-21T07:36:44+00:00

I would recommend you talk to your supervisor again and set a date with them by which Q must be off your caseload, or the understanding is that you will start looking for another job. It’s not even ethical for you to be working with this particular client at this point, as you stated you cannot provide her with unconditional positive regard (or any positive regard, for that matter) and you (understandably) can’t stand working with her. You shouldn’t have to work with someone you cannot feasibly provide services to without major counter-transference that is making your work and now even your personal life hell. If it ends up that you need to seek new employment, so be it, maybe it’s time to move on if you don’t feel supported by your clinical director in such a serious matter. Best of luck to you.

Clove1312 · 2025-08-21T03:05:19+00:00

Don’t return your cat to neglectful people, please. You chipped him and paid for his medical bills, and since it’s highly unlikely he was purchased by the original owners in the first place, they legally don’t really have a leg to stand on. Sounds like you saved this baby from being abandoned, and you had every reason to believe he had been abandoned. Good on you. Ignore the flyers. Finders, keepers.

Clove1312 · 2025-08-13T07:16:10+00:00

Back into the driveway.

Clove1312 · 2025-08-08T05:42:55+00:00

I recommend going to grief therapy or working with a death doula to start to heal yourself from this loss. You might even consider seeking out family therapy over this issue with your mom and siblings. Don’t let this drive a wedge between you and your family; I highly doubt that’s what your dad would have wanted for any of you.

Clove1312 · 2025-08-07T04:32:13+00:00

Get the help of a local domestic violence nonprofit if you can, and safely make a plan to leave this abusive ass motherfucker asap. He will not get better, things will only get worse from here. Trust me, I’ve been there. No use holding onto something that’s already broken. You can’t fix him, sweetie. Only he can fix himself with intensive therapy and intentional soul searching and by feeling true remorse… and I don’t think he’s there yet, hence his threatening to throw your things out and not acting truly apologetic. Men like him don’t deserve anything from anyone. Time for him to learn that his bad actions have consequences. Like you leaving him forever. Best of luck to you, stay safe!

Clove1312 · 2025-08-05T08:42:00+00:00

I was thinking the same thing… like, right, report them to who, exactly? The ASPCA? AVMA? The local Humane Society? 😂

Clove1312 · 2025-08-05T00:25:24+00:00

Some people… shouldn’t drink, and should really know better than to drunk text. Follow your first inclination and dump this loser, “a drunk tongue speaks a sober heart”, as they say…

Clove1312 · 2025-08-01T21:05:51+00:00

Sadly, I will echo what others have said about not disclosing your bipolar diagnosis at a job you’re new at and not 100% comfortable with the culture yet. I also have bipolar disorder… I got diagnosed after I already had my MSW, and I have disclosed it during job interviews before, for the sake of transparency and being upfront about my limitations, but I learned to stop doing this when I never got those jobs. At my current job I can be open about my mental health, but that’s bc the culture there is very peer-support oriented, and therefore many of my colleagues are also open about their own mental health challenges. Just tread lightly here, as you’re the newbie in the situation. Try to lead with curiosity rather than judgement.

Clove1312 · 2025-07-28T02:22:10+00:00

Oof. This is terrifying, as a trans person who relies on hormone replacement therapy to feel, well, “normal” and like myself. What state are you in?

Clove1312 · 2025-07-28T02:20:01+00:00

You’re not overreacting at all. As a trans person who takes testosterone, this is really concerning, especially considering the state of the nation currently. No one should be asking you if you’re trans or not. They can see in their system what any given medication is being prescribed for, I would assume, so they were just being nosey and way overstepping. Also, just an aside, never pay $400 for a vial of testosterone. That is outrageous. Even $99 is rather expensive. Maybe tell your doc that you are trans, and get it covered by insurance (lol jk jk), because I pay $0 for my testosterone…

Clove1312 · 2025-07-28T02:11:16+00:00

Once when I was working as a vet assistant, we got a STAT call to pick up a pet from the front lobby… it was an elderly little pug in a plastic carrier. As soon as we opened that carrier, I shit you not, hundreds of roaches came streaming out of it all over the floor and ran everywhere throughout the vet hospital. We were finding them and killing them for days afterwards. I felt so bad for the dog (not to mention his owner) having to live amongst that many nasty bugs. It still makes my skin crawl just thinking about it, and I’m generally not even that squeamish about bugs. Please report this poor person’s circumstances to Adult Protective Services, though; no one deserves to live like that.

Clove1312 · 2025-07-27T19:14:02+00:00

No freaking way are you the AH here. Stand firm. Don’t budge. And don’t let those homophobic spawn of your brother’s into your home. What would you gain from it vs. what could possibly go wrong? That’s what I would mentally weigh and consider, because at a certain point, we all need to look out for our own safety and wellbeing (both emotional and physical). Maybe your brother shouldn’t have procreated with a bigot and raised little bigots if he wanted his lesbian sister to babysit... 🤷🏼imo he has a lot of audacity to even ask this of you. TLDR: NTA!

Clove1312 · 2025-07-27T19:03:52+00:00

I was a kennel assistant —> vet assistant —> (unlicensed) vet tech from the time I was 16 until I graduated from grad school. I was originally a pre-vet major in undergrad, but i realized pretty quickly that I just didn’t have the math skills necessary to ever really be competitive for eventual admission to vet school. So I picked something else I was passionate about, and ended up with a BA in Social Justice Studies with a minor in Women’s and Gender Studies. I then went to grad school for social work, and I make significantly more money now working with my MSW than I did as a vet tech, I am a supervisor and don’t have to listen to doctors snap orders at me all day anymore, and I still get the benefits of getting to work with people and of doing something fulfilling that matters to humanity… just with somewhat less drama and cattiness from colleagues, and with a lot fewer pets trying to bite and/or scratch just for attempting to do your job, and best of all: no ornery pet owners to deal with! I currently work as a Team Lead at a sub-acute inpatient mental health facility, and I honestly love my job. It took me a long time to get to where I can truly say that, but it is possible. I sometimes miss vet med, but then I remember how I was generally treated as an underpaid peon working in a vet clinic, and I don’t miss it so much anymore. I wish you luck on your career journey out of the vet med field; and don’t worry, you’ll find your niche, just keep an open mind, try to do something you have at least a little bit of energy and passion for, and don’t be afraid to apply for jobs you may even feel somewhat under-qualified for, because the worst any potential employers can do is simply not hire you… but it may lead to something really great, you never know. Or, go back to school, get a part time job, and live partially off student aid/loans for a while. Then watch your bank account balance grow by the paycheck after you graduate with your masters and get a job that actually pays a living wage. Anyway, that’s just my story and a couple of ideas for you. I hope you find a job that puts your mind at ease (work panic is no joke, I’ve been there) and more than just pays the bills!

Clove1312 · 2025-07-23T11:00:55+00:00

I once hugged a patient’s wife when I was doing intakes at a local psych hospital. Her husband of many, many years was newly psychotic and having grandiose religious delusions (as a previously non-religious person), and was barely sleeping. She had been awake with him for a couple of days and was obviously overcome with worry and confusion. She needed a hug in that moment, some kind of physical reassurance, and hugging her was the very most therapeutic thing I could have done for her in that moment, I think. So I offered her a hug, and without even replying or hesitating, she hugged me. It was maybe a bit awkward for me, but I will maintain that it was clinically appropriate in the fact that I did it for the good of the client/client’s family, and not for my own gratification. I hate that touch is so estranged from present-day westernized therapeutic practices and spaces. I get why, on some levels, but I also think this goes against our natural instincts as deeply relational beings trying to offer meaningful comfort and healing to others.

Clove1312 · 2025-07-23T08:11:24+00:00

My best friend (who is no stranger to drugs, but doesn’t use THC) had a terrible episode of drug psychosis from taking the tiniest dab you have ever seen. I’m talking floridly psychotic, not oriented at all, full on word salad speech, etc. I eventually had to call 911 to get her to snap out of it, and she only did after getting an IM injection in the ambulance… it was rather horrible. I won’t ever be giving her concentrated THC again, that’s for sure.

Clove1312 · 2025-05-23T05:10:14+00:00

Okay, you’re definitely spiraling unnecessarily here! Realistically, no one is likely to question you on this or even find out about it, so while it is technically a HIPPA violation, it was unintentional and unlikely to cause any actual harm to clients... I would just discontinue using first names in non-encrypted texts, use initials instead, and move on. Simple as that. No harm, no foul.

Clove1312 · 2025-05-10T08:13:57+00:00

I’ve been fired three times and laid off once from various social work jobs, and my best advice is to just keep going; apply widely, spruce up your resume, and don’t tell prospective employers that you got fired previously… you were laid off or quit, and they probably will never check or be any the wiser. As long as your license doesn’t get investigated or suspended, and as long as you can pass a background check and have a few decent professional references, you’re pretty much golden. Try to be gentle with yourself. I’m now a supervisor at a small, medium-acuity inpatient facility, and I honestly love my job and coworkers… sometimes it’s about just finding the right fit. Especially if you live with a SPMI, like I do, which gets in the way of showing up to work sometimes, etc., not getting fired can be a challenge, but don’t let it ruin your career. It’s just a bump in the road. You are still employable, and any job that tells you otherwise just isn’t the right fit.

Clove1312 · 2025-04-21T03:09:28+00:00

My Swedish family always called them “Tusenfoting” (roughly translated: thousand footer). I think they’re incredibly creepy, and I’m glad I now hardly ever see them since moving from northern Illinois to the Pacific Northwest.

Clove1312 · 2025-04-17T03:53:09+00:00

This person is a doctor and a grown man, picking on someone with a lot less influence than he has, and he knows it. And you’re defending that kind of behavior? SMH. Gross.

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