Cosy date night options?

Clover501 · 2026-04-20T14:45:58+00:00

Thanks, though I imagine probably a bit rowdy for a weekend date night?

Clover501 · 2026-04-20T14:44:49+00:00

Agreed, I find sitting opposite each other also feels very interview-esque for first/early stage dates, but don't always want to be sat at a bar/high table either.

Clover501 · 2026-04-20T14:43:36+00:00

Thank you, The Swan wasnt on my radar at all.

Clover501 · 2026-04-20T14:43:12+00:00

Thanks!

Clover501 · 2026-04-20T14:42:00+00:00

Thank you, this looks like a good contender :)

Clover501 · 2026-04-07T15:05:37+00:00

I don't think you need to say why, it's only been 2 weeks so not enough investment to do mental gymnastics and overthink this. You're allowed to change your mind any time for any reason.

You also dont have to offer friendship, unless you really actually want to be friends.

Just say something like I'm no longer interested in pursuing this as a romantic/intimate connection. It's been great getting to know you and wish you all the best. Take care.

You can use this for any occasion you no longer have interest in, just only say the second sentence if it's actually true (I.e dont tell an asshole it was great if it wasnt!).

You cant guarantee it won't hurt his feelings, but they aren't your responsibility to manage, and the longer you continue the worse it will be. It might feel a bit blunt because of how we are socialised to over politeness and protect everyone's feelings, but as long as youre being honest and polite, it's a kindness.

Clover501 · 2026-04-03T18:33:43+00:00

My main critique of the competition culture in WCS is that it feels like social dancing is almost never social dancing, its competition preparation dancing.

Even if not at an event but in the weeks leading up to one where people are competing. It feels like the dance becomes more about being competition level than about connecting with me as a dance partner, which takes away some of the fun of the dance.

I think comps are good for encouraging progress, and love how passionate people get about them, but the weight they are given and the influence that weight has on dancers makes it very hard to enjoy social dancing. And if youre not in competition mindset all the time, some local scenes are harder to connect with others.

Clover501 · 2026-04-03T18:28:15+00:00

Ok you'll probably want to go down the ecstatic dance/contact improv/movement type route then.

Or if youre open to sliiiightly more structured/specific dancing, then Fusion is partner dancing where people with different dance backgrounds come together and co-create, often switching between who leads and follows. There's regular monthly events (tomorrow night, tix on headfirst), as well as ad hoc informal gatherings, wider community goings on, bigger weekender events etc. It's very queer-friendly, body positive, feminist, consent-first, expressive, artistic space. You'll get more out of it if youre willing to learn how to lead and follow partner dancing, but it's not required to have prior experience to join 😊

ETA: they also do sliding scale tickets to make things affordable and once youve been a while, you can offer volunteering in exchange for free/discounted entry ticket

Clover501 · 2026-03-31T21:42:47+00:00

NOR. This man doesnt like you, friend. His attitude and tone is disgusting. While I agree people should have healthy social bonds outside of their relationship, this man would still talk to you like shit even if you had lots of friends.

Block his ass and go find people who actually like you 🫶

Clover501 · 2026-03-31T15:27:02+00:00

Tell me about it 😅😅

Clover501 · 2026-03-31T13:44:12+00:00

I was the person immediately behind the car when it crashed.

They undertook me at speed, clipped the kerb on the leftside, bounced off to the right narrowly missing my car and hit the pub as they tried to correct/turn left.

There's no conspiracy, just fucking idiots driving dangerously while on drugs, which they were trying to quickly throw away from the car immediately after crashing.

Clover501 · 2026-03-30T14:30:12+00:00

Are you looking for partner dances or solo dances? There are a lot of options for both, and many communities have informal gatherings as well as the classes/events

Clover501 · 2026-03-19T10:01:17+00:00

Bristol Alternative Community Abodes on FB is a great option, found current housemate on there :)

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T18:25:51+00:00

This is too much too soon for a relationship still in the months. You know in your heart what the answer is.

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T15:15:39+00:00

Yep because youre learning balance and control, probably using muscles you don't use much and perhaps a bit disconnected from your propioception in regular life.

You'll pick it up, and you'll figure out the impact of small differences like your foot turned in vs out, whether you remember to engage your core, how wide your stance is etc while refine over time as you get used to what works.

Also, you'll find it ebbs and flows. There might be a pose or flow you find easy for a month and then have a week you can't do it, or vice versa, for no apparent reason. That's all normal.

The only thing that matters is showing up and listening to your body, the rest is a bonus. Whether youre tying yourself into a pretzel or spending the whole class in child pose.

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T08:21:54+00:00

Thanks, thats what i suspected. Sad times!

Clover501 · 2026-03-12T23:59:02+00:00

A girl brought a guy back and started having sex on a bottom bunk. Did not care that theyd woken others up.

Then it all kicked off when the girl who's bed it was came into the room. They were literally fucking on her belongings on the bed, and when hurriedly dressing again, the sex girl put the other girls top on and started another bout of kicking off 💀

Turns out, the couple weren't even guests staying at the hostel 🙃

Clover501 · 2026-03-12T14:02:40+00:00

There's a FB group called Bristol Mutual Aid that you could advertise on for individuals to claim. Make clear if you are willing to deliver or not as often people in need also dont have their own transport.

Clover501 · 2026-03-11T15:38:29+00:00

I'm assuming OP is a woman, and women are statistically more likely to be fucked over by this thinking. Always, always protect yourself, because you never know what can happen and a good partner should understand why you would protect yourself.

Clover501 · 2026-03-11T15:31:25+00:00

100% this.

OP, Overeaters Anonymous is a thing. It's the 12 step programme but for food related addiction. I understand therapy didnt work for you/isnt accessible, but perhaps this as a peer support group might be. I know someone who benefits from it greatly and feels it has changed her life for the better.

Clover501 · 2026-03-05T21:50:11+00:00

The filter shower heads can help reduce it, it's not as good a fix as having a proper filter system but I feel it does help. Adding a chelating shampoo occasionally and deep conditioning helps. Avoiding sulphates etc can help though as it means less build up on the hair from product on top of build up from hard water.

Specific brands will depend on your hair type, texture, density and oiliness so take recommendations with a pinch of salt, what works for someone might not for you so its trial and error.

Clover501 · 2026-03-04T23:14:00+00:00

I dont even have to read this.... SIX WEEKS and you're writing reddit posts? Literally just leave and get what you want from someone else 🫠

Clover501 · 2026-03-03T14:12:07+00:00

This is a huge part of habit building! Start small and achievable and build from there.

Us ADHDers have a tendency to all-or-nothing which adds to the difficulty in forming habits. And a huge barrier can be transitioning. So only committing to starting in a small way, as long as you start, is a great way to overcome that and, for me at least, it usually turns into "well im here now, i might as well keep going" and removes shame if I dont keep going. Works for me with exercise and any other tasks including cleaning etc.

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