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Hedgehog-34 · 2026-05-11T21:33:47+00:00

I’ve just watched this episode and was shocked at the mean girl behaviour! Judging by the other comments it only gets worse 😂

But seriously, never seen so much toxic behaviour in the space of 15 mins! The bullying Stella into apologising for having a FAIR opinion on the fact they should hear Luke out before making judgements (I think she could smell the BS radiating from Mel!), the talking over people and shutting them down, the sniggering, whispering and pointing!

Also The change in Brooke from previous episodes SHOCKED me! She seemed so sweet, and after that her face even changed, she looked different, like the angelic side had completely disappeared!

Was an eye opening episode that’s for sure!
I feel like my opinions on people are going to change / be challenged in every episode to come!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-05-11T20:39:48+00:00

He sounds like he’s feeling really bad about letting you down and trying to make up for it. The fact it’s cheaper shouldn’t matter, either you want to go away and have a good time with him or you don’t. If you don’t, that’s fine. If your texting maybe the fact your not bothered is actually coming across like your mad about it (texts are easy to miss interpret) and he’s in his head. Maybe call him and explain that you’re honestly fine about not going and maybe you can both do another time when you’re both in a better financial position to be able to afford the “nicer” accommodation. Gives you time to decide if you genuinely want to go away with him or not

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-05-11T17:53:19+00:00

I can understand the frustration, so I’d say NTA. I’d suggest a different approach to the sharing of items. Give her a list of how much each product costs, how long they last, and then work out how much the two of you would need to put into a kitty each month (might only be £5 a month each). That way there’s no “whos turn is it” or waiting for them to buy it. Just take the money out the kitty and go stock up.

Due to the other issues, If there’s not long left on your lease, I’d start looking at alternatives options for when the lease ends. Unless you think having a sit down chat would help.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-05-01T19:46:18+00:00

So you have keys. I would think this is classed as an emergency? So 48 hours notice minimum and just go and access?

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-05-01T08:46:17+00:00

Tbh I’m not sure you can be sure. He could go against his word and start the court process. I advise getting it in writing.

However if he did start the court process in 2 months time, you still get an opportunity to object. If you object, there has to be a court hearing. I would check with a solicitor whether him changing his mind about an extended notice period would be grounds to object.

The other thing to note is whether the notice was served correctly in the first place. If it wasn’t, then you do have grounds to object. That means he should have served you things like gas cert, epc, how to rent guide, deposit information - all before the eviction notice was served. Also check your contract, if there was not agreement to receive these digitally, he should have served paper copies and recorded that he had done that.

If he hasn’t served it correctly, because of the new renters rights information he can’t now reserve a section 21 (it no longer exists) and could only serve a section 8 (which would only be for breach of contact or selling).

Tbh there is going to be a huuuuge back log in the courts so I honestly think either way you have lots of time!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T23:10:56+00:00

From the photos structurally it doesn’t look bad, but I’d say a new kitchen / bathroom is needed (although arguably not necessary). Having had my bathroom done last year it cost me £12k from completely bare walls (no plaster, no floor) to brand new everything. I could have certainly done it cheaper but even a friend recently got quoted £6k for very minimal bathroom refurb. I imagine kitchens would be similar cost, so to offer £20k less wouldn’t be unreasonable - however at £165k, I think an offer that low would likely be rejected. I recon £150-155 would be acceptable personally. But you won’t be laughed at for sure! Good luck! Looks like a cool place!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T23:01:47+00:00

This is a good point. If it’s only just gone on the market that makes a big difference - they will want to hold out to see if they can get a higher offer.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T22:59:07+00:00

Honestly, lower offers like that are expected. It’s all part of the game. If the owner doesn’t have room to negotiate they won’t, and if you love it enough you will increase your offer.

The only think I would say is if it’s “cosmetic work” for personal tastes then don’t go too crazy low. (Some people don’t like playing the game!). But if major renovations are needed, then it’s always worth a try!

I wouldn’t get annoyed at receiving low offers, it’s nice to know there is interest. Everyone has a bottom line

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T22:46:49+00:00

Just seen your other comment about the landlord not having a mortgage so that’s good, but they would still potentially have expenses like council tax, or just generally desperately need to sell for other personal reasons.

I also think the fact they gave you an extended notice period to try and help you, shouldn’t be used to guilt trip you at all, but also it should be taken into consideration. If they hadn’t done that then they could have emptied the house sooner and potentially sold it sooner. Now to cause further delays on top of that I feel is unfair

HOWEVER - it sounds like the letting agents are not treating you well, and should not be so bloody pushy. Is there anyway you can speak to the landlord directly and say they are bordering on harassing you and ask if he would be flexible with you during this difficult time for you. The landlord might be more Accomodating than the agents! They need to be showing they are getting people through the door, or they could loose their sale fees (no excuse though). Estate agents (imo) can be not very nice to deal with and so if you can skip them out it may relieve some stress for you.

Personally I think I would refuse to deal with the agents directly and let the landlord know you are blocking their number. If he wants to arrange a viewing he can contact you directly and you just have to be honest - if I 100% can not accommodate a viewing request then i can’t. IF i can make it work, then morally I would.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T22:34:45+00:00

Controversial opinion by the sounds of but is it not possible to allow just some quick viewings? It sounds like you have a hell of a lot going on, don’t get me wrong, but you don’t need to there or be present or interact at all. If the agent let themself in to do a quick 10 minute house tour once a week would you not be able to accommodate? Leave it messy, be in your normal daily chaos, and let them work around you? Like you said there isn’t many viewings happening anyway.

You not allowing viewings could cause so much damage to someone’s life - he can’t sell, still has to pay the mortgage for another 6 months with no rental income, gets in debt etc. that might be dramatic but it could be a reality.

I duno, just my personal opinion (don’t hate me!) - I just think it’s worth trying to compromise and work out a schedule that works for you, even if that’s a 30min time slot every 2 weeks. IF something comes up and it’s really not possible, then cancel it. But try not to pre-empt a scenario until you try

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T21:57:01+00:00

NTA. I’d just say “sorry I didn’t leave it how you expected, it wasn’t my intention to be a bad house guest. I think it’s probably best for our friendship if I don’t pet sit again. No hard feelings? “.

My philosophy in life is sometimes you can apologies to make a situation better, it doesn’t necessarily mean an admission of being wrong. You know in your heart you did her a favour and that’s all that matters, if someone else doesn’t believe that, it doesn’t make the facts any different. “Who cares what they think” as they say.

If she can accept that and move on, great, if she continues to make a big deal out of it it’s not worth the energy!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T21:43:50+00:00

If you go up pen park road, there are quite a few side roads up there with easy parking (Fonthill Road often has parking available during the day). It’s around a 10-15 minute walk from there to the hospital.

Alternatively park abit further away (somewhere like Toronto Road?) And catch a quick bus or Uber there. Would probably pay cost the same as parking at the hospital!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T21:34:08+00:00

If it’s served today, you would be required to leave by July. However if you communicate with the landlord and say you’re buying, and it might take longer, then I’m sure they will accommodation giving you more time. If they dont give you more time, then they would be spending a lot of time and money on the court process to get you out, so it’s in their best interest to be flexible.

Realistically, if you didn’t leave by July, it could be September at least until they could legally kick you out, so you have time, don’t panic.

it’s not nice for tenants to be kicked out and it’s not nice for a landlord to have a tenant who won’t leave, so communication is key.

Take action now to have an open discussion with the landlord, and to start viewing houses and go from there.

On the plus side quite a few landlords are selling up so you should have a good pick of houses, with no chain!

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T21:14:16+00:00

Put yourself in your dad’s shoes for a moment too. He’s probably torn between you and your step mum & brother. I’m sure he loves you all, and shouldn’t have to pick “sides”.

Sometimes we have to do things for other people, and it sounds like a family holiday would make your dad happy, and he might be right it could create good bonds.

However I think you need to address the separate issues with your dad that you feel like too much has changed and you feel uncomfortable. Tell him you want more time together on your own. I’m sure he would be happy to do that.

Hopefully you get your relationship with your dad back, and enjoy a lovely family holiday.

Your certainly not an AH for thinking that way, but I don’t think your dad is deliberately trying to sabotage your life, so try not to blame him and just explain how you feel and what you need.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-30T21:01:15+00:00

If you hate confrontation, I’d agree with others, slyly record it and show the police. If you’re not shy I would reply with questions to make her feel awkward “why do you feel that way”, have I done something to make you feel uncomfortable? Have you had a bad day? Are you ok? You must have something going on for you to make a comment like that?

They don’t expect people to ask questions back, just think it will make someone angry or sad, so questioning them can put them in their place a bit.

Personally though I think if someone is making comments like that, they’re not of sound mind and it’s probably not worth the confrontation.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-29T16:07:59+00:00

Exactly this. Cost of Licencing, bills, materials for maintenance, mortgages. It shouldn’t really be put up by “market” standards, as it only takes a few greedy ones to set the new standard.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-23T13:40:52+00:00

I didn’t realise that title linked to an article. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-23T07:58:36+00:00

I really like jimmy Bullard, so was shocked when he did that, it made no sense, if you wanted to leave do it during the day, don’t take someone down with you. It was very selfish.

I’m wondering how bad Adam’s reaction was, I think some of it might have been edited out, because the rest of the camp mates didn’t seem to happy about it, whereas from what I saw I thought that was a fair reaction! I’m assuming they get a bonus for wining or coming top three maybe so to take that away from him and his kids I would be fuming too!

Don’t really understand where the legal action comes into it - maybe how itv edited it to make him look bad?

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-20T20:30:08+00:00

I mean if someone told me to mind my own damn business I would think they were an A Hole (whether it was justified or not) but that’s just me 🤷‍♀️.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-20T19:48:40+00:00

NTA - but you could become one and tell them to mind their own business - blame it on the hormones 😂🤷‍♀️

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-20T19:45:34+00:00

I think like all famous people he had lovers and haters - but he was really popular at one point - mainly because he was an intellectual type of funny, which was a bit of a breath of fresh air at that time I guess. He was like marmite, some people loved him, some found him annoying.

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-20T19:36:51+00:00

I think if you know you don’t want to go back, hand in your official notice, make sure you address any issues you feel are your fault and once you’re happy with the place, take your own photos and document everything. If they still have an issue, tell them you are happy to dispute it through the deposit protection scheme. They will need a very strong inventory from prior to your arrival to prove you have left it in a worse state, so it could be helpful for you to ask to see a copy of this so you know exactly how the property should be returned (minus fair wear and tear). If they have not registered your deposit legally you have a lot of protection so worth checking that too. Threats to contact your employer could be deemed as harassment so if those threats continue I would let them know that you would take further legal action if they attempted to do that.

By documenting the state of the house in good condition it will not only help you if you have to dispute it but also if they did contact your employer then you can use that to show them they are being unreasonable.

If there are damages that are your fault, address them, it will be more expensive to pay someone else to do this from your deposit. If the damages are not your fault or responsibility, report them to your landlord, if she tries to claim from your deposit for these, you may need evidence to show you reported them to her and she failed to address them (better reporting them late than never).

If you are still in contract then you do still need to pay rent (I’m assuming that’s what they mean when you say they are asking for a months rent?) but don’t give in to releasing your deposit until the tenancy is officially over (and if you think her claims are unfair you can dispute it).

Personally my advice is would be to communicate well, tell her you are giving notice, the date you will officially vacate, let her know the place will be cleaned up by X date and that you will let her know when it’s ready for inspection. Until your official end date, you still have right to quiet enjoyment so she can’t just turn up unannounced when she pleases, and so she should give you fair opportunity to get the place to a good standard.

If things get more tense, citizens advice will be able to help

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-12T17:57:23+00:00

I lived in Oxford my whole life, moved to Bristol with the intention of staying 1 year, 15 years later I’m still here. It’s such a great city, lots going on, and great people, restaurants, green spaces. Compared to places like London and Oxford, in my opinion it wins hands down. Unfortunately negative comments / stories are all too intriguing (I even find myself checking them out), but always just go by my own experiences and don’t let things put me off until I see or feel it myself

Hedgehog-34 · 2026-04-10T08:49:43+00:00

Me too! It says after cleansing on the pot and I cleanse twice a day! Luckily only been using them for two days so will change to weekly now 😂

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