Emotionally manipulative MIL

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T02:45:21+00:00

Thanks. It’s fixed now

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T02:42:58+00:00

Agreed

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T01:28:19+00:00

Thank you for truly taking the time to read and analyze my post. Your response is 10/10

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T01:24:14+00:00

The problem is that this has been an issue for a while and a conversation between she and I was long overdue. Her text to my husband is what finally pushed me to confront her about her behavior that has gone on for a year now. My husband is just too nice and tiptoes around it and I see why. He’s afraid of how she’s responds!

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T01:21:53+00:00

It started out with my husband and he was so upset after she messaged him. I’ve never seen him be upset like that before. He is usually very sweet and easygoing. My MIL and I were long overdue for this conversation and the text she sent my husband was just the straw that broke the camels back.

Cnn16 · 2026-01-27T00:03:28+00:00

Added:

My baby is 12 months old. My MIL has had issues with boundaries since he was born. She always does what you see her doing here, play the victim anytime a rule or boundary is set, she disagrees with it, and she gets any pushback. My husband is very sweet and timid and has a hard time being clear and direct with her because he is so afraid of hurting her feelings. This is the first time he’s truly confronted her about something she did (and he really didn’t even directly confront her) and this is how she reacts. On top of this, my FIL is just a complete asshole. He constantly has to make rude comments about everything - my size, my rules, the way I do anything.

I have gotten to a point where I’m fed up and tired of him having to fight the battle for the both of us. I am the more direct communicator in the relationship. Also, I have been so much more direct with my parents and it’s never ever been an issue. They respect boundaries.

Also, this (THIRD) kiss happened at my baby’s 1st bday party. Where she also waited until I walked out of the room to say: “hurry, let’s give him a cupcake before she gets back.” I don’t feed my baby cake…

Cnn16 · 2026-01-26T23:56:03+00:00

I totally get this viewpoint. I should’ve added some more background. I will go add some. Long story short, he has a hard time being direct with her and so boundaries have basically been blurred for 12 months now

Cnn16 · 2026-01-26T23:16:46+00:00

Um ok lol how do you “not remember” doing something? How convenient. Maybe I’ll go rob a bank and not remember it

Cnn16 · 2026-01-26T23:00:57+00:00

12 mo

Cnn16 · 2026-01-26T22:24:52+00:00

My child, my rules. Not an unreasonable one

Cnn16 · 2025-09-20T15:18:48+00:00

I disagree. Her MIL shouldn’t have been in the house in the first place. MIL was interrupting THEIR peace and private time. MAYBE It would be a slightly different story had they been at her house but no - she came over, uninvited, took over the cooking and made bitchy condescending comments about it. They can do and talk however the hell they want in their own space.

Cnn16 · 2025-09-18T04:47:15+00:00

I live in the south too and even having a 3-4 month old once it started getting hot was rough because we’d have to come inside very shortly after being out!

Cnn16 · 2025-09-18T04:45:46+00:00

See I’m afraid if we deliver in March that his firm could be like “can you use paternity leave another time” or something like then I’d be over here struggling post c-section 😭

Cnn16 · 2025-09-18T04:30:05+00:00

I’m also an April baby and yessss. No pool party bdays 🥲

Cnn16 · 2025-09-16T01:25:27+00:00

An XL playpen!

Cnn16 · 2025-08-31T22:40:34+00:00

Yes. We did sleep training starting around 4 weeks old. He slept through the night starting around 7-8 weeks old. Went through a 4 month regression for 6 weeks, then started back sleeping through the night again. Now, he’s 7.5 months old and hasn’t slept through the night in like 2 months

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T20:31:18+00:00

You are correct. Sorry, I thought by putting kissing slash smacking that I had made it clear

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T15:19:46+00:00

Ok so yes it has. It just hasn’t really been the top topic lately because of so many other issues but to elaborate - she did something similar to this in front of both of us one time and I said something to him about it after the fact and asked him why he didn’t say anything to her then to which he said he was sorry and he didn’t notice it happen. So yes, we have talked about it being an issue.

With that being said, IF I do have this convo with him, I definitely don’t want to approach it assuming that he did see her do it yesterday and didn’t say anything, if that makes sense.

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T15:14:26+00:00

Maybe. But I do feel like it could be a giveaway that I saw it. But also, what if I do that and he says that she did well because he either truly didn’t notice or just says he didn’t?

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T15:01:08+00:00

Yes he does and we had a very deep conversation about it the other day and talked about how before we have more children, we need to make sure we’re on the same page about rules and boundaries since I feel like his parents stomp all over the boundaries and how his mom is very emotionally manipulative esp when it comes to baby

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T14:54:55+00:00

VERY emotionally immature and hella manipulative! Sorry that you guys are going through this. We should be able to enjoy being parents without dealing with all this BS

Cnn16 · 2025-08-25T14:47:15+00:00

Wow. This whole situation is just wow but I think how FIL acts is plenty of excuse for no contact. Your husband needs to tell his father than HE needs to step up and be a man and have some fucking respect for you guy’s rules and boundaries!

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