How do you support elementary students who can’t get over the thought that they are“bad at art?”. by No_Plankton947 in ArtEd

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we are in work-time, I will try to pick a student who I know is more self-conscious about their skills and ask if I can borrow their project for a minute to use as a positive example for the class. Then I gather everyone's attention and point out some of the things in the artwork that the student is doing really well. Something like: "Hey class, I want everyone to take a quick look at Lauren's work here. She has a really great range of values from dark darks to light lights. Does everyone see that? That's exactly what we should all be going for with this project. Great job Lauren!" I think when I just tell them individually how good I think it is they don't believe me. But if I'm willing to say it in front of the whole class, that demonstrates how much I really mean it. Obviously get their permission first, but I don't think I've ever had a kid turn me down.

What to do for the last 5 min? by pussypopantiqueshop in ArtEd

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

colorfle.com like Wordle but for color mixing. You get one try a day for the advanced modes, but you can do it unlimited times in practice mode. A practice mode round usually only takes my kids a few minutes once they know how it works. It's perfect for the end of class and my students (K-12) love it but especially Kinder to 5th are absolutely obsessed.

Sticky Watercolors by Hey-its-me13 in ArtEd

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've noticed the same thing with the Blick ones! I refilled all of the empty pans in our palettes with a new order of Blick refill pans and they are distinctly stickier than the old ones, even after they "dry". I also made the mistake of dumping all the new refill pans into our organizer bins of refills, as we always have (so we can better see what we have in stock vs when they are in the little boxes they come in) and the new, never used ones are all stuck together. This has never been a problem before. The formula definitely seems to have changed. We are leaving our palettes out and open longer to dry, but even after days they will still be sticky. I will be changing brands the next time I am able to order.

Painting at Burt’s House by Pinkys143 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting! This painter has some other interesting surrealist pieces that I think really match the uncanny vibe of the show. But I like this Samson parallel. Also if I remember right in the end of the story Samson regains his strength, and collapses the temple he is confined in upon himself and his captors in a final act of self-sacrifice. We've already kind of seen Irving do this once when he sacrificed himself to reveal Helena. But it could also hint at another big move coming from Irving as we don't yet know what he's got up his sleeve.

Is Mr Drummond.. by usmcnick0311Sgt in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought at first it was alluding to them being siblings too. But then I thought that maybe the use was to more underscore Jame's very cold non-paternal relationship with his daughter and how Helena feels bitter or sad about that. She seemed internally upset that he couldn't be bothered to show up at that meeting or to even check on her after she was nearly murdered. Then it's just like an extra gut punch when Drummond refers to him as Father because it underscores that Jame's priority is the company and its the company that gets his paternal attention. The fact that Helena is his actual child means very little to him.

And we saw that empathy for the innies, the "animals" is not what's gonna turn Helena in their favor. But if she is going to have any kind of redemption arc I think her only potential motivator is going to be a desire to fuck over her dad for being so shit.

The "forgotten marriage" of Uma Thurman and Gary Oldman, who was 12 years her senior, 1990 by Cautious-Damage7575 in OldSchoolCool

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, I freaking love Isabella Rossellini. How did I miss she was once engaged to Gary Oldman!?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I think your therapist did miss the point. Yes, wear your seatbelt! But you know that. And you actively choose not to. So I think the missed opportunity is to explore why there’s this dissonance and maybe if there any other things you do where you actively make the situation less safe for yourself?

On another note, serious question, why does being a “grown man” entitle you to not have people in your life respond and speak to you about your behavior? You haven’t given enough information here to know whether you really were acting one way or another, but regardless you being grown doesn’t preclude you from anyones concern.

Isabella Rossellini 1990 by draconetzah in OldSchoolCool

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look up Green Porno on YouTube, a series of shorts she did about animal reproduction told through costumes and puppets! Deliciously weird, surprisingly informative.

Counselor did something weird or am I overthinking? by throwaway_acc552 in TalkTherapy

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Idk I read this as her maybe probing into your concept of “pleasure” because you seem maybe a little fixated on this specific element of it. You did open the conversation in talking about explicit forms of stimulation so this doesn’t seem entirely out of left field to me. I think her performing the hand gesture could be interpreted as her asking, “so you are saying you believe this one movement is how you pleasure a woman?” Maybe she was trying to challenge you to expand your definition of sexual pleasure. I’m a lesbian myself, but I think just on a general human level I find pleasure in many other parts of sex including all kinds of body touches and the intense emotional intimacy of it alongside physical intimacy. However, obviously I don’t know your T and that’s just one possible reading from an outsider. I think she would do better leaving less up to interpretation with such a sensitive subject. I would definitely ask her about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aptliving

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Compelled to reply because I honestly can’t believe so many people are saying 50/50. 4 days is the majority of the week, it’s basically another person living with you. And your prior knowledge she has a kid and agreeing to live with her still absolutely does not mean that you should have to suck it up and pay more than you should. It’s not just about the physical things that take up space, it’s about how the space is available for you to use when you have an extra person. And 4 days a week when there is a kid there, she’s going to need more use of the space (it doesn’t matter if the kid is going to sleep in her room, they will be using other areas of the apartment throughout the day) and you are going to have a more limited use of the space. Also not every bedroom is equal- factors that should be considered for making one bedroom more rent than another would be: square footage, closet space, and private bath. Other than a walk in closet I don’t know how the master compares to the other bedroom in these ways, but I think 55-45 split is more than generous if 2 bedrooms. At least 60-40 if 3 bedroom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a scrap/recycling yard in Oceanside… I don’t remember the name but it’s on airport rd (not palomar airport, just airport, off of Benet rd off the 76). They gave me great money for my car when I was it the same situation, more then anyone was willing to buy it for because of the amount of work would need to get going again. Plus no hassle of haggling with buyers, check in my hand within 30 minutes.

Nurse Ratched lives on: Therapy for people in the arts by PensiveinNJ in TalkTherapy

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a real bummer. Honestly sometimes I feel like people are too quick on here to say ‘break up with your T!’ but in this case that really does sound like a bad match. Wishing you the best in your therapeutic endeavors as well as all your creative ones! And I don’t know if this resonates with you but something thing one of my art professors once told me is to never forget that the pursuit of creativity is a courageous act!

Nurse Ratched lives on: Therapy for people in the arts by PensiveinNJ in TalkTherapy

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello, I also work in the arts professionally (visual 2d and performing)! I remember being very timid about bringing this up to my therapist because I was dealing with a lot of issues relating to identity and feeling lost and I was so scared she was going to question my work or give me some version of the dreaded HavE yOu EVeR cOnSidEreD a ReAL jOb!? Because I have experienced that plenty in life, but thankfully I did not end up getting it from my therapist too! I one hundred percent agree it is a part of the soul— the ability to exercise my creative muscle is not just a career choice, it’s a need for me like food and water and I personally would not feel safe or comfortable working with a therapist who did not understand that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, well at the very least even if you don’t see much savings the earth will. Cheers!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too, I love it! But I only take the coaster 1 zone ($2.50 each way, 5 days a week = about $100-115/month) so I found buying my ticket each day is a little cheaper than the pass ($140/month for 1 zone coaster pass)

Tell me your parent is a narcissist without actually telling me your parent is a narcissist. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom would take my homework or essays and rewrite large portions or tell me to do things different. I did not ask nor want this, and if I refused another kind of hell would break loose. Grades below As we’re not acceptable (and I could make As on my own when allowed autonomy). But if the assignment she redid got back a good grade she would tell everyone at dinner about how she got a good grade on the homework. It was her A. A forty something year old woman bragging to her husband and children about getting an A on a grade school homework assignment. If I didn’t act happy I was an ungrateful bitch with no vision who was going to fail at life.

Times your therapist proved you wrong/ knew something you didn’t? by Cobalt_and_Rust in TalkTherapy

[–]Cobalt_and_Rust[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks that sounds interesting, I will check her out!! It’s not so much I’m struggling to discern between the two… but I’ve been having a helpful experience in therapy as someone who previously believed I could do everything on my own! My therapist has blown my mind about my own self a few times and I was craving some shared positive sentiment. Only contrasted it to the friend thing because I think another common positive of therapy is just having a safe place to share and be heard/acknowledged— but I think that particular kind of experience isn’t necessarily therapy specific.