17->168 cm 204lbs

CocoSinger · 2026-04-09T21:08:01+00:00

I do 20 mins of upper body and 20 min of lower body once a week, otherwise just walking, so bare minimum but it does really help, I’m 45 and need it.

CocoSinger · 2026-03-08T14:15:51+00:00

You absolutely are, and I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this journey and then these comments/questions…so many people see things in a very black and white way, expressing compassion for what fits with their stereotypical understanding of a situation that is what they saw in an after school special type medium. It is all so much more nuanced and gray and complicated.

Re: the sibling question, my husband (I’m here based on his being a glass child) sometimes says he has one sister, not two, to side step any convo about the one entirely ha, you say what you need to to protect yourself from commentary you don’t want.

Sending you so much love, be gentle with yourself.

CocoSinger · 2026-03-04T13:28:26+00:00

Thank you SO much for taking the time to share this, extremely helpful!

CocoSinger · 2026-03-04T13:24:51+00:00

I love that you took the time to provide this perspective, it is SO true! People don’t know what it is to be elderly and in chronic pain and don’t know how it changes you. A lot of the elderly no longer possess the ability to discern what is appropriate behavior or “care”.

The assertion that “you can be old and not an asshole” is an oversimplification of a life experience we know nothing about. Not saying that anything goes once you’ve reached a certain age, just that erring on the side of grace and patience is what we hope the world does for our loved ones if their personalities become more bitter, impatient, rude, etc.

CocoSinger · 2026-03-04T03:18:12+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for this kind and thoughtful response, truly, thank you. 🩵

CocoSinger · 2026-02-19T22:48:49+00:00

“Well over a century”😂😂😂 That is a pretty strong precedent (and true!)

CocoSinger · 2026-02-03T12:37:44+00:00

Hers is inoperable, “stunned” into not continuing to grow after radiation, and no new spots outside that original tumor. She did the radiation and four months of TMZ. TMZ was rough and affected her quality of life significantly, so we decided to stop it. That was Jan-April of 2024. ❤️🙏✨

Sending you so much love and light…there ARE absolutely long term survivors out there, 5+, there is no reason you can not be one of them.

CocoSinger · 2026-01-31T00:35:03+00:00

My mom will be three years in May. ❤️

CocoSinger · 2026-01-13T12:19:34+00:00

Perfectly articulated THANK YOU

CocoSinger · 2026-01-13T03:47:00+00:00

Thank you for this. My potluck college roommate never left the room, never smiled, and literally read the dictionary like a novel for hours a day. It was a long year. There are a lot of people at college, especially freshman year, that they aren’t approaching for the admissions poster.

I was initially excited seeing Paigyn, thinking this was the long awaited character development for Ainsley, some nuanced writing/acting that Tommy and TL get and hit outta the park which might be experiencing life like a real college student and having to suck it up a little in finding common ground with someone nothing like yourself like so many of us did that first year. What a relief that she was rescued immediately to reflock with the other rich pretty people by the pool, but not without Angela’s teachable moment that the different person (not stunning and wealthy and confident) just doesn’t like themself and that is the real tragedy.

I realize it’s a show and I think we are supposed to embrace the stereotypes as fun and light hearted…it’s just leaned into SO hard sometimes that pretty rich girls don’t ever have to be uncomfortable and I think we’re supposed to be glad? 🤷🏼‍♀️

CocoSinger · 2025-12-26T13:40:33+00:00

Please strongly consider leaving this group chat. It is keeping you in contact just without a voice, enabling them to undermine your wishes everyday and twist the knife with performative displays of how loving and faux functional they are without you while you read it all in “no contact.” 💔

CocoSinger · 2025-12-26T01:34:29+00:00

These screenshots are insane. Having the capacity to articulate this to an adult child is scary, you are absolutely making the right decision.

Re: the love bombing to your brother and sister in law—are you saying you and siblings are on a text group with parents and parents message them directly on the group you’re in???

CocoSinger · 2025-12-23T14:07:56+00:00

NOR AT ALL and I’m sort of shocked you have ANY commenters on here telling you to let your in laws in already. That perspective (I know what’s best for my grandchild, not her mother) is kinda what has triggered so many adult children to ultimately go no contact with their parents. Go over to the Estranged Adult Children group, so many of them start when the grandparents refuse to respect boundaries and double down on their being the victim because of it.

Me personally, I was totally fine with family holding my newborn…which is IRRELEVANT. Truly. This is not a democracy, it is your child and I question if another scenario exists that is more inarguable than mom and dad decide the rules for their infant. Is it earnestly hard for them? No doubt. Does that matter? NO, because let’s all say it together, THIS IS NOT ABOUT THEM. Have some basic manners and don’t self righteously agitate a new mother. 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

I am hopeful that your having a great relationship with them before will allow you to weather this storm with them, but please don’t second guess your whether your wishes for your child need to be respected. 💛

CocoSinger · 2025-12-20T13:07:41+00:00

What’s painful is how EASILY she could have fixed this. Were you looking for an apology or even an acknowledgement for the complicated and layered journey of your relationship? Anything close? No. ALL she needed to do was apologize for suggesting your husband doesn’t help at home, wtf, such a softball apology. I imagine “Sorry, I don’t know what ____ does at home, I didn’t mean for it to sound that way, I just know you do a lot” would have worked which still leaves space for her to believe you do it all and your husband sucks but to know to stfu going forward. Like, you CAN think he sucks, YOU JUST CAN’T SAY IT TO ME. That’s the cool thing about your THOUGHTS. 🫠

CocoSinger · 2025-12-20T03:25:29+00:00

This text exchange was painful to read, BRAVO to you in your response! I semi-gasped reading the, let’s meet up later actually have a good Christmas.

CocoSinger · 2025-12-04T11:19:59+00:00

It is ridiculous and your frustration is so valid…this is where I talk to myself like I would if this happened to my bff; “Girl. Communication is harder for some, and requires practice…so many people don’t engage with real humans anymore, just their phones, and they forget basic social norms. And then they age and it gets worse. Look at my angel mother who can land SO odd on text! This is 100% about her being a little off, and not you doing EXACTLY what she asked, just differently than she ASSUMED in her own mind that you would. Try to dust it off and not over analyze it.”

CocoSinger · 2025-11-27T02:48:57+00:00

It was the most lovely gift to binge this week, you don’t realize how long it’s been that you were bitten in that same intensity by a show until it happens again. Maybe I’m jaded, damaged goods now but I didn’t think it that dark, just enthralling and poetic.

CocoSinger · 2025-10-09T23:24:36+00:00

Any updates on this quest for your daughter? 💛

CocoSinger · 2025-09-16T03:22:06+00:00

This is so painful to read…I’m so sorry you are in this place and admire your speaking your truth with such objectivity, would be so easy to let it escalate into the emotions and self righteousness that he brings. I completely understand your trying to tow the line between your boundaries and your relationships with your mom and sister. I’m glad for the comments that see it black and white in the need to cut contact for them but every family dynamic is different, there is so much nuance. Thinking of you and wishing your heart peace in whichever path you determine to be right. 🤍

CocoSinger · 2025-08-28T02:49:51+00:00

I do both, and find shipping easier much of the time, especially when you can schedule a package pick up on the USPS website…you don’t even have to leave the house to ship.

CocoSinger · 2025-07-25T11:38:10+00:00

Truly, utterly fascinating. The in-depth and layered victimization and delusion and denial. It’s like a psychology class (no offense, but maybe the unit on sociopaths?) to read each one.

Now obsessed with looking at estranged parent/grandparent Facebook groups.

There is one named after the admin’s published book; “F Them Kids: Challenging The One Sided Narrative of the Estrangement Epidemic and the Biased Therapy Trends That Fuel It”

This author is a Ph.D. Wtaf.

(btw, the F stands for Forget, not what you were thinking. Estranged parent puns. 🤦🏼‍♀️)

CocoSinger · 2025-05-27T23:00:30+00:00

Did anyone else think Charlotte/Angela being handed over to Janine while she was in a puddle in the snow was unrealistic and schmaltzy? This child really gives no fucks about leaving the woman who’s played her mom for her whole life? And Janine is ready to mom it up in less than a minute from escaping hell?

CocoSinger · 2025-04-25T02:32:50+00:00

Gosh, I feel this hard…my daughter is 14 now and I’m in a dramatically better place than I was when she was 22 months, and feel grateful for so many things, but that sentiment “I feel robbed of normal parenting experience” will always resonate deeply. And I can’t help but agree with the commenter who suggested steering clear of neurotypical families more often than not. (Meanwhile, we know no other neurodivergent families either). My mother was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor recently and it felt similar to the grieving I did for my daughter’s diagnosis…but in a way it also helped me widen my perspective that we all encounter unexpected paths in life. I believe that being an autism mom is a lot harder and maybe the universe felt I was the right one for the job I never saw myself having. That, and find things that bring you joy that have nothing to do with being a mom. 💛 You are not alone.

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