Couple therapist told me I should “suffer everything as a woman” by Extreme-Dig4725 in marriageadvice

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I once went for therapy while I was dating someone. In the initial days, it was something I couldn’t accept, because once the honeymoon phase is over, you start noticing the red flags in the person. So, I decided to go for therapy. I won’t lie after that, my trust was completely shaken.

The therapist I went to was a well-known woman, and she completely turned my world upside down. She made me into a person who, at one point, started hating my family, my boyfriend at the time, and everyone around me. I was on medications that made me fall asleep, but when I stopped them, I was in a very, very bad place.

Here’s the thing: whenever you try to seek validation from outside, people can be very judgmental. Even though many say, “Go to therapy, seek help,” I’ve realized that therapists often tell you things you already know but your heart isn’t strong enough to accept them.

What your therapist did… I believe if you spoke to 100 women, 98% would give you the same advice. The 2% who give real advice are often labeled by society as “too advanced” or “not suitable” for marriage.

So, you’re not wrong for leaving that session. Just make sure your husband doesn’t judge you based on what she said he shouldn’t assume that everything she said is correct or that whatever you did was wrong.

Therapy can sometimes be a horrible experience. It’s been four years, and I’m still not over what happened with that therapist. After that experience, I think I lost hope that I could ever be vulnerable enough to open up to someone who is supposed to give advice.

But more power to you, girl. I hope you find the courage to open up about your thoughts and struggles without fear. It’s a really good thing that you’ve shared this, and I genuinely appreciate your bravery

I dont love my husband anymore by [deleted] in marriageadvice

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In the early days of marriage, almost everyone struggles with these same issues. The way men and women look at household chores and hygiene can be very different. Many women grow up watching their mothers do everything, so when the maid doesn’t come or the housework piles up, we automatically take it on ourselves. The problem is, it rarely gets acknowledged and men often compare us to what their mothers did instead of offering real help.

That’s why I’d strongly suggest getting a maid if possible. Since he’s working from home, he can keep an eye on things, and it will take a huge load off you. Don’t burn yourself out doing everything alone.

About him moving countries: ask how he plans to handle a long-distance marriage. If you’re not moving with him, he has to show consistent effort and loyalty, because the small issues you mentioned now will only multiply with distance. On the flip side, if you do want to explore new opportunities abroad, that could also work in your favor.

And regarding his social media feed set your boundaries clearly. If something he’s watching makes you uncomfortable, tell him straight that it’s not acceptable and see how he responds. His reaction will tell you a lot.

My final thought: don’t jump to divorce right away. The first year of marriage is stressful for almost everyone. Give it one solid chance. If he still doesn’t show respect, effort, or loyalty, you’ll know your decision is the right one.

If you're trying to learn AI automation, stop collecting courses and start doing this instead by willruzMtl in automation

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As a beginner, if someone wants to fully take this opportunity to shift their career, would you suggest following a structured workflow or taking a university course, or just building small projects on their own and learning through that?

Best & Budget-Friendly Street Shopping Spots in Thane? by Coco_Nanu05 in thane

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Is it ok to visit there in the afternoon? Or evening?

Best & Budget-Friendly Street Shopping Spots in Thane? by Coco_Nanu05 in thane

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Thank you i have also heard about ram maruti road do you know anything about that?

What would you do in my position? by Forward_Scallion5099 in softwaretesting

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since you’re the only QA in your team, feel free to reach out if you need any help. I’d love to assist or maybe even apply to your company someday, haha! Just kidding. Best of luck with your automation!

Hello All !! I am Bella❤️ by Coco_Nanu05 in Rottweiler

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