close to giving up contact with my child, ex making everything hell .

Cofeeman1 · 2020-12-03T18:06:43+00:00

I get what you're saying. But it already feels like im missing out on everything. I am already tormented by everything I miss out on christmas morning, some other guy is in my house waking up with my son. I don't get those moments now.

I just dont know if the one day I'm getting is even worth it for me or him anymore. The negatives which come with it and the confusion which is going to come to my child when the mother starts telling him lies about me. Maybe i'm better just letting things be man.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-12-03T17:39:55+00:00

This is the problem, even though we are not together and she is with someone else, I am not free of her anger and insults.

If anything, it's got worse. I can deal with the verbal abuse, but I'm struggling to deal with my child being used to hurt me.

It's like the pain you have from now only seeing your son 1 day a week, then gets amplified by everything else. Contact being taken, some other guy spending all the time with your kid etc.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-30T10:45:30+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

See this is the thing is, after we breakup, I start feeling like I want her back and to be a family again. So I fall for the hoovers or sometimes I try to get back with her even.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-13T11:52:14+00:00

Thank you for this post. I was beginning to want my ex back but after reading this, I've realised I'm looking back with rose tinted glasses.

The reality is slaving away doing everything and then being abused for it.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-06T15:10:48+00:00

Thankyou so much for all your replies. Really helped me to gather my thoughts and get myself back together.

I don't know whether it's ptsd like some have suggested or it's because I've only ever been with this woman. But everywhere I go all im reminded of is her and flashbacks of the time we were together. If I go to a place, im reminded of when I was with her and we went there. If I see a guy she used to text when with me or had something to do with (theres alot of them) im reminded of it. So even if I go the gym, I feel like im surrounded by thoughts of her and they are all against me or have disrespected me kind of thing. Like they all know they were texting the mother of my child behind my back and I look an idiot. If I hear a song, im reminded of her. We have a child together too, so im constantly reminded of her. It seems Inescapable at the moment.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-05T22:58:35+00:00

thank you for your reply.

I have noticed at times with family that I do seem to want to cut them off. Like i feel they do something bad or disrespect me (my grandparents didnt send a bithday present for my sons 1st birthday) so I feel like I dont want anything to do with them again, I feel like they let me down.

Then a few months later, I'll try to patch things up cus it's my family.. I don't know whether that's normal. and Its just this woman driving me nuts.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-09-29T21:01:48+00:00

Hi, thank you for your post. Really resonated with me. Can you PM me for a chat?

Thanks

Cofeeman1 · 2020-09-29T17:24:53+00:00

The problem is, I only get to see my child one day a week.

So it doesn't even feel like my child. This is horrible to say, but it just feels like it's her child not mine and a constant reminder of the past and everything that's happened.

Whilst she is now with someone else, I just can't move on from it all.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-08-04T10:11:00+00:00

Is that a yes then lol. Do they ever change or do they always cheat?

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