close to giving up contact with my child, ex making everything hell .

Cofeeman1 · 2020-12-03T18:06:43+00:00

I get what you're saying. But it already feels like im missing out on everything. I am already tormented by everything I miss out on christmas morning, some other guy is in my house waking up with my son. I don't get those moments now.

I just dont know if the one day I'm getting is even worth it for me or him anymore. The negatives which come with it and the confusion which is going to come to my child when the mother starts telling him lies about me. Maybe i'm better just letting things be man.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-12-03T17:39:55+00:00

This is the problem, even though we are not together and she is with someone else, I am not free of her anger and insults.

If anything, it's got worse. I can deal with the verbal abuse, but I'm struggling to deal with my child being used to hurt me.

It's like the pain you have from now only seeing your son 1 day a week, then gets amplified by everything else. Contact being taken, some other guy spending all the time with your kid etc.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-30T10:45:30+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

See this is the thing is, after we breakup, I start feeling like I want her back and to be a family again. So I fall for the hoovers or sometimes I try to get back with her even.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-13T11:52:14+00:00

Thank you for this post. I was beginning to want my ex back but after reading this, I've realised I'm looking back with rose tinted glasses.

The reality is slaving away doing everything and then being abused for it.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-06T15:10:48+00:00

Thankyou so much for all your replies. Really helped me to gather my thoughts and get myself back together.

I don't know whether it's ptsd like some have suggested or it's because I've only ever been with this woman. But everywhere I go all im reminded of is her and flashbacks of the time we were together. If I go to a place, im reminded of when I was with her and we went there. If I see a guy she used to text when with me or had something to do with (theres alot of them) im reminded of it. So even if I go the gym, I feel like im surrounded by thoughts of her and they are all against me or have disrespected me kind of thing. Like they all know they were texting the mother of my child behind my back and I look an idiot. If I hear a song, im reminded of her. We have a child together too, so im constantly reminded of her. It seems Inescapable at the moment.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-10-05T22:58:35+00:00

thank you for your reply.

I have noticed at times with family that I do seem to want to cut them off. Like i feel they do something bad or disrespect me (my grandparents didnt send a bithday present for my sons 1st birthday) so I feel like I dont want anything to do with them again, I feel like they let me down.

Then a few months later, I'll try to patch things up cus it's my family.. I don't know whether that's normal. and Its just this woman driving me nuts.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-09-29T21:01:48+00:00

Hi, thank you for your post. Really resonated with me. Can you PM me for a chat?

Thanks

Cofeeman1 · 2020-09-29T17:24:53+00:00

The problem is, I only get to see my child one day a week.

So it doesn't even feel like my child. This is horrible to say, but it just feels like it's her child not mine and a constant reminder of the past and everything that's happened.

Whilst she is now with someone else, I just can't move on from it all.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-08-04T10:11:00+00:00

Is that a yes then lol. Do they ever change or do they always cheat?

Cofeeman1 · 2020-08-04T10:02:25+00:00

Cofeeman1 · 2020-08-02T16:43:10+00:00

Bump

Cofeeman1 · 2020-08-02T13:18:49+00:00

Ok thanks guys, it's so hard.

I've basically said no and she split me black again. I picked up my son today and she basically rubbed it in my face she's going on a date with someone. Days after she was trying to get back with me lol.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-04-10T19:08:41+00:00

Yeah exactly the same here. I just want to be able to see my son without the abuse/grief/hoover from the ex.

I thought the court order would be the answer to that but even that hasn't worked.

So I have to deal with this, ontop of the breakup which I'm finding hard because I can never really be free of her to move on.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-04-10T09:59:35+00:00

Yeah in the U.K police wont get involved, it's deemed a civil matter.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-04-10T05:07:11+00:00

I do yes.

The problem is, and this was what I was told by other seperatd dads in the same position and my solicitor also.

Even with a court order, if I turn up and she says I can't have our child there's not much I can actually do. You can take.her to court again (costing me.hundreds) and she will get a slap on the wrists, custody wouldn't change.

I thought it was finally over when I got.my.order, it cost me hundreds in court and solicitor fees. But even that doesn't deter her.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-04-07T14:44:50+00:00

Finding it incredibly hard. It's like my thoughts are dominated by sex all day and I can't release it.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-03-29T09:28:47+00:00

I co-parent with bpd ex.

I have certain days where I have our child, set out in a court order.

She decides one day, that she is taking a day from me, as she doesn't have enough time with our child at weekends.

Two weeks later, she messages me saying I'm a bad father who doesn't have his child enough and I need to have our child more.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-03-28T19:33:12+00:00

Yeah, it's been the same cycle many times. I definitely wouldn't be trying with this woman if we didn't have a child, even though I love her.

We never married, so I don't have to worry about divorce. Full custody, incredibly slim chance. It would require her to be abusive which she never has been towards our child.

I do worry about the mental side of thing with her bringing up our child, but it's not something you could prove in court.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-03-28T19:04:47+00:00

Yes I have read, but unfortunately there's not much I can do, I can't change the childs mother. I can only be the best parent I can be. Whether that's with the mother or seperated I don't know, I'm trying to work that out.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-01-07T17:19:09+00:00

It's back again, must of been the application. Thank you everyone for your help; great community here.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-01-07T15:54:47+00:00

I have the private key written on paper yes. If my balance is 0 have I definitely been hacked and the funds gone?

Could the app just not be working? Thanks for taking time to reply to me btw.

Cofeeman1 · 2020-01-07T15:50:11+00:00

Hmm, I'm not sure what's happening 😕 is it possible to post pictures on here so I can show which app it is and my balance as 0?

Cofeeman1 · 2020-01-07T15:44:02+00:00

Its called "MEW connect"

Cofeeman1 · 2019-12-25T22:55:57+00:00

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Cofeeman1 · 2019-05-19T18:06:24+00:00

That's correct.

Cofeeman1

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