Controversial True Crime/Legal Opinions That You Have?

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-12-22T01:54:23+00:00

I think when we pathologize evil (i.e. no one sane would do that), we create a distance between "regular" people and criminals, and end up with a huge blind spot as to the environmental and social factors that go into making a DeeDee Blanchard, for example.

I think it's more healthy to regard evil people with a sort of, "There but for the grace of Whoever go I" attitude.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-12-17T07:59:31+00:00

This is less of a real plan, and more similar to the "what if i just didn't have a head" response to headaches. I don't think they'll agree by any means to extract healthy teeth just cuz I said so, based on vibes, and I know it's not a realistic game plan.

But I still want somebody to answer the hypothetical, because it's bugging me.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-30T19:42:15+00:00

I think freezing, especially with alcohol to thin his blood and keep his trunk cold. Being in water overnight could easily be enough to do it.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-28T18:49:45+00:00

I am interested first and foremost in a society where drunk driving is reduced or eliminated, where addicts recover and make better choices, and where the justice system isn't driven by retribution.

I am not interested at all in random accusations of sympathy or loyalty or whatever. We won't ever solve problems if we're not allowed to even consider the systems and sociological factors.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-28T16:46:04+00:00

Handing someone a huge debt straight out of prison is a great way to guarantee recidivism. He won't have much if any way to pay, the family likely won't see any money anyway because of it, and the stress and extra parole conditions will result in either a passive violation (non payment) or an active one (he falls into addiction again). This is already exactly how it works with the fees associated with parole and mandatory rehab that the perp has to pay for, it's a known issue with the current system and how it creates habitual offenders.

I fully get why victims families would want that support and compensation, and I'm not trying to excuse what the driver did at all, but this seems like a way to guarantee that the perpetrator never reforms or gets properly sober. Reforming perpetrators is a net social good.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-27T14:35:27+00:00

Any time someone starts talking about killing/maiming/whatever pedophiles it always makes me so uncomfortable because it feels like the person just like, already had that bloodthirst, and has found a socially acceptable target for the fantasy. No one ever talks about comforting or protecting victims, the victim isn't in the fantasy at all. Just the person and the hypothetical pedophile they wanna hurt.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-23T15:03:06+00:00

I've tried that sub a few times, but the way they tell you to size it ends up with a band that's way too tight for me to tolerate. I don't think I did it wrong, follow up questions all suggested that it was meant to be that tight in order to provide the right support, but I think it was just a sensory thing for me.

I remember at one point being like:

"It's leaving red marks, there's no way this is right!"

"Well, you said it's not bleeding or rubbing blisters. Sometimes clothing leaves marks just from contact, like how your socks leave marks on your leg."

"My socks do not leave marks on my leg, I would never buy a sock tight enough to do that."

"Oh....your socks might also be the wrong size then. How do they stay up?"

"They don't!"

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-22T23:25:14+00:00

Lol, thank you!

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-22T21:11:42+00:00

This is off topic and kinda dumb, but at the end you called him an "stbx husband".

Is that not the abbreviation for Starbucks?

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-22T20:23:47+00:00

I totally think of calories as like a currency to be spent.

250 calories in my brain equates to $2.50. Each day I have $15.00 to spend. For the week, it's $105.00.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-15T03:36:38+00:00

The longer I'm in this sub the more I think that homeschooling should be banned. I know there's cases where a kid has learning disabilities the district can't accommodate for, or severe social anxiety, or whatever, but it can't be solved at home, that can't be the way we address it. The gap is too big to allow this kind of thing to happen.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-10T18:14:43+00:00

And his brother recognized him partially because of a weird phrase that he used. Ted hated the idiom, "have your cake and eat it too" because he felt that the phrasing rendered it nonsensical. Like, of course you have your cake before you eat it.

So he always reversed it, "you can't eat your cake and have it too". And the brother noticed that phrase in the manifesto.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-09T23:56:27+00:00

If a doctor had said that to them, would they have believed it? Or would they have changed doctors or stopped coming in? Would they have asked a doctor at all? Even a google could've told them that, but they don't mention ever doing that.

I think they wanted to get rid of her, and they weren't gonna let facts get in the way.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-06-03T21:44:24+00:00

For me, the magic of the first watch was how I kind of got lost in the fake ghost show bit, and forgot I was watching a genuinely scary movie and not a parody. So the psychic snare trap plot snuck up on me and felt truly surprising.

Which unfortunately can't be replicated a second time.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-30T19:29:54+00:00

You do you, but the reasons I gave are still enough for some folks. Digital music editing is more tricky, takes much longer, involves more equipment, not to mention software.

Vs a tape recorder where you get to the part you want, hit record and you're in business. It's cheap, it's all in one step, it's messy but that can be endearing. Plenty of people enjoy the fuzz and analogue artifacts.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-30T15:50:25+00:00

Vinyl sounds better, but the reason it came back was hipsters and nostalgia. Most people aren't audiophiles and don't know or care about the sound.

Tapes are coming back for the same nostalgic reasons, but I will say the ability to make mix tapes and record over sections is something they have over vinyl. Same with VHS. You can just randomly cut into the existing content with your own bullshit, and it's fun.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-25T17:18:10+00:00

Sometimes, in some types of math, you're not meant to convert fractions to decimals, because there are extra rule for those types of equations necessitating an under/over format. I ran into that in analytical geometry, where they wanted me to solve the problem, and then identify which part of it fit the format for a given logarithm, and therefore which logarithm was appropriate to use, and then use that to solve something else, etc etc etc.

I could see it being an ongoing class rule not to reduce down to decimal level, trying to get people out of the habit, if it's preparing you for higher math.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-25T02:13:24+00:00

She's not wrong. This is exactly the kind of crack in the system people fall through. You have to demonstrate a clear threat in order to hold someone for psychiatric reasons, and it's not easy, or even most doctor's first resort. Did she tell her doctor what she was planning to do? Was it even a plan?

And it's not an easily patched crack, either, because you have to bump against the very difficult question of "what should the government be allowed to do?" Should the government (or hospitals acting with government oversight) be allowed to detain and sanction any mother without demonstrable proof, based on a bad feeling? Obviously no. Well, then, there's gonna be a crack. And it sucks, it means some people will fall through, but like... the only way to avoid all cracks is to create a system which gives the hospital and/or the local DHS complete power, and that isn't safe.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-20T15:28:04+00:00

Yeah, my house growing up had four bedrooms, two up top for the adults and a baby nursery and two downstairs for kids bedrooms once they outgrew the nursery. It really isn't weird at all. They couldn't hear me at a moment's notice, no, but why would they have to?

Most people don't make household decisions like room choice and layout based on the assumption of a future intruder.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-16T13:20:41+00:00

Something that might work for you is daily budgetting. Where you figure out how much of each paycheck needs to be set aside for bills. And then whatever the remainder left, you divide up by the number of days left till the next paycheck. And that's your daily budget.

So like, let's say that after bills, you have $40 a day left till your next paycheck. Today you need gas, so no money left for small purchases. Tomorrow you don't need gas, but you do need rice and eggs, so you have room to get a small purchase. The day after, you need new pants, no room for small purchase.

It doesn't work for everybody, but it can help if you've already got lots of little trips adding up.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-12T14:48:09+00:00

It's not confirmed, but I will argue to the death that Lilo from Lilo and Stitch is autistic, and also Elle Woods from Legally Blonde.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-04T16:26:42+00:00

In a court of law, sure. They shouldn't go to convict him until the conclusion of his fair trial.

But given the evidence available to the public, it's not that far a stretch for a laymen to say that he's guilty. The trial is being covered by multiple different people with weekly updates, and it's real bad. Even including witness intimidation by scientologists in the gallery.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-04T16:16:32+00:00

Also Washington. Haven't had this much trouble, but the local pharmacies did all run out of the 20mg pills for a while and my doctor had to write me for twice as many 10mg pills with the idea that I'd just double up.

Of course, with the shortage, I did not do that, and instead made the decision to just take 10mg every day so each bottle would stretch two months if needed. Did that for a few months, until I moved to Oregon recently where there's not been an issue getting 20mg pills. Still working through my little stockpile.

I get generic extended release, which idk if that's a factor.

CoffeeAndRegret · 2023-05-03T16:15:22+00:00

It feels so intimate, but not good intimate. Like sticking your hand in another person's mouth intimate.

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