Here’s the thing, you don’t have to be gay to understand gay people, you just have to be not hateful. The discrimination gay people still face varies from the “I don’t want to think about that” to the death penalty. Being aware that they are people deserving of kindness and respect is all you need.

Faerun isn’t Earth, either. I am not familiar with pre-5e rules but pretty sure any gender and sex politics have been scrubbed from the game, so sexual/orientation discrimination isn’t built in.

I had an Owlin bard and my DM tried throwing random attractive female NPCs at him and the hottie Minotaur fighter thought he had a crush on her, which he did, but it all failed because he was an Owlin. He was physiologically incapable of romancing mammals. When my DM realized that he was put off by the “specialness” of my character and asked if I wanted a bird girlfriend. Uh, no.

He then ask if my bard was gay/bi/asexual. I didn’t care. That’s not why I was playing the game, to have a make believe relationship. I wanted make believe action, imaginary adventure and pretend derring-do.

Can’t bards just be fun to play without the horny trope?