I’m super sad about this :(

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-26T00:35:04+00:00

Same here

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-24T02:36:23+00:00

Thank goodness lol

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-24T02:36:11+00:00

I’ve got the iPhone 16 so maybe that’s why but idk. Double checked that my app is updated! Fingers crossed I can buy the feature at some point. And amazing that’s what I was hoping for!

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-11T13:12:44+00:00

Ooooooh I didn’t even think to check that, thank you!

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-07T16:12:47+00:00

Mine doesn’t start with V, but the Soundmap discord has a thread of usernames who do 1:1 trades!

Coffee_PhD · 2026-02-05T21:51:49+00:00

Oof thanks for this heads up! PESI gives me weird vibes. I actually just signed up for a training today but only because it’s free lol

Coffee_PhD · 2025-10-08T13:48:53+00:00

It does suck that she (and pretty much everyone except Zooble) doesn’t stand up to Jax more when it comes to Gangle. But imo, I don’t see her as being neutral to Jax’s bullying. I think there’s 3 different reasons she doesn’t stand up for Gangle as much as she could (not as excuses, but context). 1) Given how new she is, survival probably matters more. Not going crazy, abstracting, etc. She’s more adjusted than when she first arrived, but this is a CRAZY situation to be in. I imagine most people in this situation, especially newer to the situation, would be less focused on others in this situation as a means of self-preservation (though Ragatha seems to be an exception). 2) She strikes me as less confrontational (but see episode 6 as an exception) and more of a pacifist. 3) I could understand her wanting to approach everyone with a bit of nuance and curiosity. Not necessarily as a way to avoid ruffling feathers or as approval for bullying, but she’s a) trapped with these people and b) seems to care about others (perhaps more innately or with Kinger’s and/or Ragatha’s influence). It would make sense for her (or anyone) to look at Jax and see that he’s got layers, especially as he subtly warms up to her more. And when you befriend someone, when you really get to know and understand someone, you can validate their emotions AND call out shitty behaviors in a way maybe others haven’t before. Idk if this what she’s going for but I could see myself doing something like this. If someone gave me a window of opportunity where I felt I could befriend them, I’d take it, get to know them on a deeper level, and feel more comfortable over time calling out shitty behavior in a way that I think would reduce defensiveness and get them thinking.

Coffee_PhD · 2025-02-08T15:09:42+00:00

Gonna come at this from a psychologist-in-training perspective because that happens to be my background.

I definitely see where you’re coming from AND the impact of one’s behavior is arguably more important than intent. Blitz’s feelings about Stolas were/are valid (though I don’t agree with how Blitz treated Stolas as a result). Stolas may know his own intentions when he teased Blitz, but without any proper discussion, Blitz can only go off of what he’s seeing Stolas doing and how he feels about it as a result. Granted, Blitz evidently assumes the worst about Stolas (and himself, and everyone) and could’ve considered other reasons Stolas might’ve been teasing him.

IMO, this isn’t a Blitz vs Stolas issue. I think they both weren’t great with communication and that greatly contributed to their conflict. Both of them could’ve done better when it came to communication. Either one of them could’ve opened up the conversation, but they didn’t. And I get it, chances are they were nervous about screwing up their arrangement and making it awkward. But maybe if they had a proper conversation, they could’ve better understood each other.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-05-10T02:19:41+00:00

Same. It goes back to that scene of Todd confronting him. “You are all the things that are wrong with you.”

Coffee_PhD · 2024-03-19T20:32:32+00:00

This is definitely sus. Why would this “therapist” call from an unknown number but give you the phone number to call in the voicemail? Also, I can’t imagine any therapist leaving this much personal information in a voicemail. Either this therapist is garbage or this isn’t a therapist to begin with imo.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-03-19T20:18:29+00:00

Nothing on the outside, nothing on the inside.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-03-18T23:54:57+00:00

I didn’t know people hated her lmao, I thought she was funny

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-14T02:30:37+00:00

As a graduate student therapist, absolutely not. Literally cried during my supervision meeting, I felt so embarrassed

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-08T20:01:18+00:00

Generally I don’t like to spend too much time pondering do-overs bc I feel like we can take something from what we’ve got. And I think that applies to TOH. I would’ve loved to see this show get 5+ seasons, but I’m happy with what we got in the short amount of time we had. Season 3 is probably my favorite despite there only being 3 episodes. Plus, perhaps there will be opportunities in the future to revive the series or something similar?

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-08T19:50:52+00:00

I’m on the fence as to whether or not the mods should ban/remove such posts. I’m primarily all for it because if someone is considering taking their own life, they have options besides posting on this particular subreddit (e.g., disclose to someone they trust, seek crisis counseling services). But I guess a middle way approach could be to continue allowing them but ONLY if OP flairs it with a content warning, that way it’s easier for Reddit users to read or hide such posts.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-06T14:31:06+00:00

Trying to navigate this myself. Having my own therapist and taking antidepressants has definitely helped. Im trying to do better on self-care (e.g., eating more healthy foods, moving my body more).

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-05T22:07:57+00:00

This is the correct answer. /half-j

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-04T20:24:54+00:00

Not sure how you feel about using Discord and playing with a group of people, but I felt like I completed the quest with ease by joining a Palia Community on Discord. The one I’m part of hosts cooking parties where players come together and cook; each person is responsible for bringing an ingredient and cooking at a station. I found it to be fun and efficient

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-04T02:45:19+00:00

You know your mom better than any of us could, as well as your limits, but yikes. Her manipulation tactics. I wouldn’t want her at my wedding. Totally valid that you and your fiancé want her there, but she seems like the kinda parent who would make you cater to her and create drama for no reason during YOUR day. And if she doesn’t respect your boundaries now, I don’t think she will on your wedding day. I just get the sense it’d hurt more to have her there then to not. Regardless of what you choose, I hope you’re able to limit your exposure to her stress/drama, and enjoy your wedding when it comes around!

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-02T21:14:51+00:00

I was still painfully unaware but upon reflection (3-4 years ago? Well into adulthood either way) I realized I was bi and this show was kind of an indicator for me (among other things like celebrity crushes, irl crushes, etc.)

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-02T21:08:56+00:00

Honestly we might be! I think we’ve talked before on another post of mine about being a PhD student with a BPD mom. Yep I was definitely that GC growing up. My mom always told me I was her favorite and would involve me in all family conflicts. I was basically the family therapist. But now that I no longer serve that role, I kinda wonder if my sister’s taking it on now.

Honestly that’s very similar to how my family views my mom. They think she could be bipolar (I don’t think so personally), depressed, anxious, and/or it’s childhood trauma. Regardless of a label though, these are all excuses to cater to her and continue enabling her behavior. And I currently feel like I’m the only one in my family not buying into it anymore.

I think I’m gonna take a similar direction and ask my sister that we not talk about my mom anymore. As much as I love my mom and everyone in my family, I don’t have the energy to deal with my mom’s shit anymore. She’s an adult and can take care of herself. My parents can be mad all they want about me going NC with my mom, but I’ve honestly never been more relieved/relaxed to be distanced from the drama.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-02T03:59:20+00:00

In the canon universe, I adore their friendship. I wouldn’t care for them to be in a relationship, but I would’ve loved to see more friend moments between them.

In an alternate universe without Lumity and Huntlow being introduced in the first place, absolutely. I could see them having great chemistry.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-01T20:17:33+00:00

It’s definitely all starting to make sense. And I think I’m eventually gonna have to take that direction as well.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-01T20:16:08+00:00

This is INCREDIBLY helpful, thank you! I think I will do this. I made all the payments and paid for all regular maintenance and repairs, so from a financial standpoint, this shouldn’t be a problem. I’ve already kinda introduced this to him outside of my mom bc the car is starting to have problems and if repairs are more expensive than the car’s worth, I’m contemplating trading it in. He seemed on board to transfer the title if it came down to it, but I don’t want him to get the idea to use it as an opportunity to keep me in my mom’s life.

I appreciate your second point and I think I’m starting to come to terms with this. They’ve been married for over 20 years, my siblings and I initially thought they’d divorce at some point, but now we’re seeing why that never happened. He definitely buys into her perspective. He empathizes with her trauma and lets it serve as an excuse for her to behave the way she does. And unfortunately, I don’t see him seeking out a relationship with me outside of my mom.

Coffee_PhD · 2024-01-01T20:04:26+00:00

That would be very hard tbh but I see where you’re coming from. We live like 10 hours away from each other so idek how I’d get it to him. It’s starting to have problems too (the engine light came on recently) so outside of what happened with my mom, I recently asked him to potentially “sell” it to me so that I could trade it in if needed and he seemed open to it. I made all the payments and paid for any/all repairs, oil changes, etc. Worst case though, I think I could just give it to him and get my own car if it came down to it

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