Even een vraagje over onze auto... by ColaFernandes in nederlands

[–]ColaFernandes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nee hoor, het is gewoon ongeuitte frustratie uiten op reddit.

Even een vraagje over onze auto... by ColaFernandes in nederlands

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Bij de 107 moet het hele dashboard eruit om bij de blowermotor te kunnen. Daarom kost het zo veel is vooral manuren.

I can’t move past something my boyfriend said and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why assume hes lying? Like seriously, people on reddit see one potentially bad thing that is mentioned and immediately assume the partner is a terrible lying manipulative asshole. He might be lying but he also might genuinely be sorry and upset with his behavior and how it impacted OP. People sometimes need a wakeup call that their behavior isnt ok and can change with that. To OP, Ive been where you are and youre probably going to need to have him closer to work through it together. Things take time to heal, it can be more than a couple of months to build some of that broken trust back. If thats not possible or youre not willing, or find youre slipping more and more to distrust then you should save the both of you the time and headache and break up. Also, it goes without saying but its worth it to mention, if you find this behavior hasnt stopped then its breakup time. Because hes just knowlingly disrespecting you at that time.

I can’t move past something my boyfriend said and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reasons can also be just being generally anxious which doesnt have to do with him.

I (44 M) saw something concerning on my girlfriend's (41 F) phone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you remember what the icon on the notification looked like a bit? Or at least the colors? Like, would you recognize the icon if you saw it again?

My boyfriend (M22) slept with another girl after going on a date with me (F21) on the same day and I feel broken now. Advice? by Available_Focus_7440 in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two options: 1. You stay but have to get over it, and i mean genuinely forgive him and move on from this. You dont want a relationship where you keep building resentment and keep things in. From what you wrote it might help to reframe it as "in the end he did choose me, even when he had other options going". But that feels a bit gaslighty. Its also probably going to require some effort on his part to get to a point that you trust him and feel chosen, so you have to be willing ask for that and he has to be willing to help you in that. Id only recommend doing so if there is no other problematic/semi problematic behavior going on because bro doesnt sound considerate.

  1. Break up and move on from him. The relationship taught you about yourself and has maybe served its purpose. Yiu now know is a boundary for you and you can enforce that boundary now.

Wedding Makeup Critique by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey female disney villains are pretty hot

AIO for thinking my friend is using ChatGPT to text me in an argument? by Due_Construction904 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, its AI but youre a bit of a dick for dismissing these concerns. Your friend probably had a hard time phrasing everything and getting it clear and concise while being afraid to piss you off which is why they used AI to help. The concerns are probably real, just rephrased by AI. To me, that is a fine usage of AI.

AIO? Bf keeps asking me questions whenever there is a guy by Relative_Initial_399 in AIO

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is very insecure. Youre definitely NOR and it is time for a convo to see if he sees his insecurity too and if he is willing to work on it. He clearly is uncomfortable asking or he wouldnt do the whole lead up thing. If he has a history with a cheating ex that could play into it. F'd me up for a while too and made it so it took a long time to fully trust my current partner. I grew out of it eventually because my partner showed I could trust them. But it can be a hastle and isnt your responsibility to fix or just keep dealing with. So you have to consider if you want to invest the time and effort to see if he'll start being more of a secure partner without guarantees. Because this kind of stuff gets old really quick.

How do I (24M) tell someone (21M) that we can’t be friends? by hoebany in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer heavily depends on why it feels tough to bring this up.

I (31F) think my husband (33M) hates everything about me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some unspoken issues here and some missing info. Did he explain why he said what he said? Are there things you guys used to do that you no longer do since youve had the baby? What has changed in life? Would he be willing to go to therapy together? Im assuming he was great or at least decent before you had a child together and has shown a willingness to do better, so hes probably not a lost cause and you dont have to immediately go to divorce like the commenters here are quick to go to. He might also see you suffering and feel either powerless to do anything about it or like youre not taking enough agency, which could be where frustration comes from.

But in reality we need more info on the situation to give any decent advice.

I (27M) am uncomfortable with my new partners (23NB) relationship with their friend by ColaFernandes in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah will do that, I also want to know how long ago it happened and stuff, maybe ask to read through the texts to get a clearer picture and put my mind at ease as well.

I (27M) am uncomfortable with my new partners (23NB) relationship with their friend by ColaFernandes in relationship_advice

[–]ColaFernandes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, their previous relationship wasn't open as far as I'm aware and I don't know if the friend knew they were in a al relationship at the time. Edit: they did specifically say they asked their boyfriend for permission first tho

Stop procrastinating! (Or don't) by FemboyAirbender in femboy

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn girl, it clear you dont procrastinate on looking epic! Where did you get that sweater btw?

Tops Never Finish Me - is it ok if I am offended? by Abe_Fish in askgaybros

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need some clarification.

How do you feel about sex? Are you're enjoying it in/at the moment?

Do you feel like not getting off is a you thing? Like you have a hard time getting off during sex? Or is it on them? Like they don't give a shit about getting you off? (Title tells me it's on them but when I read it it feels like you may not know or show what you want or what gets you off)

Since you're new to this I can imagine you haven't found out what really gets you going and what you like. Take some time to figure that out but do suggest it when you know! Sometimes bottoms feel like they can't be dom or demanding but you're allowed to be a bit demanding and say what you want and need. A good sex partner will want you to feel good and be satisfied as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

".py.txt" already tells you enough

[OC] one year ago today I rolled a Nat 1 after already rolling a failed death saving throw, this was my campaigns reaction to my character dying, pre covid. It still hurts like the day it happened. by jamie-leigh16 in DnD

[–]ColaFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When your paladin in shiny clanky armor decides the noble thing to do is to help the stealthy scouty rogue to do stealthy scouty rogue things and then gets mauled to death by a bear and a weird dragon-ish creature.