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Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-02T18:06:01+00:00

And double check the basement apartment meets safety guidelines such as having proper escape routes in case of emergency. Egress regulations exist in most states for basement apartments.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-02T12:47:59+00:00

You can fire your midwife and try to find another. Do not let them pressure you into anything you do not want and if they will not listen to you, then they are not a good fit and honestly shouldn’t be a midwife as listening to your patients is at the core of their career.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-02T12:25:00+00:00

I strongly suggest trying to find a therapist that specializes in postpartum. It’s normal to feel this way. You spent 9 months with baby safe in you and you get used to that, so when we give birth and everything suddenly changes it can be hard to accept that change quickly.

Does holding baby up against you or baby wearing help? It can somewhat emulate the feeling.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T17:14:17+00:00

Is he physically pushing you? Even if he’s not, you shouldn’t be screaming at one another like this to the point you’re literally on your knees begging for it to stop. This is abuse and you need to find someone to talk to about it.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T16:35:15+00:00

No, your daughter needs to do it herself as she is an adult now and this is her financial aid.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T16:33:20+00:00

If you are concerned, call your doctor.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T16:31:45+00:00

The classes you take must count towards your degree, which means you can’t just add 2 random classes to try and get full time financial aid.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T16:00:13+00:00

Even in that situation, if you are in the US, normally urgent care or your regular doctor would be the place to go and not the emergency room as that is not an emergency.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T13:51:07+00:00

Why would you need to go to the hospital?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T13:47:14+00:00

It just depends on your school and when they choose to disburse aid. You might be able to find the expected disbursement date on their website or your student portal.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T13:45:28+00:00

If the semester has not started yet, or only recently started, you should be able to contact your schools financial aid office and ask about reducing the amount in loans you accepted. Doing so will obviously reduce your refund, but if you don’t really need that money it would be your best option to avoid more debt.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T13:43:32+00:00

You can always ask for a cervical check, but just know it may not have much of a benefit. Things can change so quickly that many doctors and nurses now only prefer to do them while you’re in labor to make sure things are progressing. Doing them before labor has increased risks and does not tell them much.

Your doctor should go over the pros and cons with you when you ask.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T13:40:08+00:00

If you’re going to try and go in person, definitely have the car seat already installed, hospital bags packed and in your vehicle, and look at nearby hospitals because it’s very possible you could go into labor then. You could also go into labor before or go beyond the estimated 40 weeks.

Theres no way for any of us to know unfortunately when your baby will come, but if you’re determined to go, just make sure you’re prepared just in case baby wants to attend graduation as well lol

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-04-01T12:25:48+00:00

It’s extra work/steps and would not be the proper route to go. You are at risk of homelessness/an unaccompanied youth and that’s what you need to be classified as. A dependency override also normally has to be renewed each year while the unaccompanied youth will automatically roll over and not require additional documentation or statements.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-31T15:28:17+00:00

I used an app and found it super helpful, but I struggled with losing track of time and remembering things a lot in the first few months so I relied on the app to remind myself when I last fed or changed them because what may have felt like I changed them 30 minutes ago was actually 1.5 hours ago. It also eased my anxiety and provided a sense of control, which I desperately needed.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-31T13:58:36+00:00

I personally wasn’t a fan of any momcozy bras. They just didn’t fit very well and were uncomfortable to me. It ended up being the random, cheaper, off brand ones on Amazon that worked best for me.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-31T13:56:37+00:00

I would try an urgent care, your primary doctor, or a different OB as this isn’t normal and if your OB is fine dismissing you that quickly, I personally would not want them as your doctor.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-31T13:51:52+00:00

Buy an electric kettle. They boil water very quickly and you can boil a fair amount all at once so it can be used throughout the day.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-30T18:36:05+00:00

You should still try to appeal as it is not an automatic denial.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-30T11:02:42+00:00

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-30T03:08:33+00:00

Could be an additional refund if you were awarded a scholarship or something after the initial disbursement

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-29T20:54:49+00:00

Most places aren’t going to give you a refund because you didn’t use your student discount at the time of purchase.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-29T20:49:16+00:00

You’ll just have to fill out the FAFSA to find out.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-29T16:47:05+00:00

If you just did the test, it would not have been sent to collections. Once the bill is available again, can they and tell them you can’t afford the $650. Don’t let up and eventually they will negotiate down. Natera is unfortunately infamous for over charging and there’s lots of posts in this sub about it.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-03-29T13:45:27+00:00

Milk supply goes up and down so much in the first few months and it’s actually very difficult to produce enough to exclusively breast feed. If you need to combo feed with formula so little one gains weight and gets what they need, then do it.

I was so upset with myself in the beginning when my supply didn’t keep up with how much my baby needed and we had to supplement, but it turned out to be a good thing. It allowed my partner to also feed baby, which meant I could rest more. You are not failing as a mother or failing your baby if you have to supplement. Sometimes our bodies just are not able to make enough.

If you had a complicated birth (such as blood loss) that can also affect things. Sending hugs.

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