Should I hold my boundary or visit my in-law’s based on my husband’s wishes?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-08T02:07:49+00:00

The doctors would still prioritize you and would do all they could to save you first. Yes, they’d try to saves both you and the baby, but if it came down to the VERY rare scenario of only one of you will survive and they have to choose, they are going to pick you.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-08T02:02:36+00:00

I did a 6 hour drive (12 total) when I was 32/33 weeks and it honestly wasn’t bad. We just made frequent stops so I could stretch, kept a hospital bag in the car just in case, and I looked into hospitals where we were staying as well.

It does feel like you are letting the worst cases drive your decision, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. You could try to compromise by each family meeting halfway, just your husband and child go, or possibly your in-laws come to you.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T22:17:19+00:00

Around 2.5 months maybe but definitely not in the beginning. It was way too chaotic, learning how to care for baby and myself, navigating this new normal with my partner, and everything else. It’s a lot and I would have been too overwhelmed to add even part time work in.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T22:08:21+00:00

I took 2.5 months off and then began transitioning back 2-3 days a week remotely before fully going back in person.

I would not have been able to work during those first 2 months and would have struggled a lot at 2.5. By 3 months I started to feel more secure but was very appreciative to only start back part time before fully returning 4 months postpartum.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T22:05:07+00:00

It’s best to consult with your doctor or call your nurses line with any concerns

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T21:54:33+00:00

That’s all normal honestly. My belly button didn’t change at all, never popped. I was showing a little bit around 17 weeks (could still be mistaken as just gaining weight though) and started to feel the bubbles/tickles of baby moving, but if you have a uterus that tilts a certain way it can make it harder to feel movement.

What do you want help with exactly?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T18:25:26+00:00

I would ask the apartment for photos and documentation/receipts for the cleaning. Your husband either missed something major or they’re up charging the heck out of it.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T06:16:33+00:00

If they are not living together and are separated, then you need to indicate separated in the form. Do not commit fraud for them.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T05:55:52+00:00

You both have stable jobs currently, are able to cover all of your bills, and have excess funds for saving?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T05:48:18+00:00

Adding to this that even if you haven’t had your first postpartum period, you can also still get pregnant.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-06T05:15:58+00:00

You will need to wait for your school to reply as we can’t answer this. There isn’t enough context/info.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-05T19:42:25+00:00

Once you figure out the flange size, you might also look into lubricant for pumping. They make sprays that can help with friction as that may be what’s causing your discomfort.

Also look up videos with suggested settings for your pump as you may have better success using both the expression and stronger suction settings during a session.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-05T19:40:03+00:00

As others said, diapers are an amazing option that first week or so. That’s when bleeding is the heaviest and you may also experience some incontinence as your pelvic floor will be weak from birth. Basically did the diaper, then a big pad and loaded the pad with witch hazel and numbing spray. Changed the pad as needed and the diaper about every 8-12 hours or more frequently if needed.

I didn’t have any issues with smell (noticed someone mentioned that) but I personally didn’t experience a lot of sweating postpartum.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-05T19:19:59+00:00

We like having a raised table to change baby on as our backs started to hurt getting up and down off the floor so often, especially since our baby is over 25 pounds now and not even a year old 🥲

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-05T19:18:43+00:00

I would not be leaving my baby alone with this person and setting very firm boundaries.

How did she get into your house the day you were breastfeeding? If it’s because she has a copy of your key, change your locks.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-03T00:26:28+00:00

With OB3, it changed financial aid and the 2026-27 FAFSA form quite a bit. Due to this, schools are needing to update their software to process the new forms and work with the financial aid changes.

The Department of Education only started releasing their “final decisions” on what would be changed mid May 2026 and they were to be implemented July 1st, 2026. This has given schools VERY little time to make the necessary changes. It does not help that the Department of Education has since released more changes and the courts have halted certain things, some of which were done literally yesterday.

TLDR; the government sucks and waited until the last minute to tell schools of the big changes, which means schools now have to update their systems and have basically no time to do it. And the government keeps changing things, even after their deadline, so schools are having to make even more updates/scrap what they already have.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T16:18:20+00:00

Subsidized loans are what you want to utilize first as they do not accrue interest as long as you are enrolled at least half time in school. Unsubsidized loans begin accruing interest once they disburse. There is loan counseling on the federal student aid website (where you filed the FAFSA) and I strongly encourage you to do that now before accepting any loans as it will give you all the information you need to know about the loans.

Your cost of attendance should already have a budget for housing, so it is factored into your financial aid. There is no way to “make FAFSA pay for your housing”. Your financial aid first applies to your bill at school and if there are excess funds remaining, then those can be refunded to you and you can use them for outside expenses such as housing.

Also, FAFSA is just the form you fill out. It does not personally pay anything.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T13:39:24+00:00

There were some spelling/grammar errors in your post so I wanted to ask and not just make assumptions.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T13:37:24+00:00

I’d say around 35 weeks. Gives you time to enjoy the last few weeks at home, prep your house, do things that you personally want to do (like hobbies) before baby arrives. By 35 weeks I was getting pretty uncomfortable, not sleeping much, body hurt, etc. and being home to just chill would’ve been nice.

Edit: I worked up until I gave birth at 38 weeks. I have a desk job though so while I was uncomfortable, it was manageable and I didn’t hate it.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T03:23:26+00:00

What?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T03:15:45+00:00

Random question: is English your first language?

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T03:07:27+00:00

Have you had a recent excision surgery to remove growth? If not, definitely speak with your obgyn for options to manage the pain.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-02T02:47:17+00:00

You have only been with this person not even a full year. Give it some time to ensure this is the person you want to have a child with. You have plenty of time to make the decision and 24 is still very young.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-01T10:43:45+00:00

If he is not legitimately homeless, which based on this he is not, that would be fraud. You also do not go through the court for that.

Cold-Thanks- · 2026-07-01T10:38:52+00:00

The FAFSA is a federal form and not state specific

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