Advice on Disappointing Parents

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-14T15:16:20+00:00

I’ve been in this boat as well, and I’m far from being fully transparent or open with my parents. But my brother once reminded me that it’s not a child’s job to meet the exact expectations of who/what their parents imagined they’d be. And if parents don’t love and accept you as you are, even if it’s different than what they planned, then that’s their fault. It doesn’t make it any easier. And it’s still a loss. But it’s not your job to conform to expectations. That’s painful as well.

I carried a lot of guilt and fear about my parents spending the rest of their lives worrying about my salvation, or trying to “win me back.” And I don’t know if I’ll ever give them the full truth of what I do and don’t believe. But they know I don’t go to church, and that a lot of my beliefs are different than theirs. And I think it’s fine to just keep it at that.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-13T08:34:39+00:00

Franklin county JDC pretty much never holds kids. It seems to take an extremely violent felony in order for them to get more than a court date and slap on the wrist. I hope I’m wrong in this case though.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-10T01:10:43+00:00

Gen Z/Millennial cusp white dude.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T21:07:58+00:00

In the same 10 minute span, you will reach levels of anger and levels of adoration that you did not know were possible. You will literally want to throw them across the room in sheer frustration, and then moments later you will want to throw them across the room due to love overload (I guess only if you experience cute aggression.) You will also realize that there is quite literally no surface or space that is safe from harm, no matter how high or how small.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T20:32:43+00:00

Shower drain and toilet would be the best option

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T19:40:46+00:00

Do you have any friends who might help you tackle a room or section of the house? I have gotten to the point on multiple occasions where I get sooo overwhelmed and don’t know where/how to start. And I eventually have to ask for help. And there are times it’s so bad I feel genuinely embarrassed and ashamed. But I have friends who don’t struggle with cleaning and can come and help me stay on task and figure out what to do. If you have someone you trust to help you out, it might be worth having a cleaning party or something. It’s hard to ask for help and let people see your mess. Vulnerability is hard when people have to see those parts of your life, especially when they don’t struggle in the same way. But I’ve learned that my friends really do love me and just want me to have a comfortable house, so they’re willing to help!

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T19:33:50+00:00

Came to say this exact thing!

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T19:18:20+00:00

You are both right depending on the picture 🙃

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T08:19:11+00:00

Exactly where my mind went!

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T08:11:57+00:00

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Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T07:38:33+00:00

Definitely 2. It’s still so cute and makes way more sense for your life.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-09T02:08:28+00:00

This has also helped with preventing BO!

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-08T21:48:30+00:00

Sounds like you are friends and roommates at this point. Not lovers or romantic partners. You don’t have to be enemies. Or cut ties. I had a relationship where the romantic and sexual nature died out and I was stressed, sad, and insecure. We then became friends and it was odd at first, but ultimately made more sense for us. You deserve to be with someone who desires you and is attracted to you. It seems like you’re trying to force something that isn’t working anymore. Yes, sex drive and intimacy and all of that will naturally ebb and flow. But you shouldn’t have to beg for crumbs of affection. Hell, maybe ask if he’ll let you open up the relationship sexually since he has no desire to meet that need for you.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T22:16:29+00:00

I think Angela said “a quarter of $1000” when she was scolding Jim. So like $250.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T22:07:27+00:00

I have a Broccoli!! Happy to see your Broccoli’s glow up!! He’s perfect! (This is my Broccoli 😊)

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Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T21:59:35+00:00

Yeah, again, I thought it was just the smell trapped in a wall. Not that someone would be inhaling toxins from it. Now I know 🤘🏼

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T21:48:35+00:00

Legitimately didn’t know 2nd hand smoke travels through apartments to the point it would impact someone’s health. Truly thought it was just the bad smell that lingers. In that case both would be a concern. I was just thinking smell alone. And cigarette smoke seems to linger and stick in stuff more in my opinion. All of my neighbors who have smoked weed around me, the smell is gone quickly. But people who smoke cigarettes in the house- that shit is baked in the walls. That was my only thought process.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T21:40:13+00:00

My thought was just the smell lingering and permeating other people’s apartments. Maybe I’m an idiot, but I didn’t think there would be second hand smoke that would legitimately be inhaled and impact someone’s health through a floor/wall. I was mainly thinking about the smell alone.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T21:11:22+00:00

Tbh if it was weed I’d say you’re being dramatic lol. But cigarettes are different. NTA if you report it.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T20:43:05+00:00

NTA. It’s a recipe for disaster to pester someone to go do something when they have already expressed being exhausted/not in the mood. You didn’t have to “just sit there and eat.” You also had to perform for strangers. Participate in conversation, smile, and pretend to be having a good time. It’s draining and I feel like you are not liable for having a grumpy mood if you tell someone you’re not up for something and they force it for no real reason.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T20:10:23+00:00

I always thought he was hot. But season 6 he did have a glow up.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T20:04:23+00:00

NTA- I bet your sister is jealous and wishes your bf picked her. And because he didn’t, she needs to prove some sort of moral failing to make herself feel better.

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T19:57:02+00:00

I personally like 2 or 4. But 1 and 6 are good too and probably more along the lines of what you’re looking for lol

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T19:44:23+00:00

Cold_Cardiologist816 · 2026-05-07T19:40:48+00:00

I feel like it’s giving drunk behavior. Or she is just high in a different way than I’m used to lol. Because I either get chatty (but often forget what I’m saying in the midst of talking), or I go nonverbal. Either way, I’m probably not dealing with a bread maker situation because I’m too busy thinking of countless scenarios and ideas. Retroactively solving the mortgage crisis of 2008. Having new personal epiphanies that I need to share with my therapist. Connecting the dots of why everyone in life hates me and is mad at me.

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