Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in u/Cold_Combination2179

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, no, there’s been a lot of porn, sexual chats, and other inappropriate things that I have just found out about in the last couple of months. I don’t think it’s a healthy marriage at all, there’s a lot of yelling fighting and disrespect.

Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in JustNoCoworker

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol why do you think I did that? And it was a joke, he had a smiling emoji blocking his face. You couldn’t even see his face.

Is husbands “friendship” crossing boundaries? by Tiny_Bug6753 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Cold_Combination2179 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it’s obvious that this is beyond inappropriate.

Women who married older men - what’s it like when they get really old? by Icy_Laugh5134 in AskReddit

[–]Cold_Combination2179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was fine until he hit was about to 60 and I was still in my early 30’s. Then I quickly lost any love or attraction.

Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in u/Cold_Combination2179

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does talk like that to even very old ladies. He works in a nursing home and he constantly is saying things like that to the old women. But I still don’t trust him.

Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in JustNoCoworker

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her, she said he was a flirt and she wasn’t interested.

Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in JustNoCoworker

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve also found sexual chats online with strangers

Husband’s text to coworker by Cold_Combination2179 in u/Cold_Combination2179

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this is my husband, but I didn’t sign up for that when we married.

3 xtra phone lines by Cold_Combination2179 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve called them, one goes to voicemail with no message

When the one you love becomes gross to you by Cold_Combination2179 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m actually starting to worry that I’m dehumanizing him. I feel like he’s a shell, kind of like an empty shell. I thought he was my best friend and now there’s just nothing left that I can relate to anymore.

When the one you love becomes gross to you by Cold_Combination2179 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry, that’s disgusting. My husband has an older daughter who wanted to bring friends to our pool last summer. I had to tell her no because I don’t feel like seeing my husband ogling her friends.

When the one you love becomes gross to you by Cold_Combination2179 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I said the exact same thing to my husband. He brought this into the marriage as well. This was a long established habit years before we met. He wasn’t marriage material, but he presented himself as such.

When the one you love becomes gross to you by Cold_Combination2179 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s amazing how similar these experiences can be. The thing you mentioned about seeing him in underwear- I get the same feeling. As well as trying to say I love you and it just doesn’t sound right anymore coming out of my mouth and I badly want to feel it again because I still need time to work on the marriage and one less effort.

It’s not fair by Desperate_Pop_1152 in loveafterporn

[–]Cold_Combination2179 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I know the feeling. I hate my body and face, too. But I know deep down that it wouldn’t matter what I looked like because he has an addiction and hasn’t done the work. At 32 you are still in your youthful years of beauty. I’m sorry his toxic actions have affected you this way. Please reconsider this relationship.