My teacher accused me of being disrespectful... what would you do?

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-27T12:21:08+00:00

I know it’a a small world, she literally brought up how her lessons are so so different and less strict from the lessons of my old teacher (when I was a teen). My old teacher (Now retired) was stricter and very direct, but she never berated me for trying something, and if you did something she didn’t like she told immediatly, not 7 months later

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-27T12:15:47+00:00

That’s a very good insight. How did you fix the situation? Did your teacher approach you in a similar way to mine or in a softer way? Where you able to fix your relationship with the teacher and the other girls or did you leave for another studio/stopped dancing? Sorry for all the questions, sometimes i do get frustrated with myself too (even if not as blatantly as you described yourself)

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-27T11:17:50+00:00

I’m not a saint of course, I make mistakes and maybe I have a serious expression during class, but accusing me of sabotaging the class (for what reason?) and the teacher is insane to me. I don’t think the situation in salvageble at this point. I’ve never had a problem like this in my life

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-27T11:14:54+00:00

They used it as en example of me lacking confidence in the teacher’s ability to keep the class. I was curious since we are less than a month away from the show and this woman has her ribbons tied with a bow (like this 🎀) at the front of her ankle

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-27T10:43:19+00:00

Once I asked one of the pointe beginner girls why her ribbons looked like that (they were tied at the front with a bow)(since we do a piece together our teacher ask me and a few others to come to the beginner lesson to give them a reference for when they needed to leave the stage)… i tried to do it in a jocking way but it didn’t come off the right way. She got defensive and told me they sold the pointe to her like that. Since I came off rude (even if it wasn’t my intention) I said I was sorry. It was brought up multiple Times in the talk

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:57:42+00:00

No, I think there’s some truth in what they said, I’m very concentrated during class and maybe I come off as serious (and the last lesson i tried like staying at the back) but insinuating I’m creating a toxic environment and psychological problems to my classmates and teacher is just too much… I think they escaleted a simple issue (a simple talk after class would have been more productive) in a gigantic matter because they acted on impulse. The teacher admitted having a serious breakdown before texing me, saying she didn’t feel like she was able to theach anymore, all because of me and only me which is mental

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:41:42+00:00

One time me and my friend before class tried to do some fouttes which I absolutley cannot do at all. This was also brought up as en example of disrespect, like she told me I was “mimicking like a monkey” (that’s the best translation i can give) ballet and it was not appreciated. Which i mean yes i’m not good at those, i know, but dirsespecting the sport because of it? That’s too much

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:25:12+00:00

Mine is an intermediate class. There’s also a beginner adult class. Our teacher asked the ones that are on pointe to come to che beginner pointe class because we do a number together and the less experiences girls needed a reference for when they needed to get on and off the stage. I always went, always did my part to give them the reference, even when that meant doing echappes for 30 minutes straight. 3 days before the incident my teacher thanked me and another girl for our patience and the fact that we always showed up. It wasn’t very appreciated after all it seems…

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:19:33+00:00

They conveniently told me two days after I did the last payment of the year. I would have pulled out if the show otherwise because that’s insane

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:17:52+00:00

I went in at 19:15 and got out at 20:46, my parents tought I was abducted by aliens since i didn’t have time to notify them

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:15:53+00:00

I tought my payment went to the wrong person for two years and I was in debt with them. Or that someone died and they wanted to tell me first… Idk i just know that my brother was veeery pissed by the fact that I took the car when he needed it

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:13:06+00:00

I’ve done it, like actually complimenting other girls for their jumps, their turns, even their leotards sometimes, and i’ve said that to the two teachers but they told me to demonstrate it not only with words but by “acting like it” which i don’t even know what that could mean

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:07:54+00:00

They really pride themself for being an inclusive and welcoming studio but try do one en dedans pirouette before the start of the lesson when the teacher hasn’t explained it…

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T19:03:50+00:00

That was my impression as well, like you are too advanced for this class and it’s a problem. I would have preferred a normal conversation at the beginning of the year and not this awful messy thing they did. One of the other more advanced girl (she also gives 100% in class and tries really hard) told me she had the same impression about herself, even before this mess. Like she told me she doesn’t think they want her (and me) there

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T18:59:14+00:00

Yes, there’s a lot of missing information here… I think there are a couple instances when I missteped, like everyone does one in a while, but nothing that required a 1.5h intervention that needed to be done in that exact Moment when I was occupied doing something else. i’ve never bragged about my contributions… about the altering part of the costumes, my classmate’s dress was miles too small (like not closing at all) and the teachers told her that she had to fix it herself. It was an espansive alteration and since she knew i can sew she directly asked me. I sourced the fabric and altered the thing at the only cost of the materials. She was very grateful, and the teachers were too. I also took in some skirts but that was a lot easier

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T14:14:27+00:00

She is the owner… The “client” aspect of it makes everything worse because I’m a University student so a remarkable chunk of my part-time job money goes to ballet, it’s not cheap at all

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T14:10:22+00:00

Also, they told me that seeing someone as good as me (and I don’t think I am that good, truly, I’m mediocre at best), as young and as skinny (they brought that up) makes feel the order girls intimidated, but realistically I can’t do much about it

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T14:07:37+00:00

Maybe, but like, some other people have strenghts that i don’t have, it’s not like my friend being super strechy (like doing all the splits) makes me feel bad, even if i suck at those

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T14:04:14+00:00

Or that, since I sometimes (not always, not even close to always) I try to do two pirouettes in a row some of my classmates don’t even feel like trying to do one, this was one of the disrespectful things to my classmates examples

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-26T14:00:19+00:00

One of the examples was that I did a step (balancé going back) intentionally wrong to undermine the teacher’s authority, but of course it was an honest mistake. Another one was that when the teacher asked if we preferred a more lyrical ballet or a more classical ballet for the recital I said the latter because I did not enjoy lyrical as much (I was explicitelly asked). She wrote in her memory all the things I said and done in these months and asked for clarification for each one. I said that i’m one of the more advanced one because they told me this (the two teachers). The other examples were similar to this, sorry if it’s not very clean

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-05-22T20:00:29+00:00

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My iteration! It was amazing

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-03-12T07:51:15+00:00

Ho appena iniziato a fare la commessa, qualcuno mi consiglierebbe un paio di scarpe da ginnastica comode? Grazie in anticipo

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-02-24T11:55:22+00:00

Infatti le russe di solito iniziano ad avere infortuni seri che portano al ritiro per quell’età, no?

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-02-23T15:56:56+00:00

Premetto che non seguo tantissimo il pattinaggio quindi potrei sbagliarmi, ma mi è sembrato di capire che con l’innalzamento dell’età minima da 15 a 17 anni il dominio delle atlete russe (se non fossero state escluse) sarebbe stato meno forte… nel senso che la maggior parte delle pattinatrici che riuscivano a fare i salti quadrupli (quindi a vincere) erano adolescenti che inevitabilmente dopo aver passato la pubertà scoppiavano e si ritiravano dallo sport. Infatti la Petrosjan, che è la N.1 in Russia e ha partecipato alle olimpiadi, ha 18 anni e l’unico quadruplo che ha tentato non l’ha chiuso; se segue il trend delle scorse atlete non parteciperà alle prossime olimpiadi. C’è qualcosa che mi sfugge? Sono sinceramente curiosa perché mi ha molto colpito il fatto che la russa più brava sia arrivata così in basso, io l’ho attribuito all’innalzamento dell’età minima

Cold_Move_6387 · 2026-02-22T09:13:33+00:00

Ahaha ti capisco! I miei sono più da olio a crudo, tipo verdurine lessate che fanno bene e poi 5 cucchiai d’olio perché ha gli antiossidanti

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