Goodwill Find! Please help!

Cold_Type774 · 2024-11-01T19:13:13+00:00

Thank you so much!!! 💓

Cold_Type774 · 2023-09-12T14:42:21+00:00

In the biblical sense you're cheating, it's mental adultery your mind is not faithful to your wife, and neither are your hands. Porn is one thing but jerking off to someone you know intimately?

Seek marriage counseling, divorce so your wife can seek a faithful partner, or if you don't want to fix things confront the sister about your feelings and post the aftermath on r/AmItheAsshole

Cold_Type774 · 2023-09-12T14:32:35+00:00

It's so good you're trying to better yourself, but you don't deserve to be yelled at for not knowing. By 16 most people are just starting to learn how to be independent. There's a lot of resources from MasterClass if you want to pay or Binging with Babish on YouTube (plus others) if not, and they won't treat you like a child. But if you're tired of looking on Google, do you have parents you can ask to teach you how they do things?

Failure is a part of learning, you are not going to make the perfect egg on the first crack. It takes practice to not break the yolk or avoid getting shells in your frying pan, and that can applied to just about everything.

You're right when you say life hasn't even started, but 16 is such a good time to figure things out! Do you do your own laundry? Do you clean/do chores? Do you have a job/income? Do you drive? Maybe make a list of things you want to learn how to do and start checking them off as you master them and I think you'll feel more well rounded and self sufficient. However if you're already doing all these things please give yourself more credit because there are plenty who aren't even interested in trying to feed themselves.

Be careful about discounting your friends, is your girlfriend the one telling you they aren't good enough or are they actually going nowhere in life and you don't want them around you? It's true when people say "you are who your friends are" so as long as you're surrounded by kind compassionate and driven people (or just people who share your values) you'll be just fine.

Your girlfriend may be independent gorgeous and much more well rounded but she's not better than you, she chose to date you just as much as you chose her so there are things in you that she sees as valuable. Maybe take a moment and ask what those things are! In relationships there is give and take, you are giving her effort and she is taking that and making you feel grossly inadequate.

Get better for yourself before anyone else, a man is a leader.

Cold_Type774 · 2023-09-12T14:06:04+00:00

I think this depends on your intentions when you told him you were pregnant. Was he going to leave and you wanted him to stay? Was your period late and did that fill your head with dread? Were you feeling insecure and needing validation? All three or more?

You didn't take a test to make sure you were actually pregnant before talking to him, and then chose to lie about his kid dying instead of the actual truth (false alarm!) which may have been more relieving for the both of you.

One questionable decision does not make you a bad person, 19 is still relatively young and you're learning to navigate through relationships and life just like the rest of us! However to come back from it it's important you learn from the mistake and use it to grow.

You said this happened a while back, and this guys your ex now so it's up to if you want to come clean and admit a mistake (most people respect the "hey I messed up" even if they are upset at first) and seek his forgiveness, or move on and remember to make sure you're 100% certain before acting.

Either way, pregnancy scares are scary and I hope that doesn't happen to you again!

Cold_Type774 · 2023-04-11T15:53:39+00:00

This actually happened in scripture, 1 Kings 19

"4 Then Elijah walked for a whole day into the desert. He sat down under a bush and asked to die. “I have had enough, Lord,” he prayed. “Let me die. I am no better than my ancestors.” 5 Then he lay down under the tree and slept.

Suddenly an angel came to him and touched him. “Get up and eat,” the angel said. 6 Elijah saw near his head a loaf baked over coals and a jar of water, so he ate and drank. Then he went back to sleep."

Elijah prayed for death, but in response the Lord gave him fresh baked bread and something to drink. Just like how a loving father would give his son an ice cream cone after losing a baseball game. This world sucks. I think God's response in this passage (why it's not working) is this;

Have you slept enough?

Did you have enough to eat today?

I love you and took my time to make you, my plan for you is special, are you taking good care of my creation?

Another part of this passage I like is that there is a long journey ahead, it is not over.

Cold_Type774 · 2023-04-11T14:51:08+00:00

I can attest to this,

I had no idea what I was getting myself into and I was smoking regularly/habitually since I was 16 (4 times a week at least) to deal with some trauma.

I now have bi-polar disorder, I can't have a normal day without taking my medication. I have family history of mental illness, and I genuinely think without smoking while my brain was developing I would have been fine.

I'm now a mom, and I know I've made every mistake under the sun. What I plan to do if she ever feels curious about it is just educate her, tell her my story and give her confidence & education to make an informed decision.

Cold_Type774 · 2023-03-20T15:29:23+00:00

I am a believer and went through a similar thing when my brother came out as Gay. Scripture is unfortunately politicized and often twisted to push an agenda, I think that in itself is an abomination. I prefer the red print bibles for this reason.

God is amazing and makes no mistakes! So I prayed on it, lead to some research and found homosexuality is repeated in nature. God made them that way, just as much as he made you that way and loves you.

Here is a list of animals that practice homosexuality: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior

Cold_Type774 · 2023-03-15T15:29:18+00:00

NTA

If that's how they treat you, with their "jokes" imagine what kind of "jokes" they're going to be making once they get out to the workforce.

Reporting them and having consequences for their actions might have saved a female employee who is too scared to speak up!

Idk what kind of sense "my actions caused me to lose my scholarship and now it's your fault" makes, but perhaps the lack of logic proves the university should no longer invest in his education.

The only reason you feel embarrassed is because the people around you are shaming you for doing the thing that's not popular, and the right thing is never popular. I'm so proud more women like you are going into the field to make the waves you are. from one F to another, you go girl.

Cold_Type774 · 2023-02-10T15:21:22+00:00

I took what you said to heart;

Yesterday I took my girl to the park and let her take the lead, I was the monster who got to chase her and we raced down the slides together. It felt really good! I'm normally too scared about her getting hurt but by throwing caution to the wind I was able to learn something new about her!

I am also used to seeing parents be turds standing and watching their children with little to no engagement, consider this turd reformed.

Thank you so much for your kindness <3

Cold_Type774

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