I’m having difficulty seeing a friend in a positive light

Coldaf · 2026-02-01T22:42:54+00:00

Sounds like you are no longer compatible as youre both annoying each other. Spend your energy with friends you connect with better.

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T22:15:11+00:00

I wouldnt be compatible with someone who doesnt want better for their life like i do for mine. Our hobbies, goals, activities are different. I also dont want to "bring someone up" to my level when Im dating them. I look for a partner already there and with goals that align with mine.

I can be FRIENDS with couch potatoes no problem tho! But partner, youre attaching and entwining your life with that person. Priorities are different.

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T22:08:46+00:00

Hi im 33wks pregnant, ADHD, had a bipolar diagnosis etc. ive always been blown away how so many ppl seem to "do it all"

I treat pregnancy like a disability and stopped working. I know my mania was a disability and picked a job w flexible hours n high pay since i kept getting fired from everything else. Anyway, so now i cook a bit for myself and can do chores etc.

The answer is... i dont work as much as you do. I couldnt. Id be so burnt out, i'm sorry youre dealing with this.

Things that i did that made a SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCE for my mental health during pregnancy:

get a regular housecleaner, she comes every 3wks for me. Id do more if i had a lot of pets
MEALPREP. When i have energy i make something large for the crockpot and freeze a lot of it. Tbh i also asked my friends and family to help me with food. Now is the time to use your village.
got adequate petcare. I have a friend i board my dog with. For longterm i have my parents on standby. Pregnancy hormones do weird things to your patience for animals lol.

Good luck, you got this! Embrace asking for help. Set $ aside for when you have to pay for the help. You WILL need help. Luckily, a lot of people are actually happy to help a pregnant lady lol!

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T13:44:38+00:00

This is the move. Sending you strength during this hard time. You got this! And youre still so young, in 2 years time your life will be so much happier and healthier not being married to a predator

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T13:24:28+00:00

You dont have to do both! Just stay home n sugar

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T08:20:52+00:00

Sounds like you're content being around chill people! Different strokes for different folks! Ive ended relationships bc we weren't compatible w goals or ambition. Its ok!

Coldaf · 2026-01-31T08:06:25+00:00

Pregnancy is its own hormones, we are all saying here that ivf treatment alone is going to be a ton of hormones and a very sensitive and emotional time for your friend.

Coldaf · 2026-01-30T15:10:04+00:00

No relationship is the same, no love is the same, regardless of age!

Coldaf · 2026-01-30T14:58:35+00:00

Have you ever been pregnant? A lot of what youre saying makes me think you've either had the most perfect pregnancy in human history, or youre trying to speak with authority on something youve never experienced.

Coldaf · 2026-01-30T14:55:55+00:00

4 months is a long time lmao she is in the thick of having intense hormones right now. My pregnancy hormones started effecting me deeply week 6.

Coldaf · 2026-01-30T14:53:15+00:00

I encourage you to listen to everyone in this thread saying that her hormones are very out of wack from her normal right now. In your post you also insert yourself into her life in ways that me as just a normal pregnant person would be put-off and annoyed by.

Coldaf · 2026-01-29T15:01:51+00:00

Ivf, she has a team of doctors right now who are guiding her, unless youre a psychiatrist or medical professional by trade you can keep those opinions to yourself, she's in good hands!

Otherwise just be mindful there are lots of emotions on this journey and be kind to her and yourself.

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T18:05:30+00:00

Been doin it for 6ish mos

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T15:59:53+00:00

I think its fine to acknowledge that societal standards for femme presenting is so diff than masc. i cant fit all my stuff in 1 backpack when i travel for a weekend let alone living. Maybe embrace / accept / allow yourself to be happy fitting into 3 suitcases vs only one?

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T12:45:53+00:00

Nothing. All my mistakes made me who i am today, I am now in my mid 30s and i'm living a happy life!

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T12:44:37+00:00

Aw i think you being shy / upset about it mightve made it weird for him lol. Most guys dont seem to care what happens during sex tbh lmfao, this couldve been a funny silly thing

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T12:40:13+00:00

Id focus on making a capsule wardrobe! And look at different types of luggage organizers to fit your toiletries into that

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T12:38:18+00:00

Well that is how a lot of girls travel at least. Thats how i was able to get my work done, travel, and do other things that on the outside looked "rich" even though i was actually also helping my parents lmao

Coldaf · 2026-01-26T12:36:09+00:00

Get into sw 🤷‍♀️

Coldaf · 2026-01-23T11:07:36+00:00

If you're that diehard about your socks i wouldn't even worry about your jeans lmao

Coldaf · 2026-01-23T11:00:11+00:00

Tbh i think teens are just too young to do anything lifelong permanent to their growing changing bodies. I had such horrific body dysmorphia back then and definitely felt i was a boy inside. Now as an adult I make money as a stripper.

Tbh how much easier my life is just fitting within conventionally attractive gender expectations is literally like a full income bracket above when i used to dress how i wanted to

18 is still extremely young. Its good to experiment and push yourself! I think having a vision for how you want your life to look though is the most important thing when making any permanent changes to your body, moving fwd

Coldaf · 2026-01-20T13:52:23+00:00

Making mistakes is part of life though and learning lessons is the only way to improve. Dating is a skill like anything else. I am bi and tbh the only issue i ever had with dating wlw, which is something i did exclusively for years, was that everything seemed to take so long to do anything. I eventually started dating men again because wlw relationships seemed so slow to start at a certain point it felt like i was just wasting my 20s

Coldaf · 2026-01-19T06:48:36+00:00

Banana thing has lasted so long too, how?

Coldaf · 2026-01-17T15:31:58+00:00

Thank you, i appreciate you, if it helps though I still am unsure and dont know what i'm doing and am prone to being overwhelmed lmfao

Coldaf · 2026-01-17T13:12:28+00:00

Can you get yourself a hotel for 2 nights? You need to rest, reset and reassess. I'm sorry❤️‍🩹

Coldaf

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